Seasons Change

 

 

If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. Wayne Dyer

 

If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. Wayne Dyer

I’ve been trying to catch up with my blog posts. While catching up with my blog posts, I’ve gone through a few really tough moments in both words. It’s hard sometimes to play catch up in any world. Also, when you’re not at your strongest, it seems like the world can see that moment of weakness and play upon it. I hate to think people do that in any world, but I know people do. So in the midst of frustration over playing catch up, I found this quote.
Sometimes you’re going to fail, or be rejected. It’s really hard not to take it personally. Either you body will fail to do what it’s supposed to do. Or maybe you get rejected from a potential job, or even relationship. It’s so incredibly easy to lash out. It’s easy to get angry and upset. It may even be our first reaction to the situation. BUT, the best thing a person can do is vent… get it out of your system to someone you trust. Then, move on emotionally, look at the situation critically and analyze your actions. Can I change my behavior so this doesn’t happen again? Can I look at this situation as a learning experience?
I believe that every experience a person has can ultimately teach us something about ourselves. I’ve seen time and time again people lash out on social media, get angry, and total lose their cool. No matter what happens to you…. no matter what is said to you, no matter what is done to you, there is one thing that will always save you and that is yourself. How you react to any given situation can either doom you or can save you in the future. You get rejected. Thank them for the opportunity and walk away. No good ever comes from lashing out. I once read a Joan Rivers book and she gave me the best advice that I’ve ever received. Don’t get mad or seek revenge on someone in a business situation, because you never know when that person will be your boss one day or vice versus.
I bring all of this up because I’ve had a lot of time to think about failure and rejection. I’ve even dealt with failure and rejection. It’s never fun to deal with those issues but they are always teachable moments. Maybe we have them to humble us. It may even be the match that lights the fire. It drives us to work harder, be more, and push us. I don’t look at failure or rejection as a personal attack on me or my work. I look at it as a learning experience… a chance to improve. When you look at a situation in a different light, the situation changes. A negative can become a positive.
In the past month, I’ve had to go through a huge emotional upheaval. I think all residents can relate to going through things either in second life or real life that plagues the mind. You get this one moment or quote that makes a person stop in their tracks. I had to look at my health and not focus on the difficult road in front of me–future surgeries, physical therapy, and pain. I could focus on all that hardship and focus on it. OR I can look at how it will shape me to be a better person. I can look at everything as an opportunity to feel better. If I spend all my time focusing on the negative, I miss out enjoying all the good parts of life. So perception is everything… How our view of what happens to us or around us impacts our life and even the people around us.
So I don’t want people to fear the winds of change. I don’t want to fear change myself. Rather I’m taking the journey of change…humbled and thankful. I know this blog post is more reflection than blog, but it’s a reminder to me and maybe to others too… keep your chin up and work hard. You will get to where you want to be or destined to be, just keep trying and moving along. You WILL get there. Also if you must seek revenge, I take the advice from beyonce… work harder my friends. I have never regretted working harder…ever. And when possible, work smarter…not harder. That’s it for my wise words of wisdom. And when I say work harder, I don’t mean taking on too many commitments. I mean..take something you love to do and hone your skills. Do something that you enjoy and work hard at it. You will get personal joy and growth over time.
Finally, I’m going to talk about my blog. There are a ton of items featured by events. My shoes are from Cosmopolitan by Utopia@Design. My shirt if from Eliavah and available at the fabulous… Au Lovely event (I would not miss this event). I keep going back and buying things. Also my pants are from the ever fashionable Ison and available at one of my favorite events..Collabor88. I also bought the leaves and dog at Kustom9. The dog is from Black Bantam. The leaves were purchased at Kustom9 from [anc}. The two chairs are from Fri. and sold at Collabor88. The bunnies and squirrels with books are available at The Arcade. The door, pictures, and decor on the stool are from Collabor88. As you can see, there are many many many items from various events. Shopping is wonderful right now and there is no better way to bring in autumn than with a new do, nice clothes, and some fresh furniture. Hey, I had to get a dog in there too. I do love my animals. So if you like any of the items features in the picture above, please check out my credits.
Remember… keep your chin up and find something to smile about today.
Be kind to one another
Cheers,
Violet XOXO
Credits

hair–Entwined –Charlotte–by Bʟᴀɪʀ (vivienmarli)–Au Lovely September 2018
Blouse–Eliavah–Amaranthine Blouse by e l i a v a h ღ (eliavahazaleia)–Au Lovely September 2018
Jeans–ISON–Livie Ripped jeans by Harry Hyx–Collabor88 September 2018
Shoes–Utopia@Design–Robin by Elisabetta Hyun–Cosmopolitan September 2018
Decor
Painting on left–Madras –Adoora Welcome Autumn Frame by Karthikeyan Engineer–collabor88 September 2018
painting on right–madras –Adoora Mt. Kusatsu Shirane Frame by Karthikeyan Engineer–Collabor88 September 2018
Jars–Madras –Jar Decors by Karthikeyan Engineer–Collabor88 September 2018
Door–Madras –Adoora Welcome Door Decor by Karthikeyan Engineer–Collabor88 September 2018
Stool–Madras –Adoora Stool Decor by Karthikeyan Engineer–collabor88 September 2018
tiny bag–Madras –Adoora Door Stopper by Karthikeyan Engineer–Collabor88 September 2018
rug–tarte –Farmhouse rug by Alessandra Donato (alixxbella)–mainstore
Dog–black bantam–Best in show yorkies gacha by Stasey Oller–Kustom9 September 2018
Bunny on blanket–Birdy–Loafs Bunny dark by Dani (nina.helix)–The Arcade September 2018
Bunny in planter–++half deer++–Forest Sonata bunny planter white by Halo (halogen.magic) –The Arcade September 2018
squirrels with books and glasses–++Half Deer++–Forest Sonata books dark by Halo (halogen.magic)–The Arcade September 2018
white blanket with lights–++half deer++–Blanket Clutter–all colors by Halo (halogen.magic)–Collabor88 2018
Chairs with cushions and pillows–Fri–Pallet lounge A and B light by Darling Monday–Collabor88 September 2018
Leaves–{anc}–autumn leaves red by aki69–Kustom9 September 2018
Skybox–[ba]–Paris Penthouse–by Barnesworth Anubis–collabor88 September 2018

 

pose–foxcity—partition by Satomi Masukami–kustom9

 

Just a quick note… If you like these shoes, you will have to hurry. Cosmopolitan closes on the 22nd.

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The Magician

 

 

As I make my slow pilgrimage through the world, a certain sense of beautiful mystery seems to gather and grow. A. C. Benson

 

 

 

As I make my slow pilgrimage through the world, a certain sense of beautiful mystery seems to gather and grow. A. C. Benson
I’ve had a whirl wind of a week with a lot of surprises. First and foremost, I’d like to thank Utopia for adding me to their bloggers group. I was completely taken by surprise and I am incredibly thankful for the opportunity. I hope that I can make Utopia@Design proud. Again, thank you so much for adding me to your blogging family.
Okay, now I have to talk about Collabor88’s birthday bash! As many know, I absolutely adore C88. I’ve been having a love affair with this event, since I started blogging. I look forward to the birthday bash every year. It remains to be one of my favorite events on the grid.
So it is my pleasure to say, this round is ridiculously fabulous. I should just hand over the designers my wallet now. There’s just so many wonderful items that I will be blogging this event a bit this month, but some of my favorite items are from this event. Every year, I find myself wearing things over and over again from the birthday round, so it really isn’t an event to be missed.
The picture above was inspired by Eliavah’s flower hairpin and dress. You can find this beautiful dress at Collabor88. The hairpin is available at Okinawa Summer event. This beautiful pin is called nightbloom. Her dress at collabor88 goes by the name Rafflesia. It’s really lovely. I really wanted to be an elf for a day in this cute little dress. I felt so soft and feminine in this piece. The Okinawa summer event runs until the 31st and you can find this wonderful hairpin there. I have to say that I really love this hairpin and I’m probably going to use it in my hair for another outfit. It’s just so pretty and … I am a sucker for a nice flower. My shoes are at Collabor88. They’re by Pure Poison and they’re called Haley sandals. I really love gladiator type sandals. I have been hoping for awhile that someone would make sandals like these. I will be using these again….shamelessly. I bought sandals like these so long ago, but I can no longer wear them, since they were made pre-mesh, so I was very very very happy to see these. I won’t stop gushing about them–and again you can find these at C88.
Moving right along, there’s so many items in this picture that it deserves two paragraphs…or more :D. My ears are fantasy elf ears and they’re from mandala. I can’t recommend them enough to people. They remain to be some of my favorite items that I use. You can find them at the mainstore. Let’s talk hair for a second. Can we just give little bones a round of applause for her work. If she makes hair, I’m going to buy it. I just hand over my cash willingly and happily. This hair is also available at Collabor88 and is called king. It comes with a styling hud. I have to say styling huds are one of my favorite things that designers create. It gives customers options, when it comes to styling and personal preference. Now onto another company that I use all the time. I’m addicted to them and I have been, since I started. blogging.
On the bottom of the picture, there is an ice cream cone filled with flowers. This is by the wonderful ++half deer++. It’s an older release, but… I really love this item, so we’re including it. It has the appropriate name of Ice Cream flowers. I just want to wear this with every outfit. It’s so dreamy! BUT, the pink and purple crystals in the background, those ARE from this round of collabor88 and.. by …you guessed it–half deer. They go by the name dreamsugar crystal. I knew right away that these deserved to be in a fantasy picture. There’s a bug at the bottom of my screen. It’s from Azoury and called endless butterfly. There are rigged and non rigged versions included. My carriage is from {anc}. Just like half deer, I have so many items from {anc}. I happily pay this company for their products. Putting {anc} together in a photo always creates something truly special. And yes, I’m totally gushing about them. I make no apologies. Totally adore them. This iron carriage can be found at Collabor88 as well.
The flowers are by {anc} and the grass is by Hayabusa Design. I really love grass that sways, like it’s blowing in the wind. Again, {anc} created these star flakes. they’re animated and gorgeous. I found them in my inventory and it’s the first time that I’ve used them. I’m going to use these again too. They just feel special. Mishmish made a baby winged unicorn awhile ago. It’s so cute though. I had to use it. My unicorn is a pet and meant to be worn, but I stole a moment to include her in this picture.
To close this blog, I want to talk about the inspiration for this picture. Really, my inspiration came from {anc}’s carriage and Half Deer’s crystals. They both seemed like something out of a fairy tale. So I knew right away that The Magician was the card for this series. As I started to edit this picture, it became obvious which card the picture should represent. There was just something magical about it. The Magician card in the major arcana means that “the revelations [in your life}  are best applied to the pragmatic and physical aspects, rather then the ephemeral or theoretical.” This is so incredibly significant for me. Some times you go through life and things don’t make sense. Then, life gives you the chance to understand those confusing moments in a practical way–making sense of life.
I’ve made a lot of choices in my life, which turned out to be the right answer for me. Sometimes we have to wander to understand where we are going–or need to go. I’m thankful for my path–with all the smiles and tears. Like that one quote by lady gaga, I like the good days and the bad days, because it means that I’m alive. We make sense of it, when it matters.
Okay that’s my final thought and shopping extravaganza info. There will be more blogs to come covering the Birthday Round of Collabor88, please stay tuned. If you like any of the items featured in the above photo, please check out my credits down below.
Credits

Ears–Mandala –Fantasy Elf Ears by 菊之介王子 (kikunosuke.eel)
Hairpin–Eliavah–Nightbloom Hairpin by e l i a v a h ღ (eliavahazaleia)–Okinawa Summer Event August 2018
Dress–Eliavah–Ruffleasia Dress by e l i a v a h ღ (eliavahazaleia)–Collabor88 August 2018
Hair–Little Bones –King by Nova Faerye—Collabor88 August 2018
Shoes–Pure Poison –Haley Sandals by Shaleene Kenin–Collabor88 2018

Decor

Ice Cream Flowers–++half deer++— Ice cream Flowers by Halo (halogen.magic)
Carriage–{anc}–Iron Carriage by aki69–Collabor88 August 2018
Unicorn–Mishmish–baby winged unicorn by Aime Takaaki
Bugs–Azoury –Endless Butterfly by Mayhem Seetan—Collabor88 August 2018
Crystals–++Half Deer++—Dreamsugar Crystals by Halo (halogen.magic)–Collabor88 2018
Stars–{anc}–Star Flakes by aki69
pillow–Le Poppycock –Every moment by Olivia Lalonde
Flowers–{anc}–Garden “spray” wild flowers by aki69
Grass–Hayabusa –Wind Field of grass and flowers by Motoko Oanomochi

Wheel Of Fortune

Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they were going to be dead by midnight. Extend to them all the care, kindness and understanding you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again. Og Mandino

 

Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they were going to be dead by midnight. Extend to them all the care, kindness and understanding you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again. Og Mandino

There are days, when you’re just not up for writing a blog. Today is one of them. I just haven’t felt well in the last few days. Despite it all, I managed to stop at some events: Kustom9, colabor88, limit8 and even the epiphany. Whew there’s so many places.

Even though this blog will be short, I will cover the events mentioned above. My hair is from Collabor88, along with the bar and donut bar stools, the donut case and goodies inside–except for the top row are also from Collabor88. The top row of donuts in the case come from Limited8 and the Stardust picture is from the epiphany. My dress is available at Kustom9–along with the balloons. Again, I’m sorry this blog is a bit short. If you like anything mentioned in the photo, please check my credits below.

 

Credits

Hair–Little Bones–Geist by Nova Faerye–July 2018 Collabor88
Dress–Osmia –Jasmine silk dress by Hanna Lindberg (gabby111996)–Kustom9 July 2018

Decor
Bakery Display Counter and Bakery Sweets Trays—++Half Deer++ by Halo (halogen.magic)–Collabor88 July 2018
Donuts (top row and I’m holding them)—Pewpew–Donut Tray Multicolor–by Rama Emile Carter (ramadiez.carter)–Limit8 July 2018
balloons–Ariskea –Pastel Balloon Decor by Aris (diaxm)–Kustom9 July 2018
Donut Bar Stool–Nomad–Donut Stool by Pira (piraiyah.novikov)–Collabor88–july 2018
Bar—Nomad–Fast Food Bar Counter by Pira (piraiyah.novikov)–Collabor88 July 2018
Stardust Picture–++Half Deer++–Candy Galaxy Framed Art (stardust) by Halo (halogen.magic) Epiphany July 2018
Straw cup–Ariskea –[sour] pink vase straw–by Aris (diaxm)–Collabor88 July 2018
Pink Lemonade Container–Ariskea –[sour] pink lemonade jar by Aris (diaxm)–Collabor88
Macaroon–+Half Deer++–Macaron Dream buffet by Halo (halogen.magic)–older gacha item
Cake stand–++Half Deer++–Mararon Dream buffet cake stand by Halo (halogen.magic)–older gacha item
Donut serving (white)–++ Half Deer++–Donut Decadence pastel sprinkles by Halo (halogen.magic)–older gacha item
Donut (mocha)–++half Deer++–Donut Decadence Mocha by Halo (halogen.magic)–older gacha item
Donut backdrop–Astralia–Surrealistic backdrops sprinkles by Astralia–older gacha item (it is turned upside down)

Love is Love

 

It doesn't matter if you're black, white, gay, straight, come from different countries, different language... every single person is significant and is meaningful. Michael Franti

This blog post is dedicated to all those who are part of the LGBTQAI community ♥

It doesn’t matter if you’re black, white, gay, straight, come from different countries, different language… every single person is significant and is meaningful. Michael Franti

This blog post took me a little longer to do. I haven’t felt very well this month, so I’m just now putting out a blog post about pride. I hope that everyone is having a great Pride month. In world, Pride is currently raising money for the Trevor Project. It’s a great cause. It’s so important that you go, donate, and purchase items at this month’s Pride event inworld. The Trevor project helps kids who are in crisis within the LGBTQ community. They do some really great work and I fully support them. So please get out there and donate.

To help me create this great photo, I teleported two great friends of mine that have been steady rocks for me. I’ve gone through a lot with those two people, so it made sense to include them. Christian is rocking the pride cape like the superhero that he is, which is available at Riot’s mainstore. Me, I’m wearing the group gift from Villena, which is available at Kustom9 and Poette (the gorgeous blond to my left.. not right oops) is staying cool in this romper available at Summer Fest.

I want to go into Summer Fest because I spent so much money there. I almost spent over my uber budget. So I have to say, it is a great event. I bought a lot of items. Almost everything you  see in this photo is from summer fest–the house, compass, surf board, and ice cream machine.. right to the sandals by Eliavah. I really can’t rave enough about this event enough. I basically redecorated my house with all new furniture from Summer Fest. So i have to thank the designers for really creating some very special items. I do wish that men had a few more options though. I’d like to go shopping with my guy friends 😀 . But, there are some great pieces of furniture. Also, this outfit includes items from various events including: Cosmopolitan, Good Vibes, and Kustom9. For more info, please read down below.

Finally, I’d like to go into this quote a little bit. I truly believe in this way of thinking. Everyone is significant and important. I’ve heard people say that they didn’t feel important. Sometimes what you give people isn’t money, or stuff–those things are nice. However, the relationships that we form in the course of our life have a way of impacting the other people around us. The love from friends, family, spouses, and even strangers can change a persons world and outlook on life. So you are important… just by existing in this world, you are meaningful, loved, and needed. The LGBTQ community has endured hardships and scrutiny. So it’s important to appreciate how far the world has come, but continue to fight the good fight. And… I also think it’s important to tell everyone that they matter in this world, because you do.

You matter. You’re important. Things will get better.

/me gives everyone a huge gigantic warm hug, filled with love and care.

Remember be kind to one another and check out my credits for Decor and Styling

Credits

Hair–Foxy –North by Liza Broono–Kustom9 June 2018
Necklace–Supernatural –Lara–by Sombria Baily–Cosmopolitan June 2018
Sunglasses–Zoom–Daalin Glasses by Jonas Acanthus–Good Vibes Event
Shirt–::Villena::–tank Crop Top–Group gift by Villena (villena.swansen)–Kustom9 June 2018
Sandals–Eliavah–Oasis Baresandals–by e l i a v a h ღ (eliavahazaleia) Summer Fest June 2018

Christian
Cape–Riot –Pride flag cape by Riot (rcade)—available at the mainstore for the month of June 2018

Poette
Hair–Little Bones–Solar by Nova Faerye
Romper–Vanilla Bae –Coco romper by Vanill A Honi (hopey.honi)–Good Vibes June 2018

Furniture

Ice cream vending machine–Dust Bunny –Ice cream vending machine by Noel Bunny (lxlnoel)–summer fest June 2018
Surf board–Blue Sky –Wall surf board by Luca Python–summer fest June 2018
Wall Compass–Blue Sky –Wind Rose bronze by Luca Python–summer fest June 2018
chair–++Half Deer++— Summer Fruit Lounge chair by Halo (halogen.magic)–summer fest June 2018
Cabana–Brocante –Summer Cabana Pink by ValiantCo–summer fest June 2018

Glow

Glow

“Love yourself enough to apologize, forgive, and move forward. It is the most freeing thing you can do.” By Me

It’s a new year, which means a lot of people are making resolutions to get fit and moving. Collabor88 was no stranger to this theme. As a result, designers made all kinds of goodies like yoga pants, sports bras, and even exercise equipment.Once you leave this event, you’ll have everything you need to get inspired for a little fitness program of your own.

Generally, I don’t make too many resolutions myself. I’d like to move a little more like everyone else. The only wish I have for the new year is to be healthier, happier, and kinder. I’d like to love a bit more and show more compassion towards others. I’d like to give to the world–what I need in return. I guess….. I’d like to be a better version of myself. I think lots of people wish that too. Now contemplating all those things, I do have resolutions.

Speaking of  fitness, I felt inspired, so I made an exercise scene of my own for this photo. I found the weights, exercise ball, and yoga mat at Collabor88. The yoga mat comes with a ton of poses. Kalopsia made all of these items. I love this store and I have so many things from them. I always go back to them for those little things that make a home. I can’t gush over them enough. The yoga mat comes with nine different textures: wine, purple, charcoal, pizza, green, beige, soul, pink, and blue. The exercise ball also has texture options of green, blue, and lemon. There’s even a cute little bag available, which says don’t sweat sparkle (not featured in the above photo). I would highly recommend checking them out.

Then, I went to Kustom9 with one of my good friends. We found this adorable workout set from Pumpkin, which is another one of my favorite companies. I have so many pieces from them. I’m happy to see them participating in events. The shirt is called a layered crop top tee. It’s on sale in gray, gray with a barbie written on it, green, black with the logo for thrasher magazine, and plain black. There’s a choice of gray, pink, red, green, orange and gray leaf print, and plain black.  I’m wearing the gray shirt with the Barbie print and pink sweatpants. I really love the detail in the shirt and the pants. For more information, check out my credits at the bottom of this post.

I had so much fun. I really enjoyed the yoga poses, decorating, and dressing up for this picture.I hope that you find something that intrigues or inspires you. I wish you all a happy and safe New Year. I hope that you accomplish goals, fall in love, and have great health for 2017….maybe even make some great memories along the way.

Be kind to one another.

Cheers,

Violet XOXO

Credits

Head–LeLutka–Simone Bento head by Thora Charron
Body–Maitreya –Lara by Onyx LeShelle
Hands–Vista –Prohand Bento by VistaMesh
Shirt–Pumpkin–Layered Crop Tee by Mr. Awesome (yukio.osei)–Kustom9
Pants–Pumpkin –Sweatpants by Mr. Awesome (yukio.osei)–Kustom9
Shoes–Flite –Lowtop Ducks by Liam OJ Simpson (liamcole)
Hair–Magika –Drive by Sabina Gully
Decor

Sign–Kalopsia –Kali’s shelf by Honey Beaubeau Lacey (isabeau.baragula)
Exercise ball–Kalopsia –Kali’s yoga Ball by Honey Beaubeau Lacey (isabeau.baragula)
Weights–Kalopsia –Kali’s weights by Honey Beaubeau Lacey (isabeau.baragula)
Yoga Mat–Kalopsia –Kali’s Yoga Bat by Honey Beaubeau Lacey (isabeau.baragula)
Cat Light–+Half Deer+–Slumber Lamps by Halo (halogen.magic)
Jar–keke –Snow jar by ᴋᴇᴀɴ ᴋᴇʟʟʏ (kean.kelly)–(gacha) check marketplace and main store
Table–MudHoney –Lenore Table by Rayvn Hynes (gacha)–check marketplace and main store