“Do not fear mistakes. You will know failure. Continue to reach out.” Benjamin Franklin
I found this quote at a time contemplating my own mistakes in all worlds. Benjamin Franklin simply meant that mistakes and failures don’t ruin us. They give us opportunities to grow and move on from them. They teach us something about ourselves good and bad. I made a mistake this week, but not the kind where you left your keys on the counter instead of the key ring. It was this blaring mistake with awful consequences. I ended up hurting my friend in the process, which I’ll always be sorry for. I never want to hurt people, yet I do.
Instead of self pity for my own mistakes, I’d rather take a minute to thank people instead, because life is not always about me. Life is about people. The struggles and adversity that people endure becomes a piece of each person–yet does not define them. I’m thankful for a friend who taught me that lesson. Thank you Yumi. Sometimes it is the kindness that people show to one another. They seem to be happy by making others happy. Thank you Manky. It’s the people who spend endless amount of time getting to know their closest friend and teaching them about editing photos—and even how you work this bloody thing called second life. I wouldn’t know how to edit my clothes without you–or how to dress at times. Thank you Matzu. Then, there are those whose life is defined by silliness and a willingness to say anything in hopes of a laugh. The ones who look up events and make you excited. Thank you Kira. Finally, it’s the role-players who lift the spirit of a person behind a screen struggling. I’ll leave that one nameless. I’m thankful for this person none the less. Thank you to the friends who have kept me company in the late hours/early morning by inviting me out to see them dj and host. I love supporting people who love music just as much as I do. I get to shake my booty with the likes of Stormy, Pixie, Lilly, River and Byte. Thank you Mattuh for your funny things that you send me. Thank you Pizzy for sending me a Christmas card on a tough day. You are all an important part of my second life.
I know that all of these people have real lives. They have their own unique struggles. Yet despite all of that, they make time for others in some way. Hopefully by my own screw ups, I learn to appreciate people more and make others feel listened to–and validated. Maybe just maybe, I will learn to whine less and be there for others more. Hopefully, I will learn to shut my mouth and just listen. I even bought a mask to help me with that problem! I’m not a perfect person. I’m flawed. I make mistakes, but I have a good heart–or at least I’d like to think so. We’re all bound to make an error in judgement, but like Benjamin Franklin said those mistakes don’t ruin us. They give us an opportunity to grow and to become better. I can only hope that I am there more for others because the world is bigger than Violet. I hear you. I see you. You are not alone. I’m sending every one of you a virtual hug. Be kind and good to yourselves in your waking hours, because I do care about you.
Finally, I get to talk a little bit about the above photo. I went to Uber two days ago with one of my closest friends. We found this top and mask from Vinyl. I just had to buy it. The mask is called Neo Meddy Mask. The bra and turtleneck are called Scars. Both are available in multiple colors and designs. You will just have to check them out for yourselves!
See credits down below for styling.
Be kind to one another. Cheers.
–Simone Bento by Thora Charron
–Lara by Onyx LeShelle
–Sugar by Helyanwe Vindaloo
–Simple Ears by 菊之介王子 (kikunosuke.eel)
–Skinny Jeans by Tyr Sinister (tyr.rozenblum)
–Charm Eyes by Ikon Innovia
–Neo Meddy Mask by lιттle тoaѕт (sukoshitosuto)
–Scars Bra by lιттle тoaѕт (sukoshitosuto)
–Scars Turtleneck by lιттle тoaѕт (sukoshitosuto)
–Prohand Bento by VistaMesh