Change Of Plans

Change Of Plans


“A good traveler has no fixed plans, and is not intent on arriving.” Lao Tzu

Whew, this blog was hard to write. I planned on writing it the other day but Flickr went down. Then, I planned to take the photo soon afterwards and I had issues logging in. I was intent on creating this earlier, but life had another journey for me. Like the picture says, I had changed plans and I had nothing to replace those plans with–so I was forced to be a good traveler.

According to Lao Tzu, I’m a good traveler. I am not living a life that was planned in second life or real life. Just like my avatar’s expressions, it left me a little angry and frustrated. But I believe everything happens for a reason. I also believe when one door closes another one opens. It’s hard to see the light of options, but they are there.

I needed a road with no destination and I needed to talk to the travelers along my path. My second life has been that road. The residents have been those travelers. Some never understood the person behind the keyboard. Not every person is going to understand you, because they weren’t there for all the parts of your life that shaped you. Nor do people live inside your head and know how things effect you.

Some may have noticed my profile changed. I made declarations that I haven’t made in the past. Those statements are important to me–not just in sl but in rl too. I’ve hid a lot in my real life in regards to sexuality. Being asked that question is like asking me to do calculus. It makes me sweat and feel the pressure. I’ve met a lot of people in my second life journey that helped me …be okay with me. They may never know that, but they have. I’ve been extremely defensive when certain topics have been brought up inworld. I’ve even hurt people because of my own hang ups and I’ve cried about it. Instead of being a calm person, I was defensive. I didn’t know why, until recently.

I won’t get into the details, because they are my own. However, I will say that putting that pick in my profile is the closest thing that I’ll ever do to coming out and into the light of day. I hated questions about sexuality. I had to go on a journey with a few residents and talk to them–and get to know them. In knowing them, I started to be okay with myself. I still have a very long way to go. One day, I’ll be okay with that question. But for now, I’m just thankful for the journey.

During that journey, I went to the Gacha garden and I took a trip to Blueberry for one of their current releases. I won this wonderful nail polish by Alme. Then, I bought this wonderful cardigan and boots from Blueberry. I love this company and I am way over due for blogging them. The male in the pick above is wearing a peacoat from Gabriel and is available at this months TMD.

I want to add something. I debated adding it, but I think it’s important. I need to stand up for myself–something that I’m not very good at doing. People will talk and say things. I always say let them talk, if they don’t have anything better to do. Love doesn’t die over night. If it does, you never loved them to begin with. I love my friends who I grow close with–which does not always happen in this big little world. I can count those friends on one hand. Even when things are over, I still love people. I wear my heart on my sleeve and I don’t hide from my emotions. Words are more than words. Hearts do break. Sticks and stones is crap. Words hurt people to the core. And there’s no reason for it. And I believe in turning the other cheek. It helps everyone in the end. I will always love people that stepped onto my path and showed me love in return. I love my ex friends and friends on good terms. Love thy enemy.

I am you and you are me. I don’t want to cause hurt on others, because I would not want others to hurt me–make me cry and sink.

Be kind to others. Treat others how you would like to be treated. Use social media to grow as a person and laugh–not to spew hatred. A friend once told me that your past is not a life sentence. He was right.

I am not defined by one bad day.

Be kind to one another and to yourself.

Violet XOXO



Hair–Doux–Juniper by Dᴀᴠɪᴅ Cᴏᴏᴘᴇʀ (dam1710)
Ears-Mandala –Steking Ears by 菊之介王子 (kikunosuke.eel)
Eyeshadow–Veechi–Glitter cut crease by Aiubrey Snoodle
Lips–DeeTalez–High Gloss Lips by (steffi.villota)
Nails–Alme–Nudes by Chloe Electra (chloeelectra) —–Gacha Garden Nov 2017
Necklace–Zenith–Leaf Necklace by 喵 仙 人 (miffyhoi.rosca)
Cardigan set–Blueberry–Mill by Blueberry (blueberryxx)–Current Release
Boots/stockings–Blueberry –Mill by Blueberry (blueberryxx)–Current Release
Eyes–IKON–Charm Eyes by Ikon Innovia


Location–My house

Pose–DB Poses –true friends don’t leave you alone by Dᴇɴɴʏ Bᴀʟʟʏʜᴏᴏ (denny.ballyhoo)

The dude in the pick with me

Ears–Mandala–Steking Ears by 菊之介王子 (kikunosuke.eel)
Head–Catwa–Daniel by Catwa.Clip (catwa.clip)
Body–Belleza–Jake by Tricky Boucher
Peacoat–::GB::–Jk by Takuya Jinn—TMD Nov 2017
Eyes–IKON–Triumph by Ikon Innovia
Hair–Stealthic –Reach–by Hunter (stealthic)
Hairbase–Stealthic –Male Hairbase by Hunter (stealthic)









“Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.”

Harriet Tubman

Sometimes people forget to dream and it impacts your life. I know that it did mine. I was laying in my bed under a warm blanket and about to drift to sleep, when I had a sudden realization about my own dreams. I shut the door on creating new dreams about the future, because things didn’t go my way. I know many people go through this at some point in life. I never expected for things to turn out differently than I had planned. But there is that saying…..”God Laughs, when you’re making plans.” But it shouldn’t stop a dreamer from thinking of what could be.

Dreams are important. They give you something to aspire to. They give people the fire that lights ambition and drive. I know in my case that dreams effect me this way. It makes me excited to think some dreams can come true. It helps us to be excited for the future rather than fearful. Dreams give us so much, yet so many stop dreaming.

I can never speak about why others slam a door on what could be. However, I can tell you what made my door slam on mine. I left an ideal situation in real life, because of my health. Things were going very well for me, but life had other plans. I was hit by sudden life events that were uncontrollable and not anyone’s fault. I just didn’t expect them. As a result, I sank like the Titanic. I tried to find hope in others, but I realized that it really begins with myself.

Any time people brought up the future, I would wave it off. I made no plans and didn’t look forward to anything. It seemed impossible to think of a different plan for myself, other than the one I had worked so hard to make. It didn’t just effect me in real life, but also in my virtual life as well. I never signed on with companies to blog for them. I wasn’t hopeful, when things changed suddenly. I couldn’t cope with changes, because I couldn’t see past my own plan. I wanted everything to work out perfectly. When things didn’t go a certain way, I gave up on everything.

Even inworld this happened to me, when friendships or families didn’t go as planned, I gave up on the notion that it would go well with others. But it’s not fair to myself or the people around me to give up on possibilities in life. So what, things didn’t go my way, but it doesn’t mean another dream won’t go my way. It takes strength to pursue a dream. You have to be patient, because one dream may not turn out–but another may come to full fruition. Then, you have to have a bit of passion for whatever you do. Passion is the fire that gets you moving. When you put all three of those elements together, there is no telling what you may accomplish or who you will help. Maybe, you will even end up helping yourself along the way.

What did I do with this new realization. Well, it lit a fuel under me for sure. I applied to companies inworld to blog. And I started some pretty exciting and bold things in my real life, despite my own adversity. It’s just time for me to move along and see where life takes me. It may not be the perfect situation, but I can still accomplish a few of the things that I’ve been dreaming about since I was a child. And…..I’m better for it. DB poses welcomed me into their family graciously. Thank you DB poses. And I have exciting news to share over the weekend with friends in real life. Life doesn’t really get better than that. Always appreciate those little dreams that do come true. And remember, if things didn’t go your way, there are always other possibilities. We just have to seek them out and be open minded.

To help me dream, I went over to Uber. I bought my socks from Fri. at Uber, which are called Holly socks. I also bought this wonderful dress and cardiigan from one of my favorite companies, Dead Dollz. It’s appropriately named Cozy cardigan and camisole. Both are sold together. So get warm and cozy in this months Uber, so you can think of a few of your own dreams.

And also don’t give up on people, you never know when those people may help you in the end. They may even help you see or realize your own dreams…..or they may become part of them.

Okay enough of my ramblings, be kind to one another and to yourself.


Violet XOXO


Hair–Exile –Go by Kavar Cleanslate–June arcade 2016, gacha item
Eyeliner–Veechi–Dazzle Eyeliner by Aiubrey Snoodle
Lipgloss–Veechi–Genie by Aiubrey Snoodle
Head–LeLutka –Lelutka by Thora Charron
Body–Maitreya –Lara by Onyx LeShelle
Necklace–Ama.–Dreams Necklace
Dress/cardigan–Dead Dollz–Cozy by Kiddo Oh–Uber October 25, 2017
Socks–fri.—Holly Socks by Darling Monday–Uber October 25, 2017
Eyes–IKON–Charm by Ikon Innovia


Pose–DB Poses–A beautiful day begins with a beautiful mindset by Denny Ballyhoo (denny.ballyhoo)—Thank you DB poses 🙂 Available on the MP

Location–My home



“I think music in itself is healing. It’s an explosive expression of humanity. It’s something we are all touched by. No matter what culture we’re from, everyone loves music.”

Billy Joel



“to lie.”

I think music is a great way to express yourself, when words don’t come easily. Sometimes artists find words that either touch you or you can relate to. Taking pictures in second life has a connection between art and humanity–just like music. It captures feelings. For me, personally, I’ve been seriously involved with music for literally half of my life. So self expression is like breathing for me. Many of my friends in real life are also contributors to the music community by being teachers, choir directors, and musicians. This is also the reason why second life photography has been a major part of my journey. I find great joy through self expression.

I could not take these pictures without the kind people inworld who discuss techniques and tools that help the process. I never claim to know everything to those who ask. I always say that I am a constant learner, because I am. Residents always surprise and delight me with their talents. I’m totally gushing in this post because I’ve had a few friends inworld lately give me some tips, which I am entirely grateful for those in my life, who have helped me to create this blog. Without you, I would cease to exist.

Normally, I wouldn’t share something personal in my blog. BUT, I’m going to have to share a few things in the next few months. So I wanted to start off with something good. Sometimes people have to share things, even when they really don’t want to. In those cases, I find that disclosing something fun is best, instead of diving into the gritty details. Music and art have always been apart of my life. People in my real life are freelance artists, and musicians. It has enriched my life–just as photography has in second life.

Speaking of pictures, in my second pic, I thought it would be funny to add a little bit to that sentence and link a video that had Lie as the title. This photo shoot was a lot of fun. This isn’t my normal look. I like changing it up from time to time. The play on words, the colors, and  silliness, I couldn’t stop smiling these pictures. Pink is my favorite color and always makes me fee happy (if you couldn’t tell by how much pink I wear) :).

This wonderful outfit, poses, and back drop all come from different companies and different events. I want to talk about Limit 8. It’s an event that hosts 50 designers. They feature limited items. So once they are gone, they are gone. It opens up on the 18th of every month at 5pm. You have to hurry, when the open though, as one can imagine things go quite quickly. My backdrop is from Ninety and called Need You Backdrop. It’s no longer available. However, backdrops such as this one above can be found at Limited 8. Next, we have my rare jacket/shirt combo, shorts in the bottom photo came from the epiphany. It’s from foxes and called Spooky, which again can be found at the epiphany. My pose is from Body language and called SLC Bento SS pose, which can be found at N21. My rings and nails can also be found at N21. They’re from yummy and called Divinity Nail and Ring set. As you can see, the grid is full of wonderful events.

Please grab a friend and head out shopping. You won’t be disappointed. So many great events on the map!! For further details on my styling, please check out my credits below.

As always, be kind to one another.

Violet XOXO


Rings–Yummy–Divinity Ring and Nail Set by Polyester Partridge—N21
Jacket–Foxes –Spooky by Tyr Sinister (tyr.rozenblum)–Epiphany October 2017
Shoes–Foxes –Spooky by Tyr Sinister (tyr.rozenblum)–Epiphany October 2017
Shorts–Epiphany–Spooky by Tyr Sinister (tyr.rozenblum)–Epiphany October 2017
Eyes–IKON–Charm by Ikon Innovia
Bubble Gum–LaGyo–Strawberry Glitter by LaGyo (gyorgyna.larnia)
Body–Maitreya –Lara by Onyx LeShelle
Head–LeLutka –Simone by Thora Charron


Backdrop–Ninety–Need You Backdrop–by Ɗєαтн Qυєєη (zombiehill)—No longer available…Limit8
Pose–Body Language — SLC Bento SS pose by manmoth Nishi—N21 October 21




“I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness because it shows me the stars.” Og Mandino

This quote describes my life, but maybe it describes everyone’s life. I talk a lot about ups and downs. In second life, I can usually tell when people are going through something. Some of my closest friends inworld and otherwise have been struggling, just like me. I’m not blinded by their struggles nor are they blind to mine. We’ve pulled each other up and tried to show each other the stars. Sometimes, the fog can make the stars a little difficult to see in the dark of night. Even if you don’t see them, they are still there. Basically, in difficult times, there is always something that is good around us, even if we have to really focus.

My blog post is a little late. I’ve been pretty sick this week. I canceled every appointment. I stayed home. Even now, I’m still not 100 percent. BUT, I have chicken noodle soup, so everything will be right in the world. Even while recovering from a head cold and dealing with some personal real life things, people have been very kind to me inworld. I’m really grateful to the people talking to me about everything under the sun from second life to real life. It has been a much needed distraction.

I really want people to know that my struggles have nothing to do with second life. My silence has not been in regards to my time spent inworld. No one said or did anything to me. I’m not angry, sad, or frustrated with anyone. Real life can just be really hard sometimes. And I’m going through some things. But I am really grateful to the people who have reached out to me. I’d like to thank all of my friends–new and old.

During my down time, I have logged on and done a little bit of shopping. This month’s collabor88 is really fantastic. The chapter four is also pretty fantastic. My head piece is from Lode which can be found at the chapter four. My dress, sweater, and rings are all from this month’s Collabor88, which is one my all time favorite events. BUT, I also adore the Epiphany which is my next stop. So stay tuned.

For more information about my attire, please check out the credits down below

Be kind to one another.

Violet XOXO


Head piece–LODE–Pretty Things by Chirzaka RV (chirzaka.vlodovic)–chapter four
Flower in Hand–Lode–Blossoms by Chirzaka RV (chirzaka.vlodovic)—no longer available
Ears–Mandala–Simple Ears by 菊之介王子 (kikunosuke.eel)
Rings–Yummy–Nightmare Rings– by Polyester Partridge–Collabor88
Dress–ISON–Marie fall dress by Harry Hyx–Collabor88
Sweater–ISON–Anne Fall Sweater by Harry Hyx by Collabor88
Boots–Reign–Bow Saddle Boots by KENADEE REIGN (kenadeecole)






“I think the world needs more sex positivity, particularly from women..”

Jenny Nordbak

As a few people have seen, I’ve started to write again. I thought no one was reading these little blurbs of mine, but people do read them. Others have noticed my silence. I decided to break it. With gritted teeth and rising blood pressure, silence does me no good. It only ends up hurting me. But I guess silence ends up hurting everyone. No one should go through life as a mute by choice.

I reached a limit in so many ways. I logged on for months barely speaking to anyone. I drowned in decorating. I drowned in shopping events. But after the inventory becomes a mess and the decorating reaches an end in sight, you are left with a cluttered closet and time on your hands. I wish that the silence was only in second life, but it was not. It’s funny how when all you want to do is drown in silence, but people kept reaching down to pull me up from the water. I fought people on it for a long time. But that’s the thing about people, there are good people in the sea of many. They won’t let you drown.

Everything isn’t perfect, but such is life. But I can say that I’m having fun again or trying to. I’ve made plans and I’m not hiding on my land. I’m talking to people. I’m slowly moving away from my own little island and trying to get out more. Even in my real life, people saw me drowning in sorrow and they weren’t having any part of it. They too dragged me out and into the light. I needed them. I need them still.

In the past, I would discuss everything that was going on in my life, but I’m a little more careful now. I don’t want to share with the world the inner workings of Violet’s world–on and offline. Things got tough. Then, they got tougher. But I was lucky. I have friends by my side in all worlds. They don’t know everything about me. They just saw an empty blog and empty profile. They never asked questions, which I will always be grateful for. Instead they made me laugh. They kept me up to date about things inworld. They even checked up on me. I’m going to be okay. I just need to get over some hurdles. My world will never be the same–in real life or second life. I am forever changed.

Even when everything crumbles, the world will still turn. The grid still had a ton of events. This month is exceptional for shopping. LeLutka came out with a new male bento head. The black fair, shoetopia, salem, and collabor88 opened up. I’ve been really busy in real life and I am just now starting to catch up. The picture above features a corset and pose available at the black fair. The pose is from BellePoses and it’s called Lola. My corset is from United Colors and is called Eternity Corset. Both of these items can be found at the Black Fair.

I would love to see some more dominatrix poses. I always have a hard time finding poses such as these. I loved finding this pose set. I usually never blog my poses, but I’ve had a hard time finding poses like this one, so I’m helping fellow shoppers this time around.

And now the Epiphany is opening tonight. There is sooooo much shopping on the grid. I hope you all decide to take someone to the Black Fair to get some wonderful items.

Be kind to one another.

Violet xoxo


Hair–Clawtooth –Giselle by Bubbles Clawtooth
Corset and panty–United Colors by UC (unitedcolorsteam)–Black Fair Event October 2017
Body–Maitreya -Lara by Onyx LeShelle
Head–LeLutka –Simone by Thora Charron

Pos–BellePoses–Lola by BellePoses (jackbiggirl)–Black Fair Event October 2017

Season Of The Witch

“Hearts are breakable,” Isabelle said. “And I think even when you heal, you’re never what you were before”.”
― Cassandra Clare, City of Fallen Angels

There’s so much heart break in the news. I thought about not writing a post, but I’ve had thoughts running around in my brain. They were itching to get out. So here I am writing what I can.

I saw on the news once again senseless death in the news, another mass shooting. I worry for my friend’s children in real life. What are they inheriting from generations with so much anger that drives others to kill. I worry about the heart ache of the families effected.  Their lives and those individuals effected from one individual. It’s too much to stomach. Too much to bear. Yet, here we all sit knowing that we must face the facts. Just like my quote says, after heart break, you’re never what you were before. It’s heart breaking seeing those violent acts. It’s even more heart breaking for those who live through it and effected by it.

I was talking to a colleague, friend of sorts the other day. She said to me, “You are me. I am you.” If only, we could remember this quote all the time. It struck a gigantic chord with me. I am human. You are human. In that, we both share something in common on the most basic of levels. I could have used this reminder a few times in all worlds. Maybe it would have saved myself some heartache and the inevitable change.

However, we are shaped by the choices we make in this life, which leads me to another quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson, “I cannot remember the books I’ve read any more than the meals I have eaten. Even so, they have made me.” I will never remember every memory in second life or my real life, but they have shaped the person behind the computer. We effect everyone daily in the things we say and do. Please remember that you can break peoples hearts and they can break yours. Lets be kind to one another and not let hurt change us. But alas, we are all human and it’s bound to happen. The only thing we can control is how we react to it.

If you find yourself needing a break from the news or heartbreak, shopping can definitely lead itself to it’s own type of therapy. There are so many wonderful events. I ran away into the second life covers of shopping. I found Salem, The Black Fair, Fameshed, Pocket Gacha, and so many others. This wonderful outfit is from the Salem event. I spent a bunch of money there. If you need Halloween decor or maybe a witchy outfit, I would definitely head over. Hopefully in the next week or so, I can cover all the events that were mentioned above. For further info regarding this lovely outfit, please check out my credits. Thank you for reading this blog and sticking with me through my blogging journey.

Be kind to one another.

Xoxo Violet


Hair–Stealthic –Cadence by Hunter (stealthic)
sunglasses–Izzie’s–90’s glasses by Izzie Button
Dress, bra, panties–Dead Dollz–Fiona by Kiddo Oh–Salem Event
Boots–Reign–Witchy Thigh Boots by KENADEE REIGN (kenadeecole)–Salem Event.


Picture inspired by American Horror Story Coven with a mix of The Craft for good measure


Havana Club

Havana Club

“Music has healing power. It has the ability to take people out of themselves for a few hours.” Elton John

I’ve been across the grid this week. There are so many shopping events. My poor wallet is screaming. My dress and purse are both from Uber. My purse is from Zenith and my wonderful dress is from Rebel Gal. I have to say this may be my favorite outfits. Besides Uber, I stopped by Shoetopia . I highly recommend making a stop at Shoetopia . The designers made some wonderful pieces this round. My boots are from GOS, which can be found at the Shoetopia event. For more information, please have a look at my credits below with landmarks. I hope you all have a wonderful shopping experience.

Violet XOXO


Hair–Stealthic –Persephone–by Hunter (stealthic)
Sunglasses–Amala–The Alessia Sunglasses by Crystal (crystalny)
Fur Coat–Noche —Christine Fur Coat by Paris Colivati (askparis)
Dress–Rebel Gal –Montana Silk Dress in Oxblood by Jourdan McMillan (jourdanmcmillan)
Purse–Zenith –Soft Leather Handbag by 喵 仙 人 (miffyhoi.rosca)
Boots–Shoetopia –Ariana Thigh-High Boots Black–By Gos (gospel.voom)
Ears–Mandala –Steking Ears–By 菊之介王子 (kikunosuke.eel)
Necklace–Swallow–friendship necklace–by Lucia (luciayes.magic)