“We must develop the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies.” Martin Luther King

For the past few weeks, I have thought a lot about forgiveness. What does it mean to be forgiven? How does forgiveness help the person doing the forgiving? Finally, how does one come to the decision to forgive another person? I believe there is so much in the act of letting go of hurt feelings and letting bygones be bygones. Each person deals with this basic human act in their own way. There are a lot of varying answers for these questions, which could be debated, but I want to discuss the act in and of itself.

Forgiveness lends itself into validation. A wrong has been done. There is validation in the act to admitting the wrong. A person is letting that act go (but not forgotten) by asking for forgiveness. See, it starts to haunt a person, if they themself don’t have the opportunity to ask for forgiveness. In the end, it’s for both parties involved.

Even in a virtual world, I have seen many people struggle with the act of forgiving. I am no stranger with making a mistake. I believe that even some come to this complex wonderful world to deal with inner demons, which collide with others. Some may not even know of the personal struggles that someone grapples with on a daily basis. In the end, some one makes a mistake and has to either do the forgiving or move past it–while learning a valuable lesson.

In my second life, I had one defining moment. I interrupted the peace. A mistake was made. It left me forever changed. I have been the criminal. I have been the culprit. I also interrupted my own peace and haven in second life–not once but twice. My personal demons were on the door step. And here I sit contemplating forgiveness. Because in the end, I have to forgive myself to move forward. I also have to find my place again here. One moment can change everything sometimes, so be careful with your words and actions.

If you do make a mistake that can’t be forgiven by another, you may have to learn to forgive yourself. Forgiving yourself is also loving yourself enough to admit that you have evil and good within you, but it also gives you the ability to move forward. I’m still learning how to do this myself.

So be good to one another.


Head–Catwa–Annie by Catwa.Clip (catwa.clip)
Body–Maitreya –Lara by Onyx LeShelle
Hair–Bold and Beauty –Nicole by Jourdan McMillan (jourdanmcmillan)
Gloves–Zenith –Medic gloves–Maitreya by 喵 仙 人 (miffyhoi.rosca)–whimisical event
Hat–Zenith –Medic Hat by 喵 仙 人 (miffyhoi.rosca)–whimsical event
Dress–Zenith -Medic Dress Maitreya Rare by 喵 仙 人 (miffyhoi.rosca) –whimisical event
First Aid Belt-Zenith-Medic first aid belt–Maitreya by 喵 仙 人 (miffyhoi.rosca)–whimisical event
Lashes–L’Etre –Angel by Dᴀᴠɪᴅ Cᴏᴏᴘᴇʀ (dam1710)
Skin–DeeTalez–Susanna by (steffi.villota)
Eyes–IKON–Triumph Eyes–Poltergeist by Ikon Innovia






I’ve been so busy in world and in my real life. Despite all my running around, I’ve been able to go to a few places. I went to Tres Chic and The Secret Affair. I was not disappointed. I found a few cute outfits and I even talked to a few people inworld. I’ve been enjoying myself. Second life should be enjoyable. I’ve been working on my own definition of how to enjoy myself inworld. We each define our time differently. It makes the world go round, but I digress.

First, I want to talk about the title of this blog for a moment. I named it after a Halsey song called Control. I’ve been listening to her music a lot lately–thanks to a dear friend suggesting it to me. There’s a lyric…..”I’m meaner than my demons.” I can’t get it out of my head, because it is so true. I’ve also had many conversations about demons in general–figuratively–not literally. It holds truth. We are meaner than our demons and we can beat them–sometimes we need a little help though. Any way, lets talk about the important stuff–clothes.

I found this wonderful dress at Tres Chic. It’s by Villena. I’ve been a fan of Villena for quite some time, so I’m very glad to see them at an event. I really hope to see them at future events. The dress is called  the cut out dress. It exposes my midriff and comes with this lovely skirt, which cuts off around the knees. It’s sexy and perfect for the night on the town.

Then, I went to The Secret Affair. I found these rings by ieQED called fanciful rings. I was lucky and won the claw ring and the fox ring. I have a very good friend who is indeed a fox. Sometimes I like to put little things on my avatar that represent something meaningful. So I am bound to wear these rings for a very long time.

I finished off this look with hair in the back of my inventory closet and a pair of sunglasses won at a previous Gacha event. You can find this hair at the main store at Exile. If you check out Rowne, they may still have the gacha for these sunglasses. They are a big staple in my wardrobe. I wear them quite bit.

Okay my blog readers, I’m keeping this a bit short, because I am going out of town yet again. My real life keeps me busy at times. BUT I’ll be back before you know it. So Au Revoir.

Be good to one another!





Head–Catwa–Annie by Catwa.Clip (catwa.clip)
Body–Maitreya –Lara by Onyx LeShelle
Hair–Exile –Stone Cold Seduction by Kavar Cleanslate
Sunglasses–Rowne –Rowne Actress–Gacha by Donutella Versace (couleur.latoe)
Dress–Tres Chic –Cut Out Dress by Kambi (villena.swansen)
Purse–Eclat –Flap Over Clutch–free gift by Kambi (villena.swansen)
Rings–ieQED–Fanciful Rings–Gacha by Victory Fist (sigifaust)
Eyelashes–L’Etre–Angel Lashes #10 by Dᴀᴠɪᴅ Cᴏᴏᴘᴇʀ (dam1710)
Eyes–IKON –Triumph Eyes by Ikon Innovia
Skin–DeeTalez–Susanna by (steffi.villota)

Rings can be found at the Secret affair
Dress can be found at Tres Chic and the purse is a free gift

Happy Hour

Happy Hour

“Everything has its wonders, even darkness and silence, and I learn, whatever state I may be in, therein to be content.” Helen Keller

I hope everyone is having a great week! Some may have noticed my tardiness in this blog post. I had a whirl wind of a week and was unable to blog. I would make it to my computer, but alas real life took over. I had no choice but to follow it. It happens.

Some may have noticed my pictures were getting a bit darker than usual. I wasn’t in a good place and I needed to breathe. I was trying to find happiness in the darkness, so this quote was perfect. I’m a bit cheerier, but I’m not quite out of the woods. I’m getting there though.

Despite being busy and wrestling with some stuff in my real life, I was able to make it into collabor88 a few days ago. Boy those lines are long, but I got lucky. I found this romper from Pixicat called Care Free Playsuit in flower. I absolutely adore this outfit. I can see myself wearing my romper this season quite a bit. I also found this hair by Exile called After Party. I adore it. It’s soft and wispy. If you like this look, check out the credits below.

So this blog is a bit shorter than my normal blog, but I’ve got to run. Real life calls unfortunately.

Before I go though, I would like to say congratulations to my dear friend Matzu and his boyfriend. They took the plunge and partnered. Congrats to you both again. I wish you both happiness!

Be kind to one another! Cheers!

xoxo, Violet


Head–Catwa –Annie by Catwa.Clip (catwa.clip)
Body–Maitreya –Lara by Onyx LeShelle
Hair–Exile –Afterparty by Kavar Cleanslate—Collabor88
Romper–Pixicat–Carefree playsuits by areve–Collabor88
Eye Lashes–L’Etre –Angel Lashes #10 by Dᴀᴠɪᴅ Cᴏᴏᴘᴇʀ (dam1710)
Eyes–IKON –Triumph Eyes–Poltergeist by Ikon Innovia
Skin/makeup–DeeTalez–Susanna by (steffi.villota)
Pose–{Imeka} Lulu pose–by NatiWilliams
Location–The Trace

Heart Beat

Heart Beat


“Some days are just bad days, that’s all. You have to experience sadness to know happiness. and I remind myself that not every day is going to be a good day, that’s just the way it is! ” Dita Von Teese

I am no stranger to having a bad day, but sometimes a bad day can really get you down. I am no exception. This week has been so very busy. By the time I sat down to blog and tried to escape a bit of my woe, I was feeling a bit blue. And like they say, life imitates art. I’m in a big funk and can’t escape it–which explains my black clothes. However, it also reminds me that I have a heart beat. To live is to feel. So maybe, I’m lucky for every emotion and every bad day.

My bad day led me to a quote from one of my favorite people–Dita Von Teese. I’ve followed her for some time. She said it best and reminded me that bad days are an evil necessity–for without a bad day, a good day wouldn’t taste as sweet. I like Dita Von Teese because she is the epitome of sex, and glamor–and she’s hot. Oh my, I’ve talked too much. I think it’s time to talk about my photo.

I didn’t go to the latest events to get this outfit. I rummaged in my closet and found some of my favorite items. I can’t even remember buying these shoes from Moda, but I wear them constantly. I also bought the shirt from LazyBones. I have to say that this is one really great tank top. It comes with three different versions–bra/harness, sheer/harness, and the tank top/harness. You can change the harness to black, gray, or white. The bra also comes in six different colors–black, gray, white, pink, green, and purple. The metals come in black, bronze, and silver. There are so many options with this shirt! I bought my hair from Truth long ago–Lunara, and I purchased my leggings from Rowne–Maja leggings. All of these items are some of my favorite things.

I’m going to wash away this week with some much needed TLC tomorrow and hope for brighter days.

Collabor88 opens next week, it will be surely something to look forward to. To find any of these items, look down below at my credits.


Be Kind To One Another!


Head–Catwa–Annie by Catwa.Clip (catwa.clip)
Body–Maitreya –Lara by Onyx LeShelle
Hands–Slink –Relaxed by Siddean Munro
Feet–Slink –High by Siddean Munro
Tank–LazyBones –Abraxas Tank by ʏᴜмɪ ᴀsᴜᴋᴀɪ (yumi.katana)
Shoes–Moda–Eris Destruction by Eσηlḁ Ʀęiɠɳʐ-Kαoṩ (eonla)
Leggings–Rowne –Maja Leggings. by Fashionboi Landar
Tattoo–White Widow–Midnight in Paris by Julie Hastings
Lipstick–Nova –Gracia Lipstick by ηоcтєα ѕαℓαιη (noctea.despres)
Hair–Truth –Lunara by Truth Hawks
Eyes–IKON–Triumph Eyes–Poltergeist by Ikon Innovia
Eyelashes–L’Etre –Angel Lashes #10 by Dᴀᴠɪᴅ Cᴏᴏᴘᴇʀ (dam1710)
Skin–DeeTalez –Susanna by (steffi.villota)