Red Morn

 

 

“I enjoy life when things are happening. I don’t care if it’s good things or bad things. That means you’re alive.” Joan Rivers

Sometimes late at night, you hope for a beautiful morning. I was able to capture one with foxcity windlights. I have to admit. I really love these windlights. They’re growing on me, just like the feeling of spring. I am so over winter and I am ready for some spring flowers and showers. To feel a little warmth, I changed my land over completely to spring, which meant that I needed some spring clothes.

So I dug in the closet and found this wonderful number from Eliavah. It’s just this really cute, and flirty summer dress. I love it set against the sunflowers.

You can find the other items at various places across the grid. The scooter in the back is from DRD, another favorite of mine. The scooter is appropriately named scrappy scooter. It comes with two versions. One is covered with bumpers stickers and a clean version. Lamb made this great hair. It’s called potion and also now available at Uber. You can find the dress at Eliavah’s mainstore or on the market. Finally, my hair piece is from LODE, which is available at The Chapter Four. For further information, please look down below at my credits.

P.s. This blog is a little short due to not feeling so well today. Hope you all can forgive me.

Until next time.

Be kind to one another,

Cheers

Violet XOXO

Credits

Hair–Lamb–Potion–by Lamb Bellic—Uber February 2018
Hair piece–LODE–Mimosa–by Chirzaka RV (chirzaka.vlodovic)–The Chapter Four, February 2018
Necklace–Mandala –KAHUKUIHUK by 菊之介王子 (kikunosuke.eel)
Dress–Eliavah–Penny Dress by e l i a v a h ღ (eliavahazaleia)
Lipgloss–Izzie’s –Daphne Lipgloss by Izzie Button
Scooter–DRD–Scrappy Scooter– by DRD (deathrowdesigns) Uber February 2018

 

Bitch, I’m fabulous.

 

 

“Time flies over us, but leaves its shadow behind.” Nathaniel Hawthorne

Whew, this blog post is a little late, but I’ve been a little busy with buying a home in my real life. I also desperately needed some time away from blogging, so I took it. I’ve had time on my mind in the last few months. I’m moving from a place that I’ve stayed at for a long time. I know the memories of my current home will definitely leave a shadow. I have a lot of changes in the coming year–new home, and an impending surgery. My living situation and physical self are both sure to change. There’s no doubt in my mind that the past has left a shadow on me. Second life is a bit like that too. Our past leaves a shadow with us. Sometimes that shadow is darker or lighter, depending on the past.

The shadow of the past can make the future scary. We take less risks. We think twice about the decisions that we make. The shadow of our past is always a part of us, whether we like it or not. It becomes part of our narrative. It effects us. I am no different. I’m effected. I make decisions based on my own experiences in all worlds.

In the past, I loved feeling glamorous. I’d slip on my black heels and form hugging LBD and I put on the sunglasses. I walked with an attitude of sophistication and a fake bravado. It was part of my second life to feel the sparkle and shine. What you say and do can become a self fulfilling prophecy. And I felt a little  bit of that sparkle inworld at times too. It was one of my favorite things in my second life. But in the last few months, I put away the heels. I took off the glamorous dress. I put them in a trunk and I didn’t look at them. I put away the fancy dresses. I slipped into lingerie and trendy street clothes. I kept my head down. The sparkle and shine dulled. I stopped watching shows in my real life…of things that I enjoyed. I sank. BUT……..

I was reminded that… “Bitch, I’m fabulous.” Someone told me to look at that shadow of all the things that I once loved and adored. They pulled out the heels and LBD. They asked why it was buried deep in that second life inventory never to see the light again. I was about to give up things that I loved and just shut everything out. They pulled out the furniture and said… you love to decorate. You should bring this out and this… and this. Truthfully, I was going through too much stuff to look at it. I feared a future with that bravado. I feared that it would take me to the same places as in my past. But I can’t make decisions based out of fear. I can’t let it control me. I have to be bigger than my shadow.

Yesterday, I put on a new LBD and started doing things that I enjoyed in rl too. I mean… Lucifer is a good show and I need to be able to talk about it with friends–thank you Cuore for reminding me. Also thank you for reminding me that… “Bitch, I’m f*ckin fabulous. We all need to be reminded of that sometimes. Your shadow is part of your narrative, but it doesn’t tower over you. You’re bigger than your past. You’re more than the past–heyyyyy Latrice Royale. And with that, I have some episodes of RuPaul’s All Stars to catch up on. Because if you watch it, I want to talk about it.

I am not my past. I will not be defined by it. I will move forward, because BITCH I’M FABULOUS. We all need that reminder from time to time. We are awesome. Don’t let people bury your sparkle. You dig that shit up and dust it off with couture. Then, you rock it like the fuckin queen that you are.

To help me remind myself of who the hell I am, I went to tres chic and found this black dress–and glasses! The dress is by .avale and the glasses are by Nanika. I love this look so much. I paired it with hair from Doux and heels from Ison. I also put on some nail polish from Alme. And to finish the look off, I put on some lipstick from Studio Exposure. This outfit includes some of my favorite companies. I love and adore it. The glasses are a re-release, but sometimes pairing old with new just works. If you like my outfit, please check my credits down below.

And remember ….fuck anyone that makes you feel anything else than fabulous. You can quote me on that one. Also, as you can see in the background.. I did finally finish that massive project of decorating. So I will be handing out tp-s to see it. I worked hard on that land. I put a lot of love into it.

Now..put love into yourself and shine.

Cheers, Vi

 

Credits

Dress–avale..–Nya by Amara Myoo–Tres Chic February 2018
Sunglasses–::Nanika::–Inna Sunglasses–Tres Chic February 2018
Hair–Doux –Mya by Dᴀᴠɪᴅ Cᴏᴏᴘᴇʀ (dam1710)
Nail polish–Alme–Dark Passions by Chloe Electra (chloeelectra)
Lipstick–The Studio Exposure –Love Me Baby Lipstick Vers 1. by ASH (ashamti)

 

 

Happy Valentine’s Day

 

 

“If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they’re yours; if they don’t they never were.” Richard Bach

“Love is when the other person’s happiness is more important than your own.” H. Jackson Brown, Jr

When I read this first quote, I think of Mister Big in Sex in The City.  I think about how he would return time and time again to Carry. It’s like that. Any kind of love is like that…when an animal returns to you after you set them free on the leash. Or when your children come back home, after being on their own. I’ve thought about that first quote about love, all of my adult life. I’ve had people who should have loved me that were kin who didn’t return back to me. It hurts. It’s amazing how much love can turn into hurt. BUT, it’s also amazing what the power of love can inspire. They are two very opposite feelings. Today, we celebrate the power of love.

I’ve always kind of enjoyed this holiday. However, I never enjoyed the over commercialism of it. Rather, I would sit with my mother and watch a good movie, with chocolate, as a child. I would spend time with my cats and loved ones as an adult. I’m content sending a text, or card. I enjoyed every hug, cuddle, and show of affection. We all need that feeling of being loved and cared for. It helps us to feel whole. Sometimes people do that for you in second life. It may be different people for different seasons, but they all have their importance.

Yet, sometimes, you have to set people free because it’s the most loving thing you can do. You have to love them enough to care about their happiness and well being. Sometimes, for people to be happy, they have to find it in other places. It is one of the hardest things a person can do–or perhaps it’s the hardest thing that this person behind the computer can do. When you see a person unhappy but staying in a situation where it does not bring them happiness, you have to set them free. We all deserve to smile at the end of the day. The hardest person that I have ever had to set free was my father, so I’m kind of an expert in that realm. He was much happier with another family. But I’m happy for him. If I can be happy for him, I surely can be happy for others. Sometimes when you’re struggling with life lessons and you walk through them in second life at the same time, it can be heart breaking. BUT, there are always those people who step in your life and love on you, when you really need them.

I have been exceptionally lucky to have people love on me in both worlds, when I really needed a real or virtual hug, a shoulder to cry on, or time to just vent. I also wanted to add that precious memories of fun happy times will always be precious. I don’t take for granted the people who sit with me and talk, because I know how precious their time, love, and care really is. As they say, some people have a longer infinity than others. So it’s really important to love on people, while we can. It also helps to sooth an aching soul. So where ever you are today love on everyone, because you just don’t know who really needs it. After this post today, I will return to more normal posts about the events that live in the virtual realm, but I thought this post was super important. So I wrote it for who ever is listening out there.

And if you’re listening,….. I saw a few people wearing this inworld. My lingerie comes from Collabor88. My hair is also from this event–Stealthic. I always RAVE about STEALTHIC hair, because the textures are amazing. I have to say that these two items have to be my favorite. Also this great makeup comes from Studio Exposure. They are a fab company and if you haven’t tried them, then you should.  For more information, please check out my credits down below.

Credits

Hair–Stealthic –Passion by Hunter (stealthic)
Bra–Curemore –Noirette by Moon Wickham (psyqueen)
Garter–Curemore Noirette by Moon Wickham (psyqueen)
Pantie–Curemore –Noirette by Moon Wickham (psyqueen)
Lips–The Studio Exposure –vanilla bean by ASH (ashamti)
eyes–The Studio Exposure –forever eyeshadow by ASH (ashamti)

Naked

 

“One night, close your eyes and forget your woe, talk to me dear, and tell me of the poets of yesteryear. Tell me a story to drown in my cup, and let your words touch my soul down to the bellows of laughter. Give me a dream and let me leave you as a whole person to dream of yet not of this life but in other realms” by Me

I made this quote thinking about the dreams that I create in a creative world. It is made by us and played/lived by us–created by us. So like the one tarot card states you have to look upon the things you created and evaluate them. I’m no different. I’ve created my own world. I tell stories within emotes–sometimes better than other times.

In the last few months, I’ve slowly been happier. I was healing. I was doing things in all my worlds to slowly be okay from one of the hardest years of my life inworld and in real life–buying a house in rl, emoting, and finding calmness etc. But sometimes, you have to do things that you really don’t want to do. I really didn’t want to out myself, since I was enjoying myself thoroughly–emoting on a rp sim.

I outed myself as an alt. Why would you out yourself? Well taking pictures as two people (sometimes 3, which I don’t recommend btw, slows your computer way down) isn’t always easy, especially with medication running through your entire system. I was giving wrong Im’s to people and I wasn’t good at keeping track of who is who any longer. I take pictures of my own avatars.  I do it for many reasons, sometimes the simplest of ones. I want to be alone in a creative universe and take a picture alone to get lost in the many hours of music that I listen to in a day. I do it to not interrupt or disrupt people. I have many reasons for doing it. I know others in this world enjoy taking pictures of themselves too. I am not the first and won’t be the last.

I really didn’t want to out myself because I knew it would complicate things, in a really uncomplicated situation. I emote, therefore I am. I have my fun, dressing, shopping, and creating a vision of my own. We all do. It really is as simple as this answer. I didn’t want to hide because I couldn’t any more. And I can’t hide. I will admit inworld.. hey that other avi is me too, because I am not well enough to keep a conversation between the two of me, while posing. It’s too hard.

I’ve had a lot of fun these past few months, a lot of fun actually. I wouldn’t want to give it up. I’ve also met some really fun people. I’ve enjoyed myself. And I hope people find that here for themselves. I fell into a well of the blues and I slowly crawled out of it. I’m stronger today than I was yesterday. I’m happier in general. And I make no apologies for emoting and listening to music, while shopping. I will say that I am not 8 years old like my alt would suggest. I was given that avi as a way to heal and I have. I made friends and I can laugh a little more. It was the intended purpose.

I’m sorry for existing……. except, I can’t apologize for being alive and being happy. I can’t do it. I’m alive today. I try to enjoy as much time as I have, because surgery is scary and life is not a guarantee. I think anyone going into medical stuff knows that so much can go wrong, but so much can go right too! I am enjoying my worlds and trying to see the good. I try to see the good in everyone, even at a person’s ugliest, because I know there’s good in every person–except that really murderous psycho dude in that one move (I leave this open for all those great psycho killers in the movies). I would have to dig deep for that one :P. So for now, I’m happy and content. For now I am naked and exposed–and vulnerable and I’m okay with it.

So if you want to feel a bit naked, I highly recommend The Fetish Fair and Romp. I spent so much there. I’m wearing the R.icielli bra, harness, panty combo. I’m also wearing hair from Doux, Swanepoel and a blindfold by erratic. Sometimes it’s nice to pair old with new. Alisha, the blond, my other avi, and yes she is mine….is wearing the Salt and Pepper harness Tam from Romp. I love both of these events. I hope you do too.

Be kind to one another.

Cheers

Violet XOXO

credits

Bra/Harness/Panty–R.icielli –Shelley by Vliet Ricielli Kaur (vliet.troncon)–Fetish Fair 2018
ears–Mandala–Steking Ears by 菊之介王子 (kikunosuke.eel)
Hair–Doux –Swanepoel Hairstyle by Dᴀᴠɪᴅ Cᴏᴏᴘᴇʀ (dam1710)
Blindfold–Erratic–Chris by erratic (erratic.rain)

Blond

Harness–Salt&Pepper –Tam by Salt (xxsaltandpepperxx)–Romp 2018
bottom–Fawny–Submissiveness by Stephen Del Rey (akirakiyoi) Rare–gacha
Top–Fawny–Submissiveness by Stephen Del Rey (akirakiyoi) Rare–gacha

Pose–The Owl–Taste me by ..::ŤڪзĎ ȻℜεʌтίøŃş::.. (hanti.loxely)

 

Cozy Memories

 

The art of being happy lies in the power of extracting happiness from common things. Henry Ward Beecher

I’ve had a whirl wind day in second life. It seems like so many people were struggling with being happy today. I even had a whole conversation about being happy with someone. A year ago, I wasn’t, but I hadn’t really come to terms with certain parts of my life.

Then over Christmas, my views on happiness changed with one single day. I take opioids to manage pain. I try not to take them, but sometimes I have to. One night, I got really sick. I traveled that day by plane. When I got to my destination, my medication made me sick six times. In that moment, I knew that just living life was a gift in itself sometimes. I face surgery in the near future. I have no idea what will happen to me. But I know that today, despite every challenge and adversity, I am happy. I’m happy to be alive and enjoy the love that’s around me in my real life. Sometimes, it really is the small things in life that bring immense joy and happiness–pizza night, dancing to a good song, singing loudly in the shower, or just taking a walk on a really nice day. Sometimes you have to be thankful for the little things in life.

I’ve had some challenges to my happiness, but I still find joy. Since this blog is about second life, I’d like to share with you what makes me happy here. I really love decorating and taking pictures. I have always loved decorating. I was a big fan of Nate Berkus in my real life. I’ve been looking at furniture in real life and second life forever. To have the opportunity to change my land, house and furniture is truly a dream. In real life, there is no way that I can rearrange furniture, so it’s definitely a fantasy. Second life has definitely taught me some things too about decor, which is extremely helpful–even now.

I also love fashion. I grew up reading the latest Vogue or Cosmo. I watched award shows and I enjoyed seeing the designers creations. I love fashion in second life, because I have more ability to play with clothes here than say rl. Also I haven’t worn heels in two years. I may never wear heels again. There’s a lot of things that I enjoy here. I get asked if I’m happy in second life. Yes I am because I don’t have to cancel on friends, if I have a rough day with pain. I can still log in and be social. I found things in this world that make me happy. We all have to find that one thing in this virtual world that brings us joy.

Speaking of joy, the Blush event just started and you know how much I like everything pink. I also LOVE Blueberry like a lot of people across the grid. They are having a 50% off sale until this Friday. You’ll have to hurry if you want to catch the deals. My Hair is actually from The Blush event from another favorite of mine Eliavah. I would also like to thank Eliavah for helping out some friends of mine who were in a pickle. Thank you for helping out!! If you would like any of my styling info, please look at the credits down below.

Credits

Hair–Eliavah –Cinnabun Hair by e l i a v a h ღ (eliavahazaleia)—The Blush Event–Jan-Feb. 2018
Dress/cropped sweater–blueberry –Laura by Blueberry (blueberryxx)–50% Feb. 2, 2018
Body–Maitreya -Lara– by Onyx LeShelle