Change Of Plans

Change Of Plans


“A good traveler has no fixed plans, and is not intent on arriving.” Lao Tzu

Whew, this blog was hard to write. I planned on writing it the other day but Flickr went down. Then, I planned to take the photo soon afterwards and I had issues logging in. I was intent on creating this earlier, but life had another journey for me. Like the picture says, I had changed plans and I had nothing to replace those plans with–so I was forced to be a good traveler.

According to Lao Tzu, I’m a good traveler. I am not living a life that was planned in second life or real life. Just like my avatar’s expressions, it left me a little angry and frustrated. But I believe everything happens for a reason. I also believe when one door closes another one opens. It’s hard to see the light of options, but they are there.

I needed a road with no destination and I needed to talk to the travelers along my path. My second life has been that road. The residents have been those travelers. Some never understood the person behind the keyboard. Not every person is going to understand you, because they weren’t there for all the parts of your life that shaped you. Nor do people live inside your head and know how things effect you.

Some may have noticed my profile changed. I made declarations that I haven’t made in the past. Those statements are important to me–not just in sl but in rl too. I’ve hid a lot in my real life in regards to sexuality. Being asked that question is like asking me to do calculus. It makes me sweat and feel the pressure. I’ve met a lot of people in my second life journey that helped me …be okay with me. They may never know that, but they have. I’ve been extremely defensive when certain topics have been brought up inworld. I’ve even hurt people because of my own hang ups and I’ve cried about it. Instead of being a calm person, I was defensive. I didn’t know why, until recently.

I won’t get into the details, because they are my own. However, I will say that putting that pick in my profile is the closest thing that I’ll ever do to coming out and into the light of day. I hated questions about sexuality. I had to go on a journey with a few residents and talk to them–and get to know them. In knowing them, I started to be okay with myself. I still have a very long way to go. One day, I’ll be okay with that question. But for now, I’m just thankful for the journey.

During that journey, I went to the Gacha garden and I took a trip to Blueberry for one of their current releases. I won this wonderful nail polish by Alme. Then, I bought this wonderful cardigan and boots from Blueberry. I love this company and I am way over due for blogging them. The male in the pick above is wearing a peacoat from Gabriel and is available at this months TMD.

I want to add something. I debated adding it, but I think it’s important. I need to stand up for myself–something that I’m not very good at doing. People will talk and say things. I always say let them talk, if they don’t have anything better to do. Love doesn’t die over night. If it does, you never loved them to begin with. I love my friends who I grow close with–which does not always happen in this big little world. I can count those friends on one hand. Even when things are over, I still love people. I wear my heart on my sleeve and I don’t hide from my emotions. Words are more than words. Hearts do break. Sticks and stones is crap. Words hurt people to the core. And there’s no reason for it. And I believe in turning the other cheek. It helps everyone in the end. I will always love people that stepped onto my path and showed me love in return. I love my ex friends and friends on good terms. Love thy enemy.

I am you and you are me. I don’t want to cause hurt on others, because I would not want others to hurt me–make me cry and sink.

Be kind to others. Treat others how you would like to be treated. Use social media to grow as a person and laugh–not to spew hatred. A friend once told me that your past is not a life sentence. He was right.

I am not defined by one bad day.

Be kind to one another and to yourself.

Violet XOXO



Hair–Doux–Juniper by Dᴀᴠɪᴅ Cᴏᴏᴘᴇʀ (dam1710)
Ears-Mandala –Steking Ears by 菊之介王子 (kikunosuke.eel)
Eyeshadow–Veechi–Glitter cut crease by Aiubrey Snoodle
Lips–DeeTalez–High Gloss Lips by (steffi.villota)
Nails–Alme–Nudes by Chloe Electra (chloeelectra) —–Gacha Garden Nov 2017
Necklace–Zenith–Leaf Necklace by 喵 仙 人 (miffyhoi.rosca)
Cardigan set–Blueberry–Mill by Blueberry (blueberryxx)–Current Release
Boots/stockings–Blueberry –Mill by Blueberry (blueberryxx)–Current Release
Eyes–IKON–Charm Eyes by Ikon Innovia


Location–My house

Pose–DB Poses –true friends don’t leave you alone by Dᴇɴɴʏ Bᴀʟʟʏʜᴏᴏ (denny.ballyhoo)

The dude in the pick with me

Ears–Mandala–Steking Ears by 菊之介王子 (kikunosuke.eel)
Head–Catwa–Daniel by Catwa.Clip (catwa.clip)
Body–Belleza–Jake by Tricky Boucher
Peacoat–::GB::–Jk by Takuya Jinn—TMD Nov 2017
Eyes–IKON–Triumph by Ikon Innovia
Hair–Stealthic –Reach–by Hunter (stealthic)
Hairbase–Stealthic –Male Hairbase by Hunter (stealthic)





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