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If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. Wayne Dyer

I’ve been trying to catch up with my blog posts. While catching up with my blog posts, I’ve gone through a few really tough moments in both words. It’s hard sometimes to play catch up in any world. Also, when you’re not at your strongest, it seems like the world can see that moment of weakness and play upon it. I hate to think people do that in any world, but I know people do. So in the midst of frustration over playing catch up, I found this quote.

Sometimes you’re going to fail, or be rejected. It’s really hard not to take it personally. Either you body will fail to do what it’s supposed to do. Or maybe you get rejected from a potential job, or even relationship. It’s so incredibly easy to lash out. It’s easy to get angry and upset. It may even be our first reaction to the situation. BUT, the best thing a person can do is vent… get it out of your system to someone you trust. Then, move on emotionally, look at the situation critically and analyze your actions. Can I change my behavior so this doesn’t happen again? Can I look at this situation as a learning experience?

I believe that every experience a person has can ultimately teach us something about ourselves. I’ve seen time and time again people lash out on social media, get angry, and total lose their cool. No matter what happens to you…. no matter what is said to you, no matter what is done to you, there is one thing that will always save you and that is yourself. How you react to any given situation can either doom you or can save you in the future. You get rejected. Thank them for the opportunity and walk away. No good ever comes from lashing out. I once read a Joan Rivers book and she gave me the best advice that I’ve ever received. Don’t get mad or seek revenge on someone in a business situation, because you never know when that person will be your boss one day or vice versus.

I bring all of this up because I’ve had a lot of time to think about failure and rejection. I’ve even dealt with failure and rejection. It’s never fun to deal with those issues but they are always teachable moments. Maybe we have them to humble us. It may even be the match that lights the fire. It drives us to work harder, be more, and push us. I don’t look at failure or rejection as a personal attack on me or my work. I look at it as a learning experience… a chance to improve. When you look at a situation in a different light, the situation changes. A negative can become a positive.

In the past month, I’ve had to go through a huge emotional upheaval. I think all residents can relate to going through things either in second life or real life that plagues the mind. You get this one moment or quote that makes a person stop in their tracks. I had to look at my health and not focus on the difficult road in front of me–future surgeries, physical therapy, and pain. I could focus on all that hardship and focus on it. OR I can look at how it will shape me to be a better person. I can look at everything as an opportunity to feel better. If I spend all my time focusing on the negative, I miss out enjoying all the good parts of life. So perception is everything… How our view of what happens to us or around us impacts our life and even the people around us.

So I don’t want people to fear the winds of change. I don’t want to fear change myself. Rather I’m taking the journey of change…humbled and thankful. I know this blog post is more reflection than blog, but it’s a reminder to me and maybe to others too… keep your chin up and work hard. You will get to where you want to be or destined to be, just keep trying and moving along. You WILL get there. Also if you must seek revenge, I take the advice from beyonce… work harder my friends. I have never regretted working harder…ever. And when possible, work smarter…not harder. That’s it for my wise words of wisdom. And when I say work harder, I don’t mean taking on too many commitments. I mean..take something you love to do and hone your skills. Do something that you enjoy and work hard at it. You will get personal joy and growth over time.

Finally, I’m going to talk about my blog. There are a ton of items featured by events. My shoes are from Cosmopolitan by Utopia@Design. My shirt if from Eliavah and available at the fabulous… Au Lovely event (I would not miss this event). I keep going back and buying things. Also my pants are from the ever fashionable Ison and available at one of my favorite events..Collabor88. I also bought the leaves and dog at Kustom9. The dog is from Black Bantam. The leaves were purchased at Kustom9 from [anc}. The two chairs are from Fri. and sold at Collabor88. The bunnies and squirrels with books are available at The Arcade. The door, pictures, and decor on the stool are from Collabor88. As you can see, there are many many many items from various events. Shopping is wonderful right now and there is no better way to bring in autumn than with a new do, nice clothes, and some fresh furniture. Hey, I had to get a dog in there too. I do love my animals. So if you like any of the items features in the picture above, please check out my credits.

Remember… keep your chin up and find something to smile about today.

Be kind to one another

Cheers,

Violet XOXO

Credits

hair–Entwined –Charlotte–by Bʟᴀɪʀ (vivienmarli)–Au Lovely September 2018
Blouse–Eliavah–Amaranthine Blouse by e l i a v a h ღ (eliavahazaleia)–Au Lovely September 2018
Jeans–ISON–Livie Ripped jeans by Harry Hyx–Collabor88 September 2018
Shoes–Utopia@Design–Robin by Elisabetta Hyun–Cosmopolitan September 2018
Decor
Painting on left–Madras –Adoora Welcome Autumn Frame by Karthikeyan Engineer–collabor88 September 2018
painting on right–madras –Adoora Mt. Kusatsu Shirane Frame by Karthikeyan Engineer–Collabor88 September 2018
Jars–Madras –Jar Decors by Karthikeyan Engineer–Collabor88 September 2018
Door–Madras –Adoora Welcome Door Decor by Karthikeyan Engineer–Collabor88 September 2018
Stool–Madras –Adoora Stool Decor by Karthikeyan Engineer–collabor88 September 2018
tiny bag–Madras –Adoora Door Stopper by Karthikeyan Engineer–Collabor88 September 2018
rug–tarte –Farmhouse rug by Alessandra Donato (alixxbella)–mainstore
Dog–black bantam–Best in show yorkies gacha by Stasey Oller–Kustom9 September 2018
Bunny on blanket–Birdy–Loafs Bunny dark by Dani (nina.helix)–The Arcade September 2018
Bunny in planter–++half deer++–Forest Sonata bunny planter white by Halo (halogen.magic) –The Arcade September 2018
squirrels with books and glasses–++Half Deer++–Forest Sonata books dark by Halo (halogen.magic)–The Arcade September 2018
white blanket with lights–++half deer++–Blanket Clutter–all colors by Halo (halogen.magic)–Collabor88 2018
Chairs with cushions and pillows–Fri–Pallet lounge A and B light by Darling Monday–Collabor88 September 2018
Leaves–{anc}–autumn leaves red by aki69–Kustom9 September 2018
Skybox–[ba]–Paris Penthouse–by Barnesworth Anubis–collabor88 September 2018