“I think the world needs more sex positivity, particularly from women..”

Jenny Nordbak

As a few people have seen, I’ve started to write again. I thought no one was reading these little blurbs of mine, but people do read them. Others have noticed my silence. I decided to break it. With gritted teeth and rising blood pressure, silence does me no good. It only ends up hurting me. But I guess silence ends up hurting everyone. No one should go through life as a mute by choice.

I reached a limit in so many ways. I logged on for months barely speaking to anyone. I drowned in decorating. I drowned in shopping events. But after the inventory becomes a mess and the decorating reaches an end in sight, you are left with a cluttered closet and time on your hands. I wish that the silence was only in second life, but it was not. It’s funny how when all you want to do is drown in silence, but people kept reaching down to pull me up from the water. I fought people on it for a long time. But that’s the thing about people, there are good people in the sea of many. They won’t let you drown.

Everything isn’t perfect, but such is life. But I can say that I’m having fun again or trying to. I’ve made plans and I’m not hiding on my land. I’m talking to people. I’m slowly moving away from my own little island and trying to get out more. Even in my real life, people saw me drowning in sorrow and they weren’t having any part of it. They too dragged me out and into the light. I needed them. I need them still.

In the past, I would discuss everything that was going on in my life, but I’m a little more careful now. I don’t want to share with the world the inner workings of Violet’s world–on and offline. Things got tough. Then, they got tougher. But I was lucky. I have friends by my side in all worlds. They don’t know everything about me. They just saw an empty blog and empty profile. They never asked questions, which I will always be grateful for. Instead they made me laugh. They kept me up to date about things inworld. They even checked up on me. I’m going to be okay. I just need to get over some hurdles. My world will never be the same–in real life or second life. I am forever changed.

Even when everything crumbles, the world will still turn. The grid still had a ton of events. This month is exceptional for shopping. LeLutka came out with a new male bento head. The black fair, shoetopia, salem, and collabor88 opened up. I’ve been really busy in real life and I am just now starting to catch up. The picture above features a corset and pose available at the black fair. The pose is from BellePoses and it’s called Lola. My corset is from United Colors and is called Eternity Corset. Both of these items can be found at the Black Fair.

I would love to see some more dominatrix poses. I always have a hard time finding poses such as these. I loved finding this pose set. I usually never blog my poses, but I’ve had a hard time finding poses like this one, so I’m helping fellow shoppers this time around.

And now the Epiphany is opening tonight. There is sooooo much shopping on the grid. I hope you all decide to take someone to the Black Fair to get some wonderful items.

Be kind to one another.

Violet xoxo


Hair–Clawtooth –Giselle by Bubbles Clawtooth
Corset and panty–United Colors by UC (unitedcolorsteam)–Black Fair Event October 2017
Body–Maitreya -Lara by Onyx LeShelle
Head–LeLutka –Simone by Thora Charron

Pos–BellePoses–Lola by BellePoses (jackbiggirl)–Black Fair Event October 2017


Season Of The Witch

“Hearts are breakable,” Isabelle said. “And I think even when you heal, you’re never what you were before”.”
― Cassandra Clare, City of Fallen Angels

There’s so much heart break in the news. I thought about not writing a post, but I’ve had thoughts running around in my brain. They were itching to get out. So here I am writing what I can.

I saw on the news once again senseless death in the news, another mass shooting. I worry for my friend’s children in real life. What are they inheriting from generations with so much anger that drives others to kill. I worry about the heart ache of the families effected.  Their lives and those individuals effected from one individual. It’s too much to stomach. Too much to bear. Yet, here we all sit knowing that we must face the facts. Just like my quote says, after heart break, you’re never what you were before. It’s heart breaking seeing those violent acts. It’s even more heart breaking for those who live through it and effected by it.

I was talking to a colleague, friend of sorts the other day. She said to me, “You are me. I am you.” If only, we could remember this quote all the time. It struck a gigantic chord with me. I am human. You are human. In that, we both share something in common on the most basic of levels. I could have used this reminder a few times in all worlds. Maybe it would have saved myself some heartache and the inevitable change.

However, we are shaped by the choices we make in this life, which leads me to another quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson, “I cannot remember the books I’ve read any more than the meals I have eaten. Even so, they have made me.” I will never remember every memory in second life or my real life, but they have shaped the person behind the computer. We effect everyone daily in the things we say and do. Please remember that you can break peoples hearts and they can break yours. Lets be kind to one another and not let hurt change us. But alas, we are all human and it’s bound to happen. The only thing we can control is how we react to it.

If you find yourself needing a break from the news or heartbreak, shopping can definitely lead itself to it’s own type of therapy. There are so many wonderful events. I ran away into the second life covers of shopping. I found Salem, The Black Fair, Fameshed, Pocket Gacha, and so many others. This wonderful outfit is from the Salem event. I spent a bunch of money there. If you need Halloween decor or maybe a witchy outfit, I would definitely head over. Hopefully in the next week or so, I can cover all the events that were mentioned above. For further info regarding this lovely outfit, please check out my credits. Thank you for reading this blog and sticking with me through my blogging journey.

Be kind to one another.

Xoxo Violet


Hair–Stealthic –Cadence by Hunter (stealthic)
sunglasses–Izzie’s–90’s glasses by Izzie Button
Dress, bra, panties–Dead Dollz–Fiona by Kiddo Oh–Salem Event
Boots–Reign–Witchy Thigh Boots by KENADEE REIGN (kenadeecole)–Salem Event.


Picture inspired by American Horror Story Coven with a mix of The Craft for good measure


Havana Club

Havana Club

“Music has healing power. It has the ability to take people out of themselves for a few hours.” Elton John

I’ve been across the grid this week. There are so many shopping events. My poor wallet is screaming. My dress and purse are both from Uber. My purse is from Zenith and my wonderful dress is from Rebel Gal. I have to say this may be my favorite outfits. Besides Uber, I stopped by Shoetopia . I highly recommend making a stop at Shoetopia . The designers made some wonderful pieces this round. My boots are from GOS, which can be found at the Shoetopia event. For more information, please have a look at my credits below with landmarks. I hope you all have a wonderful shopping experience.

Violet XOXO


Hair–Stealthic –Persephone–by Hunter (stealthic)
Sunglasses–Amala–The Alessia Sunglasses by Crystal (crystalny)
Fur Coat–Noche —Christine Fur Coat by Paris Colivati (askparis)
Dress–Rebel Gal –Montana Silk Dress in Oxblood by Jourdan McMillan (jourdanmcmillan)
Purse–Zenith –Soft Leather Handbag by 喵 仙 人 (miffyhoi.rosca)
Boots–Shoetopia –Ariana Thigh-High Boots Black–By Gos (gospel.voom)
Ears–Mandala –Steking Ears–By 菊之介王子 (kikunosuke.eel)
Necklace–Swallow–friendship necklace–by Lucia (luciayes.magic)

Eyes Wide Shut


Eyes Wide Shut


“Life can very genuinely and realistically pile things on. It doesn’t dole out the heartache and pain, or joy, perfectly.”
Tig Notaro

I went to N21 and Shiny Shabby recently. I don’t usually blog these two events, but I fell in love with both of these pieces. So I decided to blog them. I bought my dress, skirt, purse combo at Shiny Shabby and it’s by Zenith. Then, I headed over to Shiny Shabby and won this beautifully flower crown from LODE. Both these events are wonderful. I was pleasantly surprised at Shiny Shabby and bought a few items for my kitchen and dining room as well. I highly recommend looking at Shi and Nutmeg at Shiny Shabby. These two companies did a fantastic job. There are so many wonderful events going on right now. I think you should head on over and check them out. For styling information please look at my credits below.


Hair–Entwined –Chic by Bʟᴀɪʀ (vivienmarli)
Sweater–Zenith –Autumn knit clothes with skirt by 喵 仙 人 (miffyhoi.rosca)
Flower crown-LODE–Dahlia Wreath by Chirzaka RV (chirzaka.vlodovic)
Head—-LeLutka –Simone by Jaden Art (jadenart)
Body–Maitreya –Lara–by Onyx LeShelle

Life in the Dark



Life in the Dark


“Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit.” Napoleon Hill

I went to three different events for this look. I found the head piece at The Chapter Four by Lode. Then, I headed over to Kustom9 and found this wonderfully textured hair by stealthic. Finally, I ended my shopping trip at Collabor88 and I bought this beautiful ruffle dress by ISON. I loved everyone of these events.

If you like anything in the above pic, please check out my credits.


Head piece–LODE–Gladiolus cream by Chirzaka RV (chirzaka.vlodovic)
Hair–Stealthic –Fatal–By Hunter (stealthic)
Eyes–IKON–Triumph–Oak by Ikon Innovia
Dress–ISON–Ruffle Katie Dress by Harry Hyx




“Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved.” Helen Keller

I’d like to say to those residents being effected by Hurricane Irma, please stay safe. I hope other residents donate to the many causes helping out people effected from this storm. Again please stay safe.

I chose this quote because it reminds me of the trials and suffering of my grandmother. Cancer is a wicked thing. She’s currently battling stage 4 cancer. Sometimes strength comes in the most difficult of times. She fights to stay alive. Yet, she talks with everyone.

I digress. This outfit above is from this month’s arcade. The crown, wings, and dress are from Birdy.  Please check out my credits for further details.


Hair–Exile –Just Another Night by Kavar Cleanslate
Dress–Birdy –Celeste by Tyr Sinister (tyr.rozenblum)
Crown-Birdy–Celeste by Tyr Sinister (tyr.rozenblum)
WIngs–Birdy–Celeste RARE by Tyr Sinister (tyr.rozenblum)




“You haven’t partied until you’ve partied at dawn in complete silence with Buddhist monks.” Cameron Diaz

This month’s Uber was excellent. Boy my pockets are empty. Between uber, the arcade, and soon Collabor88, I am going to be very broke. This dress is by Dead Dollz and called Bebe. I also found glitter eyeshadow by Izzie’s called evening glitter shadow. I love the detail. After going to Uber, I headed over to Tres Chic and found this hair by Doux called Shanna. If you like the above outfit, please check my credits below.

Hair–Doux–Shanna by Dᴀᴠɪᴅ Cᴏᴏᴘᴇʀ (dam1710) Found at Tres Chic
Dress–Dead Dollz–Bebe by Kiddo Oh–This month’s Uber
Lipstick–Izzie’s –metallic lipstick by Izzie Button–mainstore
Eyeshadow–Izzie’s—Evening Glitter Shadow by Izzie Button–Also found at this month’s Uber