A Time To Be Thankful

When you practice gratefulness, there is a sense of respect toward others. Dalai Lama

When you practice gratefulness, there is a sense of respect toward others. Dalai Lama

I am incredibly thankful for a lot of things this year. One, I’m thankful that I’m here. I was watching a show called Lost Girl. There’s a line from a character who talks about how having life is so special. You have memories good, bad, and everything in between, but you have them. You have a chance to make them, no matter what you’re going through. No matter your hardship. You are living. I am living and that in itself is something to be grateful for. That one line changed me. Of course, I didn’t write the line word for word. it is paraphrased. It is definitely food for thought.
Then, I came across this quote. You open a door for someone. They respond with the common thank you. It is a sign of appreciation and respect in the act itself. It is the recognition of kindness being noticed. Showing others that they are thought of.. and appreciated is so incredibly special. Then you have the recognition of what someone else is doing for you. It’s always always always important to show others gratitude. It’s important to let them know that any act of kindness no matter how big or small is appreciated. It’s something that maybe is lacking–our outward appreciation of the positive actions done to us by others.
It’s Thanksgiving here. And I love reminding myself to tell people what they mean to me. It’s a practice that has given me a lot of meaning. It softens the soul, knowing that others care for each other. We are all meaningful and we are all important to others–even strangers. I rely a lot on strangers, family, and friends. There is no way that I couldn’t have all those people on my mind. Sometimes the people who have helped me the most in the last year has been complete strangers in my real life. People helping me into wheel chairs, opening doors, and helping me in any way they can. I’ve been helped by medical staff. I’ve been helped by friends who visit to raise my spirits. Even inworld, I see that same kindness. So I try to practice gratitude as often as I can. This year has definitely taught me that people help and aid others, even when they themselves are struggling and sometimes I am never aware of those struggles. I had a cancer patient open a door for me. There was no way that I could help her, other than show her my appreciation. The only thing she asked of me was to pay it forward to others. And I have every intention to do so.
So in the spirit of gratitude, I want to thank the designers and creators who work so incredibly hard to create these beautiful items featured in this photo. I want to start off with this fantastic dress. I can not gush enough about this dress. I love it… I really do. I think this may be one of my favorite dresses. I plan on wearing this again quite a bit. It’s just gorgeous and the detail is beautifully done. You can find it at Equal10 by Eliavah and it’s called Serenade. My hair is from SINTIKLIA and called Gigi, which is available at collabor88. You’ll have to hurry though, because before you know it.. the next round will begin. My flower crown is by Lode and it’s called Lilu, and you can find it at this latest round of the chapter four. Ali (the blond) is wearing the same flower crown, but in a different color, She is also wearing a top from moon elixir and it’s called night bloom, which is available at this months romp. It’s a really cute set with options to color the straps and remove the pom poms. Ali’s hair is from Rama and you can find it at Equal 10. There are some really great events and sales going on with black friday and a lot of them have already started. So get out there and bring a friend. Let the shopping begin.
If you liked any of the above items, please check out my credits below.
Be kind to one another and show your thanks this holiday season. Happy Thanksgiving ♥♥♥
Cheers,
Violet XOXO
Credits.

Hair–SINTIKLIA–Gigi by Sintiklia (sintikliasims)–Collabor88 November 2018
Flower crown–LODE–Lilu Wreath by Chirzaka RV (chirzaka.vlodovic)–Chapter four November 2018
Dress–Eliavah–Serenade dress–by e l i a v a h ღ (eliavahazaleia)–Equal10 November 2018
Fox–jian–held red fox by JIAN (jiansl)–mainstore

Ali (the blond)

Hair–Rama–avril by Katarina Monk–Equal10 November 2018
Bra–Moon Elixir –Night bloom by ElixirBlack–Romp November 2018
hair crown–LODE–Lilu Wreath by Chirzaka RV (chirzaka.vlodovic)–Chapter four November 2018
lower part of the body.. dear half–Tentacio and {Psychio-Byts} by ƪιƪ ϻοמšҭёѓ (psikotik.gothly) and May Tolsen–old gacha item on mp

Decor

Sheep with flower in mouth–Black Bantam–baby lamp pose 6 by Stasey Olle–kustom9 November 2018
Sheep to the left–fawny–Dolly the sheep by Stephen (akirakiyoi)–old gacha item
Turkey–Jian–Turkey Collection by JIAN (jiansl)–mainstore
Faun–Jian–fallow faun by JIAN (jiansl)
fountain–HEXtraordinary –The faun fountain by Corwin Lacourte–mainstore
Grass–HPMD–wild grasses by Sasaya (sasaya.kayo)–mainstore

Seasons Change

 

 

If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. Wayne Dyer

 

If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. Wayne Dyer

I’ve been trying to catch up with my blog posts. While catching up with my blog posts, I’ve gone through a few really tough moments in both words. It’s hard sometimes to play catch up in any world. Also, when you’re not at your strongest, it seems like the world can see that moment of weakness and play upon it. I hate to think people do that in any world, but I know people do. So in the midst of frustration over playing catch up, I found this quote.
Sometimes you’re going to fail, or be rejected. It’s really hard not to take it personally. Either you body will fail to do what it’s supposed to do. Or maybe you get rejected from a potential job, or even relationship. It’s so incredibly easy to lash out. It’s easy to get angry and upset. It may even be our first reaction to the situation. BUT, the best thing a person can do is vent… get it out of your system to someone you trust. Then, move on emotionally, look at the situation critically and analyze your actions. Can I change my behavior so this doesn’t happen again? Can I look at this situation as a learning experience?
I believe that every experience a person has can ultimately teach us something about ourselves. I’ve seen time and time again people lash out on social media, get angry, and total lose their cool. No matter what happens to you…. no matter what is said to you, no matter what is done to you, there is one thing that will always save you and that is yourself. How you react to any given situation can either doom you or can save you in the future. You get rejected. Thank them for the opportunity and walk away. No good ever comes from lashing out. I once read a Joan Rivers book and she gave me the best advice that I’ve ever received. Don’t get mad or seek revenge on someone in a business situation, because you never know when that person will be your boss one day or vice versus.
I bring all of this up because I’ve had a lot of time to think about failure and rejection. I’ve even dealt with failure and rejection. It’s never fun to deal with those issues but they are always teachable moments. Maybe we have them to humble us. It may even be the match that lights the fire. It drives us to work harder, be more, and push us. I don’t look at failure or rejection as a personal attack on me or my work. I look at it as a learning experience… a chance to improve. When you look at a situation in a different light, the situation changes. A negative can become a positive.
In the past month, I’ve had to go through a huge emotional upheaval. I think all residents can relate to going through things either in second life or real life that plagues the mind. You get this one moment or quote that makes a person stop in their tracks. I had to look at my health and not focus on the difficult road in front of me–future surgeries, physical therapy, and pain. I could focus on all that hardship and focus on it. OR I can look at how it will shape me to be a better person. I can look at everything as an opportunity to feel better. If I spend all my time focusing on the negative, I miss out enjoying all the good parts of life. So perception is everything… How our view of what happens to us or around us impacts our life and even the people around us.
So I don’t want people to fear the winds of change. I don’t want to fear change myself. Rather I’m taking the journey of change…humbled and thankful. I know this blog post is more reflection than blog, but it’s a reminder to me and maybe to others too… keep your chin up and work hard. You will get to where you want to be or destined to be, just keep trying and moving along. You WILL get there. Also if you must seek revenge, I take the advice from beyonce… work harder my friends. I have never regretted working harder…ever. And when possible, work smarter…not harder. That’s it for my wise words of wisdom. And when I say work harder, I don’t mean taking on too many commitments. I mean..take something you love to do and hone your skills. Do something that you enjoy and work hard at it. You will get personal joy and growth over time.
Finally, I’m going to talk about my blog. There are a ton of items featured by events. My shoes are from Cosmopolitan by Utopia@Design. My shirt if from Eliavah and available at the fabulous… Au Lovely event (I would not miss this event). I keep going back and buying things. Also my pants are from the ever fashionable Ison and available at one of my favorite events..Collabor88. I also bought the leaves and dog at Kustom9. The dog is from Black Bantam. The leaves were purchased at Kustom9 from [anc}. The two chairs are from Fri. and sold at Collabor88. The bunnies and squirrels with books are available at The Arcade. The door, pictures, and decor on the stool are from Collabor88. As you can see, there are many many many items from various events. Shopping is wonderful right now and there is no better way to bring in autumn than with a new do, nice clothes, and some fresh furniture. Hey, I had to get a dog in there too. I do love my animals. So if you like any of the items features in the picture above, please check out my credits.
Remember… keep your chin up and find something to smile about today.
Be kind to one another
Cheers,
Violet XOXO
Credits

hair–Entwined –Charlotte–by Bʟᴀɪʀ (vivienmarli)–Au Lovely September 2018
Blouse–Eliavah–Amaranthine Blouse by e l i a v a h ღ (eliavahazaleia)–Au Lovely September 2018
Jeans–ISON–Livie Ripped jeans by Harry Hyx–Collabor88 September 2018
Shoes–Utopia@Design–Robin by Elisabetta Hyun–Cosmopolitan September 2018
Decor
Painting on left–Madras –Adoora Welcome Autumn Frame by Karthikeyan Engineer–collabor88 September 2018
painting on right–madras –Adoora Mt. Kusatsu Shirane Frame by Karthikeyan Engineer–Collabor88 September 2018
Jars–Madras –Jar Decors by Karthikeyan Engineer–Collabor88 September 2018
Door–Madras –Adoora Welcome Door Decor by Karthikeyan Engineer–Collabor88 September 2018
Stool–Madras –Adoora Stool Decor by Karthikeyan Engineer–collabor88 September 2018
tiny bag–Madras –Adoora Door Stopper by Karthikeyan Engineer–Collabor88 September 2018
rug–tarte –Farmhouse rug by Alessandra Donato (alixxbella)–mainstore
Dog–black bantam–Best in show yorkies gacha by Stasey Oller–Kustom9 September 2018
Bunny on blanket–Birdy–Loafs Bunny dark by Dani (nina.helix)–The Arcade September 2018
Bunny in planter–++half deer++–Forest Sonata bunny planter white by Halo (halogen.magic) –The Arcade September 2018
squirrels with books and glasses–++Half Deer++–Forest Sonata books dark by Halo (halogen.magic)–The Arcade September 2018
white blanket with lights–++half deer++–Blanket Clutter–all colors by Halo (halogen.magic)–Collabor88 2018
Chairs with cushions and pillows–Fri–Pallet lounge A and B light by Darling Monday–Collabor88 September 2018
Leaves–{anc}–autumn leaves red by aki69–Kustom9 September 2018
Skybox–[ba]–Paris Penthouse–by Barnesworth Anubis–collabor88 September 2018

 

pose–foxcity—partition by Satomi Masukami–kustom9

 

Just a quick note… If you like these shoes, you will have to hurry. Cosmopolitan closes on the 22nd.

The Fool

You can fool all the people some of the time, and some of the people all the time, but you cannot fool all the people all the time. Abraham Lincoln

 

You can fool all the people some of the time, and some of the people all the time, but you cannot fool all the people all the time. Abraham Lincoln

Story… The money, drugs, and jewels, what a fool I was to think that I could stay. But only this fool chose to run away, knowing the chase always has to end.

Hello everyone!! I hope everyone in the States are planning a fun filled fourth of July. Normally, my blog posts are usually a bit quick, but I had to take some time for myself this past week–one to prepare for the holiday and second I needed rest. So I do apologize for my blog coming a little later in the day, than I intended.

This past week has been a wonderful whirl wind of second life for me. I really couldn’t be any more happier than I am right now. I owe that to the people around me. It’s nice to be able to come into this virtual space on a rough day and have your spirit immediately lifted.

Unfortunately, I do want to reiterate that my health hasn’t been perfect, so blogging has not been at the forefront of my brain. I’ve had to take it easy the last few weeks. I’m still making blog posts, but they’re just a little slower than I’d like them to be. We all do what we can.

BUT, the grid has so many wonderful events from uber to famished.. to even rewind. I know this past round of rewind was great. I wan’t able to blog it quick enough, but it’s also an event to explore. Speaking of Uber and Famished….. The blazer, shorts, corset, and even hair come from uber. My sunglasses and rings are available at Fameshed. I really love all of these items together. Together, they help to create something truly special.

When taking this picture, I felt like a drug lord, so I came up with a little blurb with a backstory. I always think that pictures should convey a story or a feeling. It should make you feel something. If pictures don’t give you any sort of feeling, then I haven’t done my job :D.

I had so much fun during that shoot. In the past, I role played a female gangster.. I had a lot of fun with it, so it’s nice to be able to capture something that I portrayed inworld. Second life provides me with an artistic escape into my own thoughts, desires, and playfulness. So this picture means a lot to me.

Continuing on with that role play inspired picture, I picked The Fool from the tarot card deck to represent this particular gangster fueled picture. Even gangsters have to realize that you can’t fool people all the time. In the end, you will be found out and on the run. Yet in the end, running has to end eventually. So I deemed myself a fool on the run with cash and clothes at hand.

I hope you’ve enjoyed this blog and photo as much as I have. Thank you for following me and your continued support me. I hope you all have a wonderful safe fun filled holiday with beautiful fireworks and yummy food with friends and family. If you like anything featured in the above photo, please check out my credits.

Before I go, I want to mention the pose fair. Bauhaus movement makes INCREDIBLE poses and I will never stop gushing about their poses or their pictures. I have been a long fan of theirs, since I started taking pictures. It’s one of the few companies that I will buy the entire fatpack of poses. I have another company that’s near and dear to my heart, which is CUCA Designs. I love both these companies, but you will have to wait to see what I do with her poses. Please check out the pose fair. It’s an incredible event for pose creators. Okay and now, I’m done and it’s time to PARTYYYYYYYY.

As always, be kind to one another.

Cheers,

Violet XOXO

Credits

Hair–#foxy–Oceana–by Liza Broono–Uber June 2018
blazer–David Heather–Nomi by David C. Heather (gianni.broda)–Uber June 2018
Corset–David Heather–Nomi by David C. Heather (gianni.broda)–Uber June 2018
Shorts–David Heather –Nomi by David C. Heather (gianni.broda)–Uber June 2018
Necklace-PL$H–420 Leaf chain by B (illllehctim)—Free
Heels–Phedora –Cynthia by Δαιμονισμένη Πατάτα (celena.galli)
Sunglasses–zoom–Yourun by Jonas Acanthus–FaMESHEd July 2018
Rings–Real Evil –Dragon rings by RealEvil (crashnoww)–FaMESHED July 2018
Earrings–Yummy –Stardust Earrings by Polyester Partridge

Pose–Bauhaus Movement –The out by LouLou Hill (loulou.teichmann)–Pose Fair July 2018

Phone–E.marie –Text back phone by . E м i . (emilianamarie)

Cash–NikoTIN–Dealer Kitchen by  Raph Dirval

Suitcase light pink–Tentacio –by May Tolsen

Panties–Dead Dollz–The party one by Kiddo Oh

Dark pink suitcase–Black Bantam— Holdable vintage tweed luggage

Backdrop–Foxcity –Photo booth club black by Satomi Masukami