Happy Valentine’s Day

 

Love is when the other person's happiness is more important than your own. H. Jackson Brown, Jr

 

“If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they’re yours; if they don’t they never were.” Richard Bach

“Love is when the other person’s happiness is more important than your own.” H. Jackson Brown, Jr
When I read this first quote, I think of Mister Big in Sex in The City.  I think about how he would return time and time again to Carry. It’s like that. Any kind of love is like that…when an animal returns to you after you set them free on the leash. Or when your children come back home, after being on their own. I’ve thought about that first quote about love, all of my adult life. I’ve had people who should have loved me that were kin who didn’t return back to me. It hurts. It’s amazing how much love can turn into hurt. BUT, it’s also amazing what the power of love can inspire. They are two very opposite feelings. Today, we celebrate the power of love.
I’ve always kind of enjoyed this holiday. However, I never enjoyed the over commercialism of it. Rather, I would sit with my mother and watch a good movie, with chocolate, as a child. I would spend time with my cats and loved ones as an adult. I’m content sending a text, or card. I enjoyed every hug, cuddle, and show of affection. We all need that feeling of being loved and cared for. It helps us to feel whole. Sometimes people do that for you in second life. It may be different people for different seasons, but they all have their importance.
Yet, sometimes, you have to set people free because it’s the most loving thing you can do. You have to love them enough to care about their happiness and well being. Sometimes, for people to be happy, they have to find it in other places. It is one of the hardest things a person can do–or perhaps it’s the hardest thing that this person behind the computer can do. When you see a person unhappy but staying in a situation where it does not bring them happiness, you have to set them free. We all deserve to smile at the end of the day. The hardest person that I have ever had to set free was my father, so I’m kind of an expert in that realm. He was much happier with another family. But I’m happy for him. If I can be happy for him, I surely can be happy for others. Sometimes when you’re struggling with life lessons and you walk through them in second life at the same time, it can be heart breaking. BUT, there are always those people who step in your life and love on you, when you really need them.
I have been exceptionally lucky to have people love on me in both worlds, when I really needed a real or virtual hug, a shoulder to cry on, or time to just vent. I also wanted to add that precious memories of fun happy times will always be precious. I don’t take for granted the people who sit with me and talk, because I know how precious their time, love, and care really is. As they say, some people have a longer infinity than others. So it’s really important to love on people, while we can. It also helps to sooth an aching soul. So where ever you are today love on everyone, because you just don’t know who really needs it. After this post today, I will return to more normal posts about the events that live in the virtual realm, but I thought this post was super important. So I wrote it for who ever is listening out there.
And if you’re listening,….. I saw a few people wearing this inworld. My lingerie comes from Collabor88. My hair is also from this event–Stealthic. I always RAVE about STEALTHIC hair, because the textures are amazing. I have to say that these two items have to be my favorite. Also this great makeup comes from Studio Exposure. They are a fab company and if you haven’t tried them, then you should.  For more information, please check out my credits down below.
Credits
Hair–Stealthic –Passion by Hunter (stealthic)
Bra–Curemore –Noirette by Moon Wickham (psyqueen)
Garter–Curemore Noirette by Moon Wickham (psyqueen)
Pantie–Curemore –Noirette by Moon Wickham (psyqueen)
Lips–The Studio Exposure –vanilla bean by ASH (ashamti)
eyes–The Studio Exposure –forever eyeshadow by ASH (ashamti)
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Naked

Naked

 

“One night, close your eyes and forget your woe, talk to me dear, and tell me of the poets of yesteryear. Tell me a story to drown in my cup, and let your words touch my soul down to the bellows of laughter. Give me a dream and let me leave you as a whole person to dream of yet not of this life but in other realms” by Me

I made this quote thinking about the dreams that I create in a creative world. It is made by us and played/lived by us–created by us. So like the one tarot card states you have to look upon the things you created and evaluate them. I’m no different. I’ve created my own world. I tell stories within emotes–sometimes better than other times.

In the last few months, I’ve slowly been happier. I was healing. I was doing things in all my worlds to slowly be okay from one of the hardest years of my life inworld and in real life–buying a house in rl, emoting, and finding calmness etc. But sometimes, you have to do things that you really don’t want to do. I really didn’t want to out myself, since I was enjoying myself thoroughly–emoting on a rp sim.

I outed myself as an alt. Why would you out yourself? Well taking pictures as two people (sometimes 3, which I don’t recommend btw, slows your computer way down) isn’t always easy, especially with medication running through your entire system. I was giving wrong Im’s to people and I wasn’t good at keeping track of who is who any longer. I take pictures of my own avatars.  I do it for many reasons, sometimes the simplest of ones. I want to be alone in a creative universe and take a picture alone to get lost in the many hours of music that I listen to in a day. I do it to not interrupt or disrupt people. I have many reasons for doing it. I know others in this world enjoy taking pictures of themselves too. I am not the first and won’t be the last.

I really didn’t want to out myself because I knew it would complicate things, in a really uncomplicated situation. I emote, therefore I am. I have my fun, dressing, shopping, and creating a vision of my own. We all do. It really is as simple as this answer. I didn’t want to hide because I couldn’t any more. And I can’t hide. I will admit inworld.. hey that other avi is me too, because I am not well enough to keep a conversation between the two of me, while posing. It’s too hard.

I’ve had a lot of fun these past few months, a lot of fun actually. I wouldn’t want to give it up. I’ve also met some really fun people. I’ve enjoyed myself. And I hope people find that here for themselves. I fell into a well of the blues and I slowly crawled out of it. I’m stronger today than I was yesterday. I’m happier in general. And I make no apologies for emoting and listening to music, while shopping. I will say that I am not 8 years old like my alt would suggest. I was given that avi as a way to heal and I have. I made friends and I can laugh a little more. It was the intended purpose.

I’m sorry for existing……. except, I can’t apologize for being alive and being happy. I can’t do it. I’m alive today. I try to enjoy as much time as I have, because surgery is scary and life is not a guarantee. I think anyone going into medical stuff knows that so much can go wrong, but so much can go right too! I am enjoying my worlds and trying to see the good. I try to see the good in everyone, even at a person’s ugliest, because I know there’s good in every person–except that really murderous psycho dude in that one move (I leave this open for all those great psycho killers in the movies). I would have to dig deep for that one :P. So for now, I’m happy and content. For now I am naked and exposed–and vulnerable and I’m okay with it.

So if you want to feel a bit naked, I highly recommend The Fetish Fair and Romp. I spent so much there. I’m wearing the R.icielli bra, harness, panty combo. I’m also wearing hair from Doux, Swanepoel and a blindfold by erratic. Sometimes it’s nice to pair old with new. Alisha, the blond, my other avi, and yes she is mine….is wearing the Salt and Pepper harness Tam from Romp. I love both of these events. I hope you do too.

Be kind to one another.

Cheers

Violet XOXO

credits

Bra/Harness/Panty–R.icielli –Shelley by Vliet Ricielli Kaur (vliet.troncon)–Fetish Fair 2018
ears–Mandala–Steking Ears by 菊之介王子 (kikunosuke.eel)
Hair–Doux –Swanepoel Hairstyle by Dᴀᴠɪᴅ Cᴏᴏᴘᴇʀ (dam1710)
Blindfold–Erratic–Chris by erratic (erratic.rain)

Blond

Harness–Salt&Pepper –Tam by Salt (xxsaltandpepperxx)–Romp 2018
bottom–Fawny–Submissiveness by Stephen Del Rey (akirakiyoi) Rare–gacha
Top–Fawny–Submissiveness by Stephen Del Rey (akirakiyoi) Rare–gacha

Pose–The Owl–Taste me by ..::ŤڪзĎ ȻℜεʌтίøŃş::.. (hanti.loxely)

 

Cozy Memories

The art of being happy lies in the power of extracting happiness from common things. Henry Ward Beecher

 

The art of being happy lies in the power of extracting happiness from common things. Henry Ward Beecher

I’ve had a whirl wind day in second life. It seems like so many people were struggling with being happy today. I even had a whole conversation about being happy with someone. A year ago, I wasn’t, but I hadn’t really come to terms with certain parts of my life.

Then over Christmas, my views on happiness changed with one single day. I take opioids to manage pain. I try not to take them, but sometimes I have to. One night, I got really sick. I traveled that day by plane. When I got to my destination, my medication made me sick six times. In that moment, I knew that just living life was a gift in itself sometimes. I face surgery in the near future. I have no idea what will happen to me. But I know that today, despite every challenge and adversity, I am happy. I’m happy to be alive and enjoy the love that’s around me in my real life. Sometimes, it really is the small things in life that bring immense joy and happiness–pizza night, dancing to a good song, singing loudly in the shower, or just taking a walk on a really nice day. Sometimes you have to be thankful for the little things in life.

I’ve had some challenges to my happiness, but I still find joy. Since this blog is about second life, I’d like to share with you what makes me happy here. I really love decorating and taking pictures. I have always loved decorating. I was a big fan of Nate Berkus in my real life. I’ve been looking at furniture in real life and second life forever. To have the opportunity to change my land, house and furniture is truly a dream. In real life, there is no way that I can rearrange furniture, so it’s definitely a fantasy. Second life has definitely taught me some things too about decor, which is extremely helpful–even now.

I also love fashion. I grew up reading the latest Vogue or Cosmo. I watched award shows and I enjoyed seeing the designers creations. I love fashion in second life, because I have more ability to play with clothes here than say rl. Also I haven’t worn heels in two years. I may never wear heels again. There’s a lot of things that I enjoy here. I get asked if I’m happy in second life. Yes I am because I don’t have to cancel on friends, if I have a rough day with pain. I can still log in and be social. I found things in this world that make me happy. We all have to find that one thing in this virtual world that brings us joy.

Speaking of joy, the Blush event just started and you know how much I like everything pink. I also LOVE Blueberry like a lot of people across the grid. They are having a 50% off sale until this Friday. You’ll have to hurry if you want to catch the deals. My Hair is actually from The Blush event from another favorite of mine Eliavah. I would also like to thank Eliavah for helping out some friends of mine who were in a pickle. Thank you for helping out!! If you would like any of my styling info, please look at the credits down below.

Credits

Hair–Eliavah –Cinnabun Hair by e l i a v a h ღ (eliavahazaleia)—The Blush Event–Jan-Feb. 2018
Dress/cropped sweater–blueberry –Laura by Blueberry (blueberryxx)–50% Feb. 2, 2018
Body–Maitreya -Lara– by Onyx LeShelle

 

 

LIT

 

 

I'd rather learn from one bird how to sing than teach ten thousand stars how not to dance. e. e. cummings

 

“I’d rather learn from one bird how to sing than teach ten thousand stars how not to dance.”  e. e. cummings

Maybe we’re all searching for one little bird to teach us how to dance. I’ve had many little birds in my lifetime teach me how to sing. If I never had little birds to sing a tiny song to me and show me the tune, I may never be here typing up this blog.

As I look through the many people who look at my pictures and like them, I can’t help but feel extreme gratitude. I’m thankful people like my work enough to look at it. I’m even more thankful that people like it.

When I started blogging, I never intended to have as many followers as I do, but I am very thankful that I do. I’m still learning and still growing in this little world of ours. Photography in second life has become really important to me over the last few months. I put energy into my pictures at a time when I wasn’t sure how many more I would take. That’s the thing, when you want to walk away from something, sometimes you end up being given a reason not to. I’m glad to still be taking some fun pictures.

As you can see, I’m still here and I continue to take pictures. While trying to learn about photoshop, I came across a man that was really helpful in learning the tools. I’d like to share his link with everyone. Maybe he can help those who are just starting out. He helped me to learn how to use a few things so far. Helpful Photoshop Tutorials So, if you feel a little lost in sl, I highly recommend diving into an sl hobby, because you never know where that hobby will take you.

Finally, to take those beautiful pictures, I always head to my local events. This month, I went to Uber and picked up this really gorgeous outfit from Mossu. I have to say that I love it!! I do not want to take it off. This round was spectacular and I highly recommend it. If you like anything that you see in the above photo, please look down below at my credits.

As always, be kind to one another.

cheers,

Violet XOXO

Credits.

Bra/underwear–Mossu–Britney Bustier–by Stephen Del Rey (akirakiyoi)—Uber Jan 2017
Lipstick–DeeTalez–High Gloss For LeLutka by deetalez.com (steffi.villota)
Nails–Adoness–Basics Mono to Goth by Cruella Pennell
Eyeshadow–ItGirls –Goddess Eyeshadows for LeLutka by Annie Jolifaunt
Hair–Doux–Dreemdoll by Dᴀᴠɪᴅ Cᴏᴏᴘᴇʀ (dam1710)
Backdrop–Foxcity–Photobooth Lit by Satomi Masukami
Poses–Foxcity–Lucid poses by Satomi Masukami —K9 Jan 2018

Lazy

 

"It is nice finding that place where you can just go and relax."  Moises Arias

 

“It is nice finding that place where you can just go and relax.” Moises Arias

Whew, I’ve had a whirl wind week. I’ve done a lot of stuff inworld and in real life. Both have kept me pretty busy these days, which is probably a really good thing. Sometimes you have to go to that place to mellow out and get lost, so you can face the days and challenges ahead. I’ve been doing a bit lately. I’ve gone back to places in real life that bring me comfort with people that I have literally known for half my life. I’ve also been letting people help me, even when I really don’t want it. So I’ve been able to relax. We all need lazy days to recharge our batteries and refuel our gas tank.

Unfortunately, when you get kind of busy in all worlds, sometimes people can feel left out or ignored, no matter how unintentional it is. I’m really sorry for being a bit busy. I’ve been looking for a house in my real life and I am also working on my blog–and the Squeeze! magazine issue. So my life can be a little hectic at times. I have been leaving on my autoresponse. I do it sometimes to do things inworld that allow me to have a necessary moment to recollect myself. We all need a breather from time to time.

To let my hair down, I took this great picture. I am wearing this wonderful outfit by Eliavah, which is now available at the epiphany. This round was pretty fantastic. BEFORE I FORGET!!! The epiphany has given everyone 100 points for exclusive items, which basically means you get to pick 4 free items, after your first gacha purchase!!! So please check out the epiphany!!

Side note, I really hope more designers for men’s fashion and miscellaneous join in the fun. I feel they don’t get the representation at events, which is so desperately lacking at times. As a blogger, I can tell you have a mix of masculine and feminine items not only recognizes the males inworld. It gives bloggers an array of things to choose from to also make out pictures interesting. I’d love a campaign …Don’t leave out the dudes!!! Come on people ….lets make something for the gentlemen of SL.

Thanks ♥

Be kind to one another!!

Cheers,

Vi ♥♥♥

Credits

Hair–Besom–Vega by Milk.Chan (kattington)—Epiphany Jan 2018
Chantilly Dress–Altair&Eliavah–Chantilly Dress by e l i a v a h ღ (eliavahazaleia) and Runa Nikiforov (tsurine) Epiphany Jan 2018
Chantilly Shoes-Altair&Eliavah–Chantilly Dress– by e l i a v a h ღ (eliavahazaleia) and Runa Nikiforov (tsurine) Epiphany Jan 2018
Chantilly Stockings–Altair&Eliavah by e l i a v a h ღ (eliavahazaleia) and Runa Nikiforov (tsurine) Epiphany Jan 2018
Chantilly Ribbons–Altair&Eliavahby e l i a v a h ღ (eliavahazaleia) and Runa Nikiforov (tsurine) Epiphany Jan 2018
Eyeshadow–Izzie’s –Glitter Eye make-up by Izzie Button
Lipstick–Izzie’s–Glitter lipstick by Izzie Button

Days

Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year. Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

Sometimes, we don’t have the best of days. It seems like a lot of my friends have come down with colds or just don’t feel well in general. And I myself sort of fall into this category. When I wasn’t feeling well, I found this quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson. Even on a crummy day, there’s always something about trying to maintain a positive attitude that helps. Unfortunately, I’m not the best at keeping a positive view of things. I knew that he was right though. You can’t drown in the bad. Sometimes you have to wake up the next day and start over. Hopefully, my fatigue and pain will give me a break, but I still had a pretty good day.

Speaking of breaks, I took one inworld and I headed over to The Season Story. A friend of mine created an awesome jacket above. It comes in different styles of materials such as shiny, and hologram. There are so many colors available for purchase. This particular texture is only available in the fatpack, but all of her jackets are amazing. I have been falling in love with her products and I know you will too.  Again it’s from The Season Story by Eliavah called Dooboo sweater. I also bought the lipstick from mudskin called Woo hee. I can see this as one of my go to lipsticks. Finally, I tried my luck at the Pink Lion gacha for my nail polish and it’s name is humorously called Liars. If you like my style, check out the credits below.

Be kind to one another.

Cheers,

Violet XOXO

P.s.–I’m ending this a bit early to head to bed.

Credits

Hair–Entwined&Nutmeg –Camille by Bʟᴀɪʀ (vivienmarli) and Neva Crystall (nevacrystall)
Eyeshadow–YSYS–Favorite makeups by Monicuzza Babenco—previous powder pack March 2017
Lipstick–Mudskin–Woo Hee #6 by SOPHA (sopha.portal)–The Season Story January 2017
Jacket–Eliavah –Dooboo Sweater by e l i a v a h ღ (eliavahazaleia)–The Season Story January 2017
Jeans–Villena –Distressed Skinny Jeans by Kambi (villena.swansen)
Backdrop–Isuka&Ana–Izakaya backdrop and poses– Joe (prince.diker) and Ana

Nails–Pink Lion –Liars by Luka Hauster—The Season Story January 2017

Queen of the Fairies.

 

I'm half living my life between reality and fantasy at all times. Lady Gaga

 

I’m half living my life between reality and fantasy at all times. Lady Gaga

Everyone needs a fantasy. Andy Warhol

The two quotes above, I couldn’t agree with more. For me fantasy gives me an opportunity for self expression. It’s also nice to keep that playfulness of imagination. Andy Warhol was right. We do need fantasy. We need to escape, give us strength, and to let our mind wander and wonder. Nights with some of my favorite fictional characters make an appearance in my second life photos. The land of fairies definitely inspired this picture.

They say that a picture is worth a thousand words. It’s nice to read the comments on a picture and see the story in the eyes of another. I had a wonderful person congratulate me on my capture. When I look at this picture, I see an unrestrained mythical beast laying at my feet, while I give light to our surroundings. BUT, it’s the best part of fantasy. It’s the interpretation in which we see through the words and imagery before us–much like second life.

You see, for some, the stories are important parts of their experience in second life. We could be anything that we want to be here.So if you need to live in a soft world for a day, you should find that mythical soft spot and soak it up like a sponge. I did, when I took this photo. It’s everything that I enjoy in second life. Remember the impossible can become possible here. We just have to discover it.

To make those dreams in pink come true, I made a quick visit to collabor88 and found this wonderful dress, gloves, and even hair. My dress and gloves were made by a company that I adore–Zenith. My hair is from the fabulous trendy company Little Bones. If you want to make your own fantasy world with this outfit, please check out my credits below.

Be Good To One Another

Cheers,

Violet XOXO

Credits

Necklace–Yummy–Ballet Slippers Charm by Polyester Partridge
Headpiece–Zenith–Gothic Rose Headpiece by 喵 仙 人 (miffyhoi.rosca)–Main store
Dress–Zenith–Victoria Lace Dress by 喵 仙 人 (miffyhoi.rosca)–Collabor88
Gloves–Zenith–Victoria Lace Gloves by 喵 仙 人 (miffyhoi.rosca)–Collabor88
Hair–Little Bones –Ion–by Nova Faerye–Collabor88