Mistakes

 

 

 

“Do not fear mistakes. You will know failure. Continue to reach out.” Benjamin Franklin

I found this quote at a time contemplating my own mistakes in all worlds. Benjamin Franklin simply meant that mistakes and failures don’t ruin us. They give us opportunities to grow and move on from them. They teach us something about ourselves good and bad. I made a mistake this week, but not the kind where you left your keys on the counter instead of the key ring. It was this blaring mistake with awful consequences. I ended up hurting my friend in the process, which I’ll always be sorry for. I never want to hurt people, yet I do.

Instead of self pity for my own mistakes, I’d rather take a minute to thank people instead, because life is not always about me. Life is about people. The struggles and adversity that people endure becomes a piece of each person–yet does not define them. I’m thankful for a friend who taught me that lesson. Thank you Yumi. Sometimes it is the kindness that people show to one another. They seem to be happy by making others happy. Thank you Manky. It’s the people who spend endless amount of time getting to know their closest friend and teaching them about editing photos—and even how you work this bloody thing called second life. I wouldn’t know how to edit my clothes without you–or how to dress at times. Thank you Matzu. Then, there are those whose life is defined by silliness and a willingness to say anything in hopes of a laugh. The ones who look up events and make you excited. Thank you Kira. Finally, it’s the role-players who lift the spirit of a person behind a screen struggling. I’ll leave that one nameless. I’m thankful for this person none the less. Thank you to the friends who have kept me company in the late hours/early morning by inviting me out to see them dj and host. I love supporting people who love music just as much as I do. I get to shake my booty with the likes of Stormy, Pixie, Lilly, River and Byte. Thank you Mattuh for your funny things that you send me. Thank you Pizzy for sending me a Christmas card on a tough day. You are all an important part of my second life.

I know that all of these people have real lives. They have their own unique struggles. Yet despite all of that, they make time for others in some way. Hopefully by my own screw ups, I learn to appreciate people more and make others feel listened to–and validated. Maybe just maybe, I will learn to whine less and be there for others more. Hopefully, I will learn to shut my mouth and just listen. I even bought a mask to help me with that problem! I’m not a perfect person. I’m flawed. I make mistakes, but I have a good heart–or at least I’d like to think so. We’re all bound to make an error in judgement, but like Benjamin Franklin said those mistakes don’t ruin us. They give us an opportunity to grow and to become better. I can only hope that I am there more for others because the world is bigger than Violet. I hear you. I see you. You are not alone. I’m sending every one of you a virtual hug. Be kind and good to yourselves in your waking hours, because I do care about you.

Finally, I get to talk a little bit about the above photo. I went to Uber two days ago with one of my closest friends. We found this top and mask from Vinyl. I just had to buy it. The mask is called Neo Meddy Mask. The bra and turtleneck are called Scars. Both are available in multiple colors and designs. You will just have to check them out for yourselves!

See credits down below for styling.

Be kind to one another. Cheers.

Violet XOXO

Credits

Head–LeLutka –Simone Bento by Thora Charron
Body–Maitreya –Lara by Onyx LeShelle
Hair–Doe –Sugar by Helyanwe Vindaloo
Ears–Mandala –Simple Ears by 菊之介王子 (kikunosuke.eel)
Jeans–Foxes –Skinny Jeans by Tyr Sinister (tyr.rozenblum)
Eyes–IKON–Charm Eyes by Ikon Innovia
Mask–Vinyl –Neo Meddy Mask by lιттle тoaѕт (sukoshitosuto)
Bra–Vinyl –Scars Bra by lιттle тoaѕт (sukoshitosuto)
Turtleneck–Vinyl –Scars Turtleneck by lιттle тoaѕт (sukoshitosuto)
Hands–Vista –Prohand Bento by VistaMesh

Calm

 

“Those who are free of resentful thoughts surely find peace.” Buddha

Whew, I’m back after a very long and much needed break. I took some time with family and friends. I partied way too hard and I slept even longer. BUT, I’m BACK! I’ve had some time to reflect on this past year. I’ve come a long way in blogging and taking pictures. I’ve gained some awesome followers too. I’m thankful for each and every like and follow. I think it’s incredible, when other people take a liking to my blog. I hope that I can inspire and help those who read my articles, while I take this blogging journey.

Speaking of the journey ahead, we’re in a New Year, which means New Year’s resolutions. I’ve made a few of my own.  I hope to grow as a blogger and photographer. I also wish for a peaceful mind and a peaceful life. Sometimes it can get hectic. I know the past few weeks have been a blur of events. Some were memorable and some will be forgotten. What remains the same is me. I’m still here.

This past year, it was a whirlwind of events. I had numerous doctor’s appointments. I had set backs. I smiled. I cried. I even reconnected with old friends. Now, I’m in the mind set to make goals for myself–however big or small in all worlds. I hope all of you find your happy place in 2017. Life is so incredibly precious. We all should take moments to find joy, wherever we can. For me, it means letting resentments go. Then, according to Buddha, I’ll find my own peace and happy place.

Okay, okay, okay, I’m done with reflecting on the past year. I know you want to get to the goods….what I’m wearing and who I’m wearing.We should really talk about the new changes across the grid. I’m talking about Bento. Ohhh Bento, you put my panties in a bunch. I was so stressed out about you. BUT, it was all for nothing. I proclaimed to friends. I wouldn’t get a Bento head. I ranted and raved about having to make a shape, because I’m stubborn and refuse to buy a shape. For those who don’t know Bento heads have the capability of being edited. You get the seamless look of mesh, while having individuality–which so many residents crave. Alas, I caved. I went into those stores and bought one, after weeks of fretting about which one to buy.

Which head did you buy Vi? Well, I bought the lovely Simone head from LeLutka. Now, now, now, I hear the crowds in the back gasping in shock. WHAT? You bought a LeLutka head? Yes, I did. However, I’ve been a fan of Lelutka and Catwa for a very long time. Lelutka worked with my previous shape a little better. So I decided to go back to an oldie, but a goodie…..LeLutka. The hud is user friendly. It works with any makeup for any of their previous LeLutka mesh heads, which meant I could go back to some of my favorite makeup. Yayyyyy Izzies! Along with makeup, I can now do a few facial movements, which are a little smoother than Catwa’s–in my opinion. The head is 5,000L, but comes with all the animations.

Then, there’s the ease of their Hud. It comes with animations, scalp removal, teeth, face light, eyeshadow, lipstick, and too many other features to mention. To learn more about what the hud includes, you can visit this website LeLutka Bento Head Info Site

Finally, I also broke down and bought the Bento hands, after my skin company released appliers. I wasn’t ready to give up my favorite skin. Thankfully, many skin companies are releasing skin appliers, which are used with the Omega hud. At first, it was a little hard to find, but I found it on the sign for the Bento Hands. The wonderful part is that the Omega hud is inexpensive–at 99L. You wear the omega hud and skin applier at the same time–and just click on the skin applier. Then voila, you’re hands will match.You can find the Omega Hud in the Vista Store 

When you buy the hands, it’s really important to buy the AO as well. The Bento hands work with the AO. Otherwise, it looks a little funny. I purchased the Bento Prohands from Vista. I also bought the Miriam AO, which is sold separately. The hands are 999L and the AO is 1,999L. It’s seems kind of pricey. However, the AO comes with a test hud, which includes animations like making a heart with your hands, taking selfies (it comes with a phone) and cough cough….giving someone the bird–and I don’t mean doves. Okay, this about covers everything bento related.

I’d also like to make a quick note that Bento hands require Bento poses. I found this pose at Kiss Me Poses A lot of pose makers are starting to create poses for these hands. There are a few floating around on the market place. I found this store on the MP.

Before I forget, I want to mention my hair and makeup. My hair is from Doux, which is a branch of L’Etre. I bought my makeup at Studio Exposure called Love Me Baby Eyes and Lips Collection. The fatpack runs about 600L. My hair from Doux is called Scarlet. For any more information, check out my credits below.

As always, be kind to one another. Happy New Year!

Violet XOXO

Credits

Head–LeLutka –Simone bento Head by Thora Charron
Body–Maitreya –Lara by Onyx LeShelle
Hair–Doux –Scarlet–by David Cooper
Eyeshadow–Studio Exposure –Love Me Baby Eyes and Lips By Aeons (aeonsgloom)
Lipstick-Izzie’s –Free Natural Lip appliers for LeLutka by Izzie Button
Hands–Vista –Bento Prohands by VistaMesh
Skin–DeeTalez–Jolie by deetalez.com (steffi.villota)
Pose–Kiss Me Poses–Peace Hud–by ღMɪsᴛʏღ™ (midnightmistxx)
Eyes–IKON –Charm Eyes–by Ikon Innovia

 

Garden Party

My happiness grows in direct proportion to my acceptance, and in inverse proportion to my expectations. Michael J. Fox

Hello my lovely readers! I’ve had such a busy week. Life never seems to slow down. It only gets quicker over time. Speaking of time, this month flew by in a flash. There have been so many events.

Before I get into the fun of shopping on the grid, I want to talk a little bit about my quote. I think the hardest thing in life is acceptance. Life never goes as anyone plans. I’ve had to accept many things over time and my expectations in life have sometimes been fulfilled–but other times…not so much. Everyone has something they expect in life and everyone has something to accept. Michael J. Fox got this quote so right–and it will leave me thinking about it–even after this post.

To be happy, for me, I have to learn to accept the things that can not be changed. I also work on not letting my expectation effect me. If you never expect anything from anyone, they will never disappoint you. This is so much easier to read than to accept. Okay, this is my  Yoda wisdom for today.

Now, for the fun stuff, I’m talking about shopping. Kustom9 has this really pretty hair from Beusy. It also comes with a detachable headband. ISON made this gorgeous dress for Collabor88’s birthday bash. LaGyo created my nose ring and mouth piece for C88’s event as well. I adore it and I’m in love. You only have a little while though, because Collabor88 will only be open a bit longer–until it’s next round on the 8th of September.

So you better hurry!

Be kind to one another and have fun 🙂

Violet XOXO

Credits

Head–Catwa–Annie by Catwa.Clip (catwa.clip)
Body–Maitreya–Lara by Onyx LeShelle
Nose ring and mouth piece–LaGyo –Desdemona set by LaGyo (gyorgyna.larnia)
Necklace–Yummy–Talisman Charms Protection by Polyester Partridge
Hair–Beusy–Sweet Alcohol–Kustom9 by Becca (colorless)
Dress–ISON–Baroque Dress–Collabor88 by Harry Hyx
Eyelashes–L’Etre –The epiphany lashes–Rare by Dᴀᴠɪᴅ Cᴏᴏᴘᴇʀ (dam1710)
Eyes–IKON –Triumph eyes by Ikon Innovia
Skin–DeeTalez–Octavia by deetalez.com (steffi.villota)

Out Here

 

 

 

“I don’t love Photoshop; I like imperfection. It doesn’t mean ugly. I love a girl with a gap between her teeth, versus perfect white veneers. Perfection is just… boring. Perfect is what’s natural or real; that is beauty.” Marc Jacobs

I’ve been looking forward to writing this blog for so many reasons. For one, it meant that I was well enough to sit at a computer without having to take breaks. Another reason, I had the best experience in SL out of the entire time here. I have so much to talk about in this post. So lets get started, shall we….

A few weeks ago, I took a journey in participating in an auction for Pulse. I won a bid and I was princess for a day in Collabor88’s royal kingdom. I had a princess chair and crown. I went with my best friend inworld. I danced. I shopped. I had a ball. I met a few people. I was shocked at their kindness towards me. I was in awe. It may not be something that ever happens to me again in second life and I’m okay with that. It was a wonderful experience. I have no complaints. I only have admiration for the owners of the event and the creators of the merchandise. I saw designers setting up and getting ready for the big day. I felt like a fly on the wall and I couldn’t believe it.

I want to discuss why I donated and why it has been such a presence in my blog lately. In my real life, the pictures of those effected, I saw as my family, friends, and loved ones-virtual and those who I hug in my real life. I felt compelled to give back in the only way that I can right now–which means a donation. I would have given that money either way. I didn’t expect anything in return, but I decided to bid. I participated to help others, but also to shine a bright spot in my life and the life of my friend. It cheered us up. After seeing the news, one can feel so sad. BUT, people were kind at C88. I think even in a virtual world the smallest kindness can go a long way.

Despite anything you ever read about in second life, I always hold out the hope that kindness can be found in a virtual world and real life. I saw that hope, when I attended the Collabor88 birthday bash. I’m so thankful that C88 has brought that happiness to many others. Thank you creators and designers for giving my friend and I a second life dream come true. Thank you for the hours you spend making beautiful things–for the rest of us to enjoy. We take it for granted sometimes, but without you, second life would not be the creative place that it is.

My dress, sunglasses, hair, and crown can all be found at this wonderful event. I have to say the owner of Commoner is a very nice person. I’m so glad to talk with him–very sweet person. And it doesn’t hurt that those glasses are fantastic! The dress is by Blueberry, and the hair is by Beusy. If you would like more information, check out my links below. Thanks!

Whew, okay …Now get out there and go to COLLABOR88. It’s really good this round. 😉

Cheers

Violet XOXO

Credits

Head–Catwa –Annie–by Catwa.Clip (catwa.clip)
Body–Maitreya –Lara by Onyx LeShelle
Hair–Beusy –Salacia Queen Mesh Hair (comes with crown) by Becca (colorless)
Dress–Blueberry –Scarlet by Blueberry (blueberryxx)
Glasses–Commoner –Masquerade Sunglasses by Emery Milneaux
Eyes–IKON–Triumph by Ikon Innovia
Skin–DeeTalez–Susanna by deetalez.com (steffi.villota)