Sweet Dreams

 

A heart without dreams is like a bird without feathers. Suzy Kassem

 

A heart without dreams is like a bird without feathers. Suzy Kassem

I have been really busy this past week in all worlds. I’ve taken pictures and built sets. And I finally get that moment to really sit down and think about this blog post. As soon as, I saw the backdrop from foxcity at Collabor88, I knew right away that I would make a dreamy post with sweet treats. So I really have looked forward to this post.

Normally on Valentine’s day, I send out photos ..a valentine’s day card. But this year, I indulged in sweet treats in real life, savoring each wonderful bite and I really did just enjoy the day. Instead, I opted for a delectable treats and a day of rest instead.

I love valentine’s day and wanted to do a month of sweet dreamy posts. I wanted to get lost in the moment of happiness. And maybe make a post inspired by legally blond. I love that movie. And I would be lying, if I said that movie wasn’t my muse. It totally was. There’s a scene where Elle Woods is sitting in her bed eating chocolate, after a break up. I think many people have gone through that upset. For some reason, second life seemed to curse a lot of my friends this past month. And that scene is one that always comes to mind, when I think of break ups–maybe because I’ve been there before. Who hasn’t?

This month has been nothing of love and hearts inworld for me personally, but in my dreams..and my pictures it was sweet sailing. So I let my love of all things sweet inspire me and a scene covered in pink–despite the sadness. I think even in that scene.. one can see the hope. Her friends coming to pull her out of her funk. Second life can be like that…so much. We go through a hard break with a friend, significant other, partner, etc, and we get Elle Woods in that moment. But it’s nice to see the hope through our friends.
What made my valentine’s day sweet inworld? It was my friends saying things that I needed to hear… not what I wanted to hear. It was the people who surrounded me in all things pink and reminded me that mistakes don’t define you. Anger is only temporary. And there are moments of calm. So maybe you have been touched by the second life Valentine’s Day curse. This post is for you my friend. I’m here to say, this too shall pass. Keep dreaming sweet things. Maybe indulge in something sweet in real life. If you can’t have that sweet treat in real life, maybe opt for something that you love to do instead. Whatever you do, just make sure to do something that makes you smile. And remember forgiveness is important, not for the other person, but for yourself. Holding on to anger and resentment only hurts us that much more in the end.
I came to the conclusion of what to write by a show called One Day At A Time. It’s about a Latino family living in Los Angeles, with all of its ups and downs of life. In one of the episodes, there was a woman struggling with anxiety. Recently, I’ve dealt with my own anxiety, during bad moments of pain. It can be scary and hard, especially when you can’t breath. But it was in that moment, I realized the importance of second life being a calm place. This isn’t a space where I want to be angry at anyone. My body makes me angry enough. This isn’t the place for it. And in that, I found forgiveness. I forgave anyone in that moment, because anger no longer served me. I can only hope that moment of clarity comes to others. It’s a gift. And if you seek a peaceful second life, it all starts within.
Before I end this blog post, I want to go into my fabulous outfit. My shirt, cardigan, skirt, and shoes are all by the fantastic Eliavah. She has really out done herself with this outfit. The texture and colors are so pretty. I felt soft and feminine. I just want to go out in the town and party the night away in this outfit. My skirt, cardigan, and shirt are available at Collabor88 and my shoes are for purchase at Equal10. Various pieces of my decor can be found at Collabor88. For more details, please check out my credits below.
Credits

shirt, skirt, cardigan- Eliavah-Dragonsilk–Elivavah–by e l i a v a h ღ (eliavahazaleia)–Collabor88 February 2019
Hair–Exile –Lana by Kavar Cleanslate–Collabor88 February 2019
Earrings–LaGyo–Claudette by LaGyo (gyorgyna.larnia)–Collabor88 February 2019
Necklace–LaGyo–Claudette by LaGyo (gyorgyna.larnia)–Collabor88 February 2019
Shoes–Eliavah –Dragonsilk–Eliavah by e l i a v a h ღ (eliavahazaleia)–Equal10 February 2019
Decor

chocolate bars on left–Plaaka-Assorted Chocolate Bars by Zazie Daviau–Collabor88 February 2019
Chocolate bar with bits of fruit–Plaaka–Chocolate Bar mix by Zazie Daviau–Collabor88 February 2019
Noet Champagne bottle with heart straw–Tentacio–Pink champagen Sensual Set by May Tolsen–Equal10
Pink Mug with Macarons–Disorderly.–hearty snacks by Rogue Falconer–Collabor88 February 2019
Chocolate covered strawberries and champagne glass–Disorderly –Hearty Snacks by Rogue Falconer–Collabor88 February 2019
Stand of Macarons–Granola –Gimme Some Sugar Macarons by Kimbra Iridescent–Collabor88 February 2019
Bowl of truffles on white table–Plaaka–Chocolate truffles by Zazie Daviau–Collabor88 February 2019
Macarons in cake stand with mug of macarons–Disorderly –Hearty snacks by Rogue Falconer–Collabor88 February 2019
Pictures in Frames–Silence–Lady Rose Silhouette Prints by Madeline Lumin (madelinelumin)–Collabor88 February 2019
White table–Mudhoney — Faye End Table by Rayvn Hynes–Collabor88 February 2019
Chocolate cake on stand–Granola –Gimme Some sugar cake by Kimbra Iridescent–Collabor88 February 2019
Pink and white flowers with champagne in white box–Tentacio –Senusal Box by May Tolsen–Equal10 February 2019
Pink Macarons–Tentacio–Macaron love by May Tolsen–Equal10 February 2019
Cloth–Plaaka–cloth by Zazie Daviau–Collabor88 February 2019
Roses on strand —–half deer–Faerye Rose Garland by Halo (halogen.magic)
Pink curtain, flower board–foxwood–Fleur Curtain and backdrop by Dani (nina.helix)—Collabor88 February 2019
Pose–foxcity poses–selfie–by Satomi Masukami–mainstore

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Sleep Over

 

Capt. Crewe: You can be anything you want to be, my love, as long as you believe. (movie quote from A little princess)

Capt. Crewe:
“You can be anything you want to be, my love, as long as you believe.

I have always loved the movie A Little Princess.. the version made in the nineties. Some of the most beautiful scenes are in that movie. I loved the story about a girl having a wild imagination. It’s such a lovely thing to live in a world of imagination and magic. There’s just something about that story that I love. For me, this quote means a lot to me. It gives a certain kind of hope. And I like books and movies that promote hope. If we lose hope, we lose the possibility of making those dreams and beliefs true. Hope drives us to go after goals. It inspires us to try. When we try…is when we truly live. So never give up hope.
As I saw ads for the epiphany, I knew right away what I wanted to do. I’m really excited to do this photo. It’s kind of my take on a sleep over with all things pretty. I probably would set this scene up in my house, if I had the money for all those flowers. Hey flowers are expensive!! But thankfully, it’s much easier to make this in second life.
I really want to thank everyone for making such cute things. I have to thank Eliavah for making this truly fantastic outfit. This is hawt and I love it. I like the ruffles at the top of the shirt, the color, and the fit. It made me feel extremely girly. Eliavah is selling this outfit at the epiphany. So you too can take a chance on her gacha. Kalopsia is selling the Cleo set–the pink lamp and mirror at collabor88. Lamb made this great hair which is also available at collabor88. Disorderly created cozy piles which is available at collabor88 as well. You can see it in front of my tent.. the cookies and magazines. It is all linked together. I absolutely adore it. The laundry basket is from tarte and can be found at a new event called soiree. Soiree is a new event and an extension of Collabor88. I bought so many things at the epiphany. I could go on and on about all of these really great events… but my credits list says it all. Please stop by Collabor88, FaMESHED, Soiree, and the epiphany. There are some truly great events on the grid. Don’t miss out.. tp and bring a friend with you.
I’m ending my post a little early. I have so many credits from this wonderful photo and I want it to be the center of this post. I hope my follows have fun shopping this month at some wonderful events.
As always, Be Kind To One Another,
Cheers,
violet xoxo
credits
Top–Eliavah –Sweetheart Shirt by e l i a v a h ღ (eliavahazaleia)–Epiphany January 2019
Skirt–Eliavah –Sweetheart Skirt by e l i a v a h ღ (eliavahazaleia)–Epiphany January 2019
Crown–Doe–Queen Crown by Helyanwe Vindaloo–Epiphany January 2019
Hair–Lamb–Glam by Lamb Bellic–Collabor88 January 209
Sunglasses–Noodles–Anna Sunglasses by Natalee Oodles–no longer available
Gum–LaGyo–Bubble gum Strawberry Glitter by LaGyo (gyorgyna.larnia)–mainstoreDecor
Sleeping bag–Kalopsia –Faux Fur Pallet by Harper B. De Laurent (shawneese.offcourse)–Epiphany January 2019
Bed–Bueno-Waiting Bed Pink Rare by buenosl–Epiphany January 2019
Flowers on the wall–++half deer++–Fairylight Rose Vines–by Halo (halogen.magic)–mainstore
Falling Stars–anc–Star flakes by aki69–mainstore
Phone–Bueno–Charge Stand Rose by buenosl–Epiphany January 2019
book by phone–Bueno–Books Avoiding Everything by buenosl–Epiphany January 2019
Donuts and Pictures–Disorderly –Cozy Piles by Rogue Falconer–Collabor88 January 2019
Books with mug–Kalopsia –Cleo Pile of books–by Isabeau B de Laurent (isabeau.baragula)–Collabor88 January 2019
Mug–Kalopsia –Cleo Latte Mug by Isabeau B de Laurent (isabeau.baragula)–Collabor88 January 2019
Speaker–Bueno–Suitcase Speaker–by buenosl–Epiphany January 2019
Pillow with eye mask–Dahlia -Lazy Days–Eye Mask Pillow by June Fallon–Epiphany January 2019
Laundry Basket–Tarte–Laundry basket with lights–by Alessandra Donato (alixxbella)–Soiree January 2019
Mirror–kalopsia –Cleo Fancy Mirror by Isabeau B de Laurent (isabeau.baragula)–Collabor88 January 2019
Books by arm–Bueno–Stacks of books deep thoughts by buenosl–Epiphany January 2019
box of square sweets–++Half Deer++–Sugar Crush Petit Fours by Halo (halogen.magic)–Epiphany January 2019
heart box of chocolates—++half Deer++–Sugar Crush Cat Truffles–by Halo (halogen.magic)–Epiphany 2019
Bag–Bueno–Love bag Pink by buenosl–Epiphany January 2019
Pots&Vase–Bueno–Pot&Vase Set Silver by buenosl–Epiphany January 209
Cookies, blanket, magazines, and eye glasses–Disorderly –Cozy Piles by Rogue Falconer–Collabor88 January 2019
Bunny Parfait–++Half Deer++–Sugar crush bunny parfait by Halo (halogen.magic)–Epiphany January 2019
Bear Cream puff–++Half Deer++–Sugar Crush Bear Creampuff—by Halo (halogen.magic)–Epiphany January 2019
Pink blanket under tent–Half Deer –Messy Blanket/rug by Halo (halogen.magic)–mainstore
Tent–Foxwood–Starlight Tent Rare by Dani (nina.helix)–Epiphany January 2019
White flowers near tent–anc–camellia branch by aki69–mainstore
Star lights–{anc} -Starlamp lemon by aki69–mainstore
pink hanging lamp–Kalopsia –Cleo Art Deco Lamp by Isabeau B de Laurent (isabeau.baragula)–Collabor88 January 2019
Room Divider–dust bunny –Noel Bunny (lxlnoel)–Fameshed January 2019
Hanging Globe with flowers in it–Foxwood–Starlight Globe by Dani (nina.helix)–Epiphany January 2019

 

 

Pose–Bauhaus Movement–subtle infestation by LouLou Hill (loulou.teichmann)–Pose Fair January 2019

 

 

 

Upside down Christmas

 

I like to turn things upside down, to watch pictures and situations from another perspective. Ursus Wehrli

I like to turn things upside down, to watch pictures and situations from another perspective. Ursus Wehrli

As the year comes to a close, many people find themselves looking back in the past. Maybe sometimes, they even see things with new eyes. And I am no exception. I’ve been looking at things differently too.
I’ve been a little obsessed with pictures that can be flipped upside down and viewed as another picture–in another angle. A long time ago, when I was in grade school, I had a teacher put a picture in front of the class and ask… “What do you see in this picture?” Many of us saw a witch, but many people saw another picture, yet both answers were correct. Even this week, I looked at a rock near a pond, but when the picture was flipped upside down, it didn’t look like a rock near a pond. I also googled upside down Christmas trees (who knew this was an actual thing!). This all started my own little project that I’ve been working on for about a week.
Since I was on a kick about upside down pictures, I decided to create my own. Many may see everything falling towards the ceiling, but yet if you flip it right side up…… You may see a girl leaping through the air and about to jump on ….someone, kicking things out of the way–perhaps a loved one being greeted at the door. It’s all about perspective. It’s how we interpret the world around us that truly matters. It’s how we see situations that happen to us. Our view may be entirely different than how others see things. I think that’s an important part of second life–how we view things that happen to us….vs. how others see things. It truly makes a difference. After a year has passed, we have new eyes and a new perspective on the events that passed.
This past year, I’ve had amazing experiences inworld, but I have battled demons in real life. Life is a beautiful thing, because it is always changing. Second life and real life move in cycles. Meaning… demons will be silenced. Amazing experiences come to an end–and then there are only new beginnings. There will be new people and new opportunities.
Despite the hope of the future though, there’s always the shadow of the past to contend with. It can leave bitterness in its wake. Bitterness can be accompanied with fear. It’s like moving to take a step, but putting your foot right back where it was. Fear can stop you literally in your tracks. Bitterness can make you turn away from new people, opportunities, and experiences. I think that’s one of the  hardest things in life, not letting negative emotions rule you. We all have to find ways to overcome the past. There’s no one right or wrong answer. Everything comes in time. The thing about time is that it’s always moving forward… never backwards. And we all will move forward one way or another, so why not silence that fear and bitterness—replace it with hope. We hope for a better tomorrow, because there are bound to be more good moments ahead of us.
So for 2019, we should leave the fear and bitterness behind us, lets drink to hope and love instead. We should move forward to the days ahead of us, because in the end…. time is precious. Lets not waste it on negative emotions, lets party and celebrate all the good things and hopeful new beginnings.
And that girl in the photo falling and yet leaping for a loved one–both are right. Holidays never go as they are “suppose” to. It always leaves us grasping for more into a free fall, yet we’re always grounded by the people… or even furry little animals that love us. Toast to love and hope this New Years. The best part of any story is always love and hope.
Before I end with credit, I need to make a quick mention of some great events. This dress can be found at Collabor88, but you will have to hurry since a new round is soon approaching. My hair and shoes can be found at uber, and my bow choker can be found at the naughty or nice event, check out Eliavah’s mainstore to get the hud. And I have to thank Cuca Designs for this really great backdrop and boxes, they added that special something to my picture of packing up decorations. For further info, please check out my credits.
Happy a safe and very Happy New Year!!
And don’t forget… Be Kind To One Another,
Much Love,
Vi XOXO
Credits.

Hair bow–LaGyo–Merry Headpiece by LaGyo (gyorgyna.larnia)–Collabor88 December 2018
Hair–Lamb–Wildflower by Lamb Bellic–Uber December 2018
Choker–eliavah –Holly Choker by e l i a v a h ღ (eliavahazaleia)–Naughty or Nice hud event, December 2018
Dress–Rebel Gal –Speed It Up Velvet Dress by Jourdan McMillan (jourdanmcmillan)–Collabor88 December 2018
Shoes-Gos–Haute Chic Stilettos by Gos (gospel.voom)–Uber December 2018

Decor
Backdrop–Cuca Designs & Illuzion –New Beginnings by Cuore Capalini Carillon (cuore.capalini)–mainstore
Armoire–Foxwood–Amelia Armoire by Dani (nina.helix)–Uber December 2018
Gold Vase with white flowers–Kraftworks –Trancoso flower vase by NODNOL Jameson–Uber December 2018
potted flowers–{ANC}–friedwildberry petit pot 2014 gift by aki69–not available
Wall Snowflake–tarte –Snowflake Light–by Alessandra Donato (alixxbella)–Uber December 2018
Snow globe with snowflake—ariskea –Lilia Snow Globe Magic by So Young (diaxm)–Uber December 2018
Hanging stars on armoire–ariskea –Star String Curve by So Young (diaxm)–Uber December 2018
Closed box–Cuca Designs & Illuzion –Single box rectangular by Cuore Capalini Carillon (cuore.capalini)–mainstore
Glass Ornament–Apple Fall –Ornament Metallic Confetti–gold, copper, silver, ribbed cone (blue, cherry, and mercury) by Apple Fall (warehousefifteendesigns)–mainstore
Tree picture–action–Elf Food Groups Chalkboard by Maz Pixel (marilynmonroe.munro)–Arcade 2017 gift (not available)
vase with tree branches–tarte–Holiday Twig Vase by Alessandra Donato (alixxbella)–mainstore
branches on table–Pilot–Candle branches by Kaz Nayar–mainstore
Lamp–tarte–Knox Floor Lamp Alessandra Donato (alixxbella)–mainstore
Oh Holy Night Frame–tarte–holy night frame by Alessandra Donato (alixxbella)–mainstore
string star lights–ariskea –Lilia Stars String Lights by So Young (diaxm)–Uber December 2018
Frame with yellow background and white leaves–Ariskea –Lilia Frames and Prints by So Young (diaxm)–Uber December 2018
Tree lights on the floor–Maxi Gossamer –Fairy Lights Floor by Maxi Gossamer–mainstore
Tree–Jian –Christmas Tree 2017 by JIAN (jiansl)–mainstore
Corner Chair with yellow pillow–ariskea–Corner nook by So Young (diaxm)–Uber December 2018
books–peaches –The Bates Chair Book Candle by lα peтιтe peαcн (imaginerabbits)–Uber December 2018
side table–ariskea –Lilia Octagonal table by So Young (diaxm)–Uber December 2018
Sled–Goose–Holidays Sledge Merry Christmas by Tyrek Skywalker (tyrek)–mainstore
Red Chair–Peaches –The bates Chair by lα peтιтe peαcн (imaginerabbits)–Uber December 2018
black table–tarte–Kensington table by Alessandra Donato (alixxbella)–mainstore
Hamster in stocking–Mishmish –Hammies and stocking by Aime Takaaki–mainstore
Open boxes–Cuca Designs & Illuzion by Cuore Capalini Carillon (cuore.capalini)–mainstore

On The Way Home

Christmas is doing a little something extra for someone. Charles M. Schulz

Christmas is doing a little something extra for someone. Charles M. Schulz

Before I get into my Christmas post. I want to talk about a few events. Kustom9 is fantastic this round and I spent a ton of money there. I can’t recommend this round enough. Collabor88 only has a few more weeks before a new round begins, so you will have to hurry to get their awesome items by various designers. Eliavah created this really great dress and bomber jacket for Kustom9. I really love the bomber jacket and I can see myself using it time and time again. My hair is by Sintiklia and available at Collabor88 and I love it. I keep buying their hair and adoring it. The backdrop from foxcity brings back some great memories of traveling home for the holidays, which is also from Kustom9. I have a deep love of this company and I am never disappointed. Her poses are truly wonderful. There are so many great items from Collabor88 and my picture features a few of them above. If you like any of the items featured in this photo, please check out my credits.

I’ve always liked Charlie Brown. So when I came across this quote, I knew that it had a place in my blog. I’ve been meaning to post this for a little while, but the holidays sort of had a way of sneaking up on me. Before I knew it, I had to buy gifts and wrap things. I had to find cookies and cards.. and well life took over for a couple of days. The wrapping paper has settled. The bows are now on the presents, displayed on the gifts. The family has been called. Friends have contacted me. Things in my home are a bit more calm. So I finally am writing this post…finally.
I’ve gone through some madness this month in all worlds, so I returned to the one person who  has known me the longest who gave me some perspective, love, and even insight. She reminded me what the holidays truly mean. She grounded me firmly to the ground and she showed me the light, despite the darkness. I have a friend in real life who has literally known me half of my life. Sometimes we all need those people who have known us the longest to say.. this isn’t you.. and it’s okay to need people. She has made her way over to my house many times in the last two months and I have been very grateful for it. But it’s not just her. It was strangers who I also knew in another life, coming back to me and supporting me, when everything fell apart. I had people take away the stress with a phone call and a text. I have been so grateful for those people. For it is them that help me to be the friend that I want to be.
But it’s also the people in second life. The people who have spent time with me and listened to me. The people who stuck by me, when I couldn’t even be there for myself. They too served me a reminder of the person that I want to be and want to continue to be. It is people in life who make us who we are–for better or worse. Some with teach us. Some will support us. And some will surprise us.
When the beginning of December started, I wanted to write this blog with the theme of peace. Yet, my life had been anything but peaceful. It stopped me from promoting the kindness, love, and appreciation in the world, because I was crumbling. I had dealt with fights and misunderstandings, personal disappointments, anger, frustration, and even heartache. It wasn’t the breeding ground for peace because I couldn’t find it in my own life.
I didn’t find peace until a long lost friend stepped forward in real life. She opened up and so did I. It was that time spent sharing tears, joys, and just life in general. She was my gift this holiday season. She reminded me that I was very loved and very missed, in the mess that is life–children, family, and work. It was her light that guided me back to the person that I have always been. I woke up and I had found my peace. She gave that to me through the friendship that I have always known. On my birthday, she had given me a gift–a necklace of an anchor. She told me that I had kept her grounded and her feet firmly planted on the ground to reason. Months later, she became my anchor of reason, when I needed it most. She told me to keep calm and talk through my problems with people and not to run away. She told me that peace was found in dealing with things and seeing past issues and the good in people around me. Then, I would find peace. She was right.

 

I wanted to be more and do more, but I’m not able to do more or be more. She stepped behind the sink and started doing dishes… no questions asked. She just did them. She cleared away the mess. And she said to me, sometimes it’s okay to let someone help clean things up and it’s okay that things aren’t perfect. those who see you, and your struggle who love you….will understand.

In that moment, it had clicked. I had found my peace. In my messy home and imperfect life, I had found my peace. I was able to slowly come back to the computer and slowly make appointments–decisions and be okay. Second life is very much like that. Those who come to love you will understand. They will understand when you have to pull long hours and not be online. They understand that maybe you need complete silence or a few days to sink into an inventory. They understand what you need in your second life. It’s when we find understanding people that we are truly at peace. And sometimes people will show us how to get it, when we don’t know how to find that inner sanctuary.

Before I close this blog post, I want to talk about who inspired my closing, “be kind to one another.” It was Ellen DeGeneres. I have always loved her show and her. I always viewed her as having a lot of strength. She spoke her truth, despite consequences. She lives as the person that she is and not the person people want her to be. There’s a lot of power in that. But also, she has a  very bright light. She was never completely lost by her struggles. She instead gave light, and laughter to others–promoting kindness. I recently watched her latest standup. Someone asked how she never gave up. She tapped into her own light to keep going. I think on this holiday season, when you see the flicker of light on the tree, remember your own light that you give to the world and don’t give up hope. And remember the holidays are about family and friends that also stand by your side, when the lights have gone dim. For those people, they will remind you of your own light. For me, this is the meaning of Christmas–people, love, and hope.

Hug those you love, tell them–virtually and in real life. I hope you all have wonderful laughter with good people around you and the yummiest of food.

Happy Holidays Everyone….and remember

Be Good To One Another

Cheers,

Violet xoxo

Credits

hair–SINTIKLIA–Dana–by Sintiklia (sintikliasims)–Collabor88 December 2018
Dress–Eliavah –Ficceh shirt by e l i a v a h ღ (eliavahazaleia)–Kustom9 December 2018
Jacket–Eliavah –Ficceh bomber by e l i a v a h ღ (eliavahazaleia)–Kustom9 December 2018
Boots–Reign–Lara boots by KENADEE REIGN (kenadeecole)–mainstore

Decor

Backdrop–foxcity –Old Station by Satomi Masukami–Kustom9 December 2018
Piles of Snow–Nomad–Snow landscape pack by Pira (piraiyah.novikov)–Collabor88 December 2018
Milk can with foliage–Trompe Loeil–Yasmine Noel Milk Can by C. Edo (cory.edo)–Collabor88 December 2018
Christmas tree–Half Deer –Bottlebrush Christmas Tree by Halo (halogen.magic)–Collabor88 December 2018
Deer–Mutresse–Chilling Fury Reindeer by Eeky Cioc–The Arcade December 2018
Dog with ball–Fawny–My little Puppy by Stephen (akirakiyoi)–Old gacha item
Rocking chair–Hive–worn windsor rocking chair by hive (thehivestore)–mainstore

Pose–Foxcity –Cold Outside Bento Pose by Satomi Masukami–Kustom9 December 2018

 

Foot Note–I want to make a brief mention about adult photos, since I know some blog adult content. I did a lot of research the other day and found that Flickr had updated their rules about how to share those photos. You are now supposed to only post the picture ..as a copy of the photo, but not with a direct link of the photo. But you are also supposed to provide a link back to flickr. You can read more about how to link adult rated photos to your blog here.

https://help.flickr.com/en_us/share-restricted-content-rktA3QjJQ

The wording is a bit confusing, but you are allowed to share restricted photos that are public, but you can no longer embed the photo into a post. I suspect that this is due to the sex trafficking laws and how they impact companies. Embedding the photo would cause a great deal of confusion for who would be accountable for the content.

But again, you can link restricted photos. You just can’t embed them into your post.

 

 

Christmas Love

 

Love one another and help others to rise to the higher levels, simply by pouring out love. Love is infectious and the greatest healing energy. Sai Baba

 

Love one another and help others to rise to the higher levels, simply by pouring out love. Love is infectious and the greatest healing energy. Sai Baba
I once had someone tell me that .. I never have to explain myself. And I think sometimes..especially in second life, I don’t have to. I tried to decide what to put in this latest blog post, and I’ve written it a bunch of times. I finally have decided not to post in detail about my struggles. I am going through things that are difficult and struggling at this time. Thank you for your patience.
However, I will touch base with a few things though, in regards to flickr and tumblr. Some know about the impending changes on tumblr.  Flickr has gone through a few as well. I tried to post a picture a few days ago, but the middle arrow was gray to me. I don’t post restrictive photos often, but I air on the side of caution in regards to lingerie or anything sexual in nature. Since, I don’t post restrictive content often… it could have been like this for the longest time and I just didn’t know that you can’t link the picture directly to a blog post.
I love blogging and I would hate worrying about my flickr page, so I’m careful. The US imposed a bill making companies responsible for the content on their websites. Meaning, if sex trafficking were to be found on their website, the government would hold the website responsible. So websites have now been responding with strict rules or new rules all together in regards to content.
As much as I enjoy taking scandalous photos from time to time, I will be careful from now on in regards to my blog. Since I do air on the side of caution and I have worked hard on my blog for quite some time, I will try to make everything as pg as possible on my page. Hopefully that law will be looked at again and changed, since I think this punishes users and not the criminals that they’re seeking. I will link an article speaking about the law. This is the reason for why so many sites are changing their rules. I’ve seen a lot of second life residents react to the rules (such as tumblr), but not question why it’s happening. This is the reason that it’s happening.. unfortunately.
The reason I will air on the side of caution is because once censorship begins… one has to wonder where it will stop and one has to wonder how it will effect them. Meaning, I do not want my flickr shut down due to sharing my inworld pictures on my blog (even though I highly doubt that will happen). Again, I am just being careful. Better safe than sorry.
And I will touch base on one final thing, before getting to my credits. I am struggling in my real life. I have bad days. I have good days. Little things can seem bigger than they really are, because of those bad days. So if things upset me, I will tend to back off. I’m not doing it to upset anyone. I am doing it for my own mental health. I’m going through enough in real life and sometimes stepping away from an upsetting situation, until I’m in the mental space to handle it is mandatory. I would hate to say or do something that I regret. Again, thank you for your patience at this time.
Be Kind To One Another
Cheers,
Violet XOXO
credits

violet

Hair–Exile–Monet by Kavar Cleanslate–collabor88 December 2018
Bra–Mossu–Fuzzy Bra by Stephen (akirakiyoi)–Collabor88 December 2018
Panties–Mossu –Fuzzy Panties by Stephen (akirakiyoi)–collabor88 December 2018
Decpr

Rug–Nutmeg–Just a bunch of pillows by Neva Xenga (nevacrystall)–Mainstore
Geen pillow–Sayo–Punchline Pillows by Kayami Osakki (kaysha.piers)–Epiphany December 2018
Tree on right–Soy–Tree Nut Lights by Soyoy–Collabor88 December 2018
Radiator–Second Spaces –Cozy Corner Radiator by Elle Kirshner –Collabor88 December 2018
Decorative–Second Spaces –Cozy Corner tassel by Elle Kirshner–Collabor88 December 2018
Basket–Second Spaces –Cozy Corner Basket by Elle Kirshner–Collabor88 December 2018
Hanging Tree Decor–MG (Maxine Gossamer)–Wishbringer Snowflake Mobile by Maxi Gossamer–Collabor88 December 2018
Brownies–Eliavah –Peppermint Brownies Platter Gold by e l i a v a h ღ (eliavahazaleia)–collabor88 December 2018
Glass of Champagne–ChicChica–Glass Of Champagne Deco by Lilo Denimore–Collabor88 December 2018
Plate of strawberries and cream–ChicChica –Strawberry Dispenser by Lilo Denimore–Collabor88 December 2018
Champagne bottles–ChicChica –Bottle of Champagne by Lilo Denimore–Collabor99 December 2018
Lights on Fireplace–Soy–Fancy Flower String Lights–by Soyoy–Collabor88 December 2018
Stockings on Fireplace–Merak–Holiday Socks by Aɳa Stone (annellystone)–The Arcade December 2018
Fireplace–Apple Fall–Clifton Cast Iron Fireplace by Apple Fall (warehousefifteendesigns)–mainstore

Pose–FMD–Reserved–by Cuore Capalini Carillon (cuore.capalini)–FMD Exclusive
Male Model
Pants–Lenox–Arctic Pants Navy by Leviathan Flux–TMD December 2018

Making memories

When the power of love overcomes the love of power the world will know peace. Jimi Hendrix

When the power of love overcomes the love of power the world will know peace. Jimi Hendrix

Me
hair–Entwined –Vilde–by Bʟᴀɪʀ (vivienmarli)–Uber November 2018
Skirt–Mossu–Festive Skirt by Stephen (akirakiyoi)–Uber November 2018
blouse–Mossu–Festive Sweater by Stephen (akirakiyoi)–uber November 2018
Lipstick–L’etre–Bold Lipstick by Dᴀᴠɪᴅ Cᴏᴏᴘᴇʀ (dam1710)–mainstore new release for genu’s head
Pose–Foxcity–Last Minute Bento Pose by Satomi Masukami–Uber November 2018

 

Yarn–Foxwood–November knitting by Dani (nina.helix)–Kustom9 November 2018
Cat–Foxwood–Sleepy Tabby Decor–by Dani (nina.helix)–Kustom9 November 2018
book on orange throw and mug–Foxwood–November Days by Dani (nina.helix)–kustom9 November 2018
Dog–Foxwood–Delilah–by Dani (nina.helix)–Tannenbaum December 2018
Fireplace–Foxwood–Delilah fireplace by Dani (nina.helix)–Tannenbaum December 2018
Rug–Foxwood–Delilah Rug by Dani (nina.helix)–Tannenbaum December 2018
Chair–Dictatorshop–Chesterfield Wingback adult by Dee (dictatorshop)–mainstore
Books–Nutmeg–Pile of Vintage books–group gift by Neva Xenga (nevacrystall)–mainstore
Tea–Dust Bunny–Woodland Dreams fresh rose tea by Noel Bunny (lxlnoel)–Older Gacha Item
Side table–Nutmeg–Old Wooden Table by Neva Xenga (nevacrystall)–mainstore
plant–Mithral–Basil Philodendron by Evadne Quintessa–Kustom9 November 2018
Lamp–HEXtraordinary–Harvest Lantern by Corwin Lacourte–no longer available.. part of decoCrate.
Pictures frames–what next –Autumn pictures shelf by Winter Thorn–mainstore

 

It is a fine seasoning for joy to think of those we love. Moliere

It is a fine seasoning for joy to think of those we love. Moliere
Violet (me) ♥

Hair–exile–Daphne by Kavar Cleanslate–Epiphany December 2018
Sweater–Eliavah–Lazy Day Sweater by e l i a v a h ღ (eliavahazaleia)–The Arcade December 2018–Rare
Leggings–Evani–Amber Leggings by ɴᴇꜱꜱᴀ (evastika.aura)–Uber
Camera–[Since1975]–Polaroid cam by ocean Craft–gift

Male Model
Pants–FashionNatic–Liam Jogger by ஜєℓєиαஜ (ellen.moonites)–Mancave December 2018
Hair-Doux–Troy by Dᴀᴠɪᴅ Cᴏᴏᴘᴇʀ (dam1710)–mainstore
Pose–Foxcity –Breakfast Bento Pose by Satomi Masukami–Uber November 2018

Kitchen Decor

Counter and island–Dust Bunny –Small Space Kitchen, sink, cabinet by Noel Bunny (lxlnoel)–mainstore
Mixer–22796–kitchen machine by Paco Pooley–Epiphany December 2018
Cutting board with carrots–Dust Bunny –Homemade soup prep bowl by Noel Bunny (lxlnoel)–mainstore
bagels–Tentacio –healthy bagels by May Tolsen–Kustom9 November 2018
Unicorn cookie jar–Dust Bunny –Unicorn cookie jar by Noel Bunny (lxlnoel)–mainstore
Candy Canes in Cup–DAD–Oh My Christmas Cake–Green Candy mug by sheerpetal Roussel–Epiphany December 2018
Penguin mugs–what next–Wintertime Hot Cocoa by Winter Thorn–mainstore
Muffins–Tentacio –muffins breakfast by May Tolsen–mainstore
Cake with Kiwi on top–Apple Fall -Kiwi and Blueberry Cheesecakes–by Apple Fall (warehousefifteendesigns)–mainstore
Sketchpad with cookies–Apple Fall–Macaroons on sketchbook by Apple Fall (warehousefifteendesigns)–mainstore
Soup Bowls–Dust Bunny –Homemade soup bowls holder by Noel Bunny (lxlnoel)–mainstore
Pitcher with spoons and utensils–nutmeg–by Neva Xenga (nevacrystall)–mainstore
Utensil holder (brown bowl)–Nutmeg–Store Utensil Holder by Neva Xenga (nevacrystall)–mainstore
Stove–Birdy–Forest Kitchen –Oven Light Rare by Dani (nina.helix)–The Arcade December 2018–Rare
Copper Pan–Dust Bunny –Homemade Soup Pot of soup copper by Noel Bunny (lxlnoel)–mainstore
Gingerbread cookies–Eliavah –Christmas Munchies– Gingerbread Plate by e l i a v a h ღ (eliavahazaleia)–The Arcade December 2018
Bottle of Cocoa–Random Matter–Magical Holidays Cocoa Bottles by 슬기 sᴇᴜʟɢɪ (nikohl.hax)–Epiphany December 2018
Mug of hot cocoa on kitchen island–Eliavah –Christmas Munchies–gingerbread hot chocolate–The Arcade December 2018
Truffles–Eliavah —-Christmas Munchies–peppermint truffles–by e l i a v a h ღ (eliavahazaleia) -The Arcade December 2018
Cake Pops blue–Eliavah –Christmas Munchies–Cake pop Tin by e l i a v a h ღ (eliavahazaleia)–The Arcade December 2018
Cake Pops Green–Eliavah –Christmas Munchies–Cake Pop Tin Christams–by e l i a v a h ღ (eliavahazaleia)–The Arcade December 2018

 

Normally, I don’t post a picture and credits first, BUT I have been a very busy girl in all world. As you can see above, I’ve been busy shopping and decorating (in both worlds!). I debated making this two separate posts. But I took the first picture and then received a few things from one of my sponsors and I wanted to make it a series. And so here we are.

There are a TON of great shopping right now. I’ve been to Kustom9, Tannenbaum, The Arcade, Uber, The epiphany, and black friday shopping.. whew so much shopping. And I did some real life shopping too….my poor wallet. But as you can see, I’ve been super busy planning this photo. This holiday season, you will see warm and cozy posts, featuring some great pieces by creators. They have surely been working super hard and it shows.

I’ve had some worried friends online and I want to assure everyone… I really am okay. I’ve been really busy in both worlds. Managing the holidays and physical therapy is definitely challenging. And I’ve had a few tough days thrown into the mix. Things will calm down soon. I’m sure of it. But I am working hard to create pictures that  I can be proud of.. and I hope that you like them too.

I have included all of my credits, below the photos. I thought this may be a bit easier to navigate due to the amount of items in each picture. My theme for this month with Peace, love, and joy. I encourage all residents to put issues aside, come together, and be friendly. Peace on Earth …good will toward one another is the true essence of the holidays. Lets love one another enough to care about each other. We can not live without the help of each other…and humanity can be a beautiful gorgeous part of life, when we seek the positive out of life. I hope you fill your heart with love and share that love with others this wonderful holiday season

Much love, Violet XOXO

Be Kind To One Another.. and lets try taking care of each other this holiday season ♥

 

A Time To Be Thankful

When you practice gratefulness, there is a sense of respect toward others. Dalai Lama

When you practice gratefulness, there is a sense of respect toward others. Dalai Lama

I am incredibly thankful for a lot of things this year. One, I’m thankful that I’m here. I was watching a show called Lost Girl. There’s a line from a character who talks about how having life is so special. You have memories good, bad, and everything in between, but you have them. You have a chance to make them, no matter what you’re going through. No matter your hardship. You are living. I am living and that in itself is something to be grateful for. That one line changed me. Of course, I didn’t write the line word for word. it is paraphrased. It is definitely food for thought.
Then, I came across this quote. You open a door for someone. They respond with the common thank you. It is a sign of appreciation and respect in the act itself. It is the recognition of kindness being noticed. Showing others that they are thought of.. and appreciated is so incredibly special. Then you have the recognition of what someone else is doing for you. It’s always always always important to show others gratitude. It’s important to let them know that any act of kindness no matter how big or small is appreciated. It’s something that maybe is lacking–our outward appreciation of the positive actions done to us by others.
It’s Thanksgiving here. And I love reminding myself to tell people what they mean to me. It’s a practice that has given me a lot of meaning. It softens the soul, knowing that others care for each other. We are all meaningful and we are all important to others–even strangers. I rely a lot on strangers, family, and friends. There is no way that I couldn’t have all those people on my mind. Sometimes the people who have helped me the most in the last year has been complete strangers in my real life. People helping me into wheel chairs, opening doors, and helping me in any way they can. I’ve been helped by medical staff. I’ve been helped by friends who visit to raise my spirits. Even inworld, I see that same kindness. So I try to practice gratitude as often as I can. This year has definitely taught me that people help and aid others, even when they themselves are struggling and sometimes I am never aware of those struggles. I had a cancer patient open a door for me. There was no way that I could help her, other than show her my appreciation. The only thing she asked of me was to pay it forward to others. And I have every intention to do so.
So in the spirit of gratitude, I want to thank the designers and creators who work so incredibly hard to create these beautiful items featured in this photo. I want to start off with this fantastic dress. I can not gush enough about this dress. I love it… I really do. I think this may be one of my favorite dresses. I plan on wearing this again quite a bit. It’s just gorgeous and the detail is beautifully done. You can find it at Equal10 by Eliavah and it’s called Serenade. My hair is from SINTIKLIA and called Gigi, which is available at collabor88. You’ll have to hurry though, because before you know it.. the next round will begin. My flower crown is by Lode and it’s called Lilu, and you can find it at this latest round of the chapter four. Ali (the blond) is wearing the same flower crown, but in a different color, She is also wearing a top from moon elixir and it’s called night bloom, which is available at this months romp. It’s a really cute set with options to color the straps and remove the pom poms. Ali’s hair is from Rama and you can find it at Equal 10. There are some really great events and sales going on with black friday and a lot of them have already started. So get out there and bring a friend. Let the shopping begin.
If you liked any of the above items, please check out my credits below.
Be kind to one another and show your thanks this holiday season. Happy Thanksgiving ♥♥♥
Cheers,
Violet XOXO
Credits.

Hair–SINTIKLIA–Gigi by Sintiklia (sintikliasims)–Collabor88 November 2018
Flower crown–LODE–Lilu Wreath by Chirzaka RV (chirzaka.vlodovic)–Chapter four November 2018
Dress–Eliavah–Serenade dress–by e l i a v a h ღ (eliavahazaleia)–Equal10 November 2018
Fox–jian–held red fox by JIAN (jiansl)–mainstore

Ali (the blond)

Hair–Rama–avril by Katarina Monk–Equal10 November 2018
Bra–Moon Elixir –Night bloom by ElixirBlack–Romp November 2018
hair crown–LODE–Lilu Wreath by Chirzaka RV (chirzaka.vlodovic)–Chapter four November 2018
lower part of the body.. dear half–Tentacio and {Psychio-Byts} by ƪιƪ ϻοמšҭёѓ (psikotik.gothly) and May Tolsen–old gacha item on mp

Decor

Sheep with flower in mouth–Black Bantam–baby lamp pose 6 by Stasey Olle–kustom9 November 2018
Sheep to the left–fawny–Dolly the sheep by Stephen (akirakiyoi)–old gacha item
Turkey–Jian–Turkey Collection by JIAN (jiansl)–mainstore
Faun–Jian–fallow faun by JIAN (jiansl)
fountain–HEXtraordinary –The faun fountain by Corwin Lacourte–mainstore
Grass–HPMD–wild grasses by Sasaya (sasaya.kayo)–mainstore