Patience

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“How poor are they that have not patience! What wound did ever heal but by degrees?”

William Shakespeare

I’ve never been one to have much patience. I blame technology. Everything is available at the click of a button, these days. When it comes to matters of health or even the human spirit though, the option to heal at the click of a button isn’t really an option. It takes time. I’m dealing with both at the moment. My posts are reflecting how I feel. Even inworld, I struggle. I’ve mentioned chronic pain in previous posts. I stopped taking medication to control the pain. As a result, my mood has not been great. I’m also dealing with other things at the moment. I’m asking residents just to be a little patient with me.

In the next few weeks, there is a chance of surgery. So I may end up taking a short break from the virtual world to heal those parts of me that are hurting. Fear not though loyal readers, when that day comes, I’ll let you all know. The recovery time is extensive so I have no idea how long my absence will entail. BUT, this will heal me and take care of that pesky pain, which I’ve dealt with for almost two years now. I’m hoping for approval right now from doctors.

In addition to health, I’m not sure that my time in second life will ever be the same. I’m not sure, if I’ll ever be the same again. I need patience inworld and in my real life at the moment. It’s not the easiest. I’m struggling with all my worlds. So maybe that break to heal my broken body will also help a cracked heart too.

Meanwhile I’ve been watching a show to help with some of that down time.  I linked an episode of Steven Universe that reminded me to go through the motions of my feelings. A dear friend got me hooked. I have to find my happy to be okay–especially with surgery. Recovery is long and painful. There’s also a lot of work to be done afterwards. But I know this will give me some quality of life back. I also need time to heal from sl stuff too. I’ll figure out how to heal eventually. Okay enough talk about all of that……onto the picture at hand.

Now, I want to talk a little bit about my outfit. I went shopping with my shopping buddy Kira. We both found this wonderful outfit from Villena called a lace up skirt and V top. There are many options available. You can find it at this month’s Uber. I have to say this round is excellent, so it may require a little patience to get there. It’s worth it though. For more styling info see the credits below.

Be kind to one another and I’ll try to do the same.

I’ll be around 🙂

Cheers,

Violet

Credits

Lace up skirt–Villena by Kambi (villena.swansen)
V Neck Top–Villena by Kambi (villena.swansen)
Hair–Rowne –Salon Sanna Hair by Fashionboi Landar

*My picture seems to be having issues. I’ll try to fix it later.

 

 

 

Time

 

 

Time

 

“It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light.” Aristotle

I really hope that everyone is having a good start to spring. It’s one of my favorite times of the year, because I know summer and warmer temperatures are right around the corner. I could use a bit of both. I hope others are planning fun things for sunnier days. I know these past few weeks haven’t been the happiest on my flickr–or even in my blogs. I haven’t been in a good place, so I returned to real life. I reminded myself of all the things that are the most important to me. I think that’s important. Virtual worlds are wonderful, but there are times when things can become difficult. There is something to be said for a good meal in a restaurant and a day of walking around.

I thought a lot about my time in this big/little virtual world. I made a home here in a way. The friends have left impressions on me. I have left impressions on them too–sometimes good, sometimes bad. I am deliciously imperfect and full of flaws. I’m not saintly. I’m not perfect. I’m full of folly–like most people. I’ll be the first to admit it. Once, I had a very dear friend of mine in real life who told me every person you meet battles demons. Both her parents have now passed from alcoholism….way before their time–and no she is not an sl resident–just a very dear rl friend. She taught me a lot about mistakes, going through dark moments, redemption, and finding the light in every special moment that graces your history. I’ve been so incredibly lucky that my sl story had good friends surrounding me, in my most darkest and vulnerable of moments. I’m even luckier to know people in my real life who have guided me through some tough things also.

I think about time, because I grapple with it. How I spend it? Where I spend it? Who  I spend it with. And what it means to me. I don’t value time the way that I should. I don’t even come close. I’m spending my whole life learning how to respect–myself and other people–which takes…time. It all comes down to time in real life and second life. How we spend it defines who we become. Our friends become reflections of us. Our goals are shaped by what we do. I always say time is precious. It really is. It took me a lot of thought this week to realize that I don’t regret the relationships that I’ve made in any way. Each person who has crossed my path has taught me something by giving me their time–both good and bad…..and everything in between.

Whew, okay those are my heavy thoughts. Now onto the important stuff, I stopped by the skin fair and changed up my skin a bit, but I stuck with DeeTalez. I love their skin. I also found this wonderful lingerie by Erratic at this month’s Collabor 88. You may have to hurry though. The end of the month is nearing and the next round is right around the corner.

Before I end this…. I want people to know one thing. Your darkest moments never define you. You are more than your worst day–in all worlds. Thank you to my real life friend for reminding me that I am more…so much more than a few bad days. Thank you to the residents who touch my life as well.

Be kind to one another and I’ll try to learn to do that more each day too. 🙂

Credits

Head–LeLutka –Simone by Jaden Art (jadenart)
Body–Maitreya –Lara by Onyx LeShelle
Ears–Mandala –Simple Ears by 菊之介王子 (kikunosuke.eel)
Nails–arcade–Spooky Salon–Thirst–at the arcade this month
Hair–Clawtooth –Giselle by Bubbles Clawtooth
Lingerie–Erratic –Priscilla by erratic (erratic.rain)
Eyes–IKON–Charm Eyes by Ikon Innovia
Skin–DeeTalez –Claudia by deetalez.com (steffi.villota)

 

 

Down

Down

“Nothing can make injustice just but mercy.” Robert Frost

I love Robert Frost. He’s my favorite poet. I remember reading his poems on the coldest days. They always gave me a bit of hope. Even today, I find his words hopeful. Sometimes everyone needs a bit of hope and mercy in life. There’s that line of needing a break. If you ever get that small tiny break, you should embrace it and cherish it. They don’t always happen. Also never forget those who give you a break in the end and show you a bit of mercy, because they may just hope that you do the same for them in return.

A long time ago, I had a resident tell me that everyone at some point everyone contemplates leaving second life. People take breaks. People come back. People leave. I am not alone in this. After 3 years, I did just that….contemplate leaving seriously for about a week. Some would think it was due to not handling a stressful situation. However, it wasn’t. When my mental health falters and I reach a breaking point, I have every right to step away or quit–when or if I deem necessary–without explanation. Now that being said, I did not walk away. I took care of myself in my real life. I continue to do so. I felt misunderstood, judged, and criticized. Then, I also had real life events happen and I was ready to wave the white flag and just quit to take care of myself.

In the end, I felt down. Even if some things were true, it’s never an easy thing to hear. I’m still recovering from just living life, last week. I’m sure there will be a more up beat blog on the horizon. Everyone goes through difficult periods in their life–this is mine. I’ve been shown mercy, which made me hopeful that things would get better.

Thanks for sticking with me. Despite all of that, there are some wonderful events on the grid–the arcade, collabor88, and the skin fair is soon to open. I spent some time at the arcade with a friend of mine. I was able to find this wonderful outfit. For styling information, please see my credits below.

Hair–LeLutka –Adrianna by Thora Charron
Top–CX–The Iron Maiden by Cᴇʀʙᴇʀᴜs (kamayari)
Panty–CX–The Iron Maiden by Cᴇʀʙᴇʀᴜs (kamayari)
Corset–CX–The Iron Maiden by Cᴇʀʙᴇʀᴜs (kamayari)
Gloves–CX–The Iron Maiden Rare by Cᴇʀʙᴇʀᴜs (kamayari)

Mistakes

 

Mistakes

 

 

“Do not fear mistakes. You will know failure. Continue to reach out.” Benjamin Franklin
I found this quote at a time contemplating my own mistakes in all worlds. Benjamin Franklin simply meant that mistakes and failures don’t ruin us. They give us opportunities to grow and move on from them. They teach us something about ourselves good and bad. I made a mistake this week, but not the kind where you left your keys on the counter instead of the key ring. It was this blaring mistake with awful consequences. I ended up hurting my friend in the process, which I’ll always be sorry for. I never want to hurt people, yet I do.
Instead of self pity for my own mistakes, I’d rather take a minute to thank people instead, because life is not always about me. Life is about people. The struggles and adversity that people endure becomes a piece of each person–yet does not define them. I’m thankful for a friend who taught me that lesson. Thank you Yumi. Sometimes it is the kindness that people show to one another. They seem to be happy by making others happy. Thank you Manky. It’s the people who spend endless amount of time getting to know their closest friend and teaching them about editing photos—and even how you work this bloody thing called second life. I wouldn’t know how to edit my clothes without you–or how to dress at times. Thank you Matzu. Then, there are those whose life is defined by silliness and a willingness to say anything in hopes of a laugh. The ones who look up events and make you excited. Thank you Kira. Finally, it’s the role-players who lift the spirit of a person behind a screen struggling. I’ll leave that one nameless. I’m thankful for this person none the less. Thank you to the friends who have kept me company in the late hours/early morning by inviting me out to see them dj and host. I love supporting people who love music just as much as I do. I get to shake my booty with the likes of Stormy, Pixie, Lilly, River and Byte. Thank you Mattuh for your funny things that you send me. Thank you Pizzy for sending me a Christmas card on a tough day. You are all an important part of my second life.
I know that all of these people have real lives. They have their own unique struggles. Yet despite all of that, they make time for others in some way. Hopefully by my own screw ups, I learn to appreciate people more and make others feel listened to–and validated. Maybe just maybe, I will learn to whine less and be there for others more. Hopefully, I will learn to shut my mouth and just listen. I even bought a mask to help me with that problem! I’m not a perfect person. I’m flawed. I make mistakes, but I have a good heart–or at least I’d like to think so. We’re all bound to make an error in judgement, but like Benjamin Franklin said those mistakes don’t ruin us. They give us an opportunity to grow and to become better. I can only hope that I am there more for others because the world is bigger than Violet. I hear you. I see you. You are not alone. I’m sending every one of you a virtual hug. Be kind and good to yourselves in your waking hours, because I do care about you.
Finally, I get to talk a little bit about the above photo. I went to Uber two days ago with one of my closest friends. We found this top and mask from Vinyl. I just had to buy it. The mask is called Neo Meddy Mask. The bra and turtleneck are called Scars. Both are available in multiple colors and designs. You will just have to check them out for yourselves!
See credits down below for styling.
Be kind to one another. Cheers.
Violet XOXO
Credits
Head–LeLutka –Simone Bento by Thora Charron
Body–Maitreya –Lara by Onyx LeShelle
Hair–Doe –Sugar by Helyanwe Vindaloo
Ears–Mandala –Simple Ears by 菊之介王子 (kikunosuke.eel)
Jeans–Foxes –Skinny Jeans by Tyr Sinister (tyr.rozenblum)
Eyes–IKON–Charm Eyes by Ikon Innovia
Mask–Vinyl –Neo Meddy Mask by lιттle тoaѕт (sukoshitosuto)
Bra–Vinyl –Scars Bra by lιттle тoaѕт (sukoshitosuto)
Turtleneck–Vinyl –Scars Turtleneck by lιттle тoaѕт (sukoshitosuto)
Hands–Vista –Prohand Bento by VistaMesh

Wishes

 

Wishes

 

 

“My best friend is the man who in wishing me well wishes it for my sake.” Aristotle

I’ve been away for what seems like an eternity from flickr, twitter, and just social media in general. I’m sort of back.I went through a medical procedure and I walked away with the flu. I’ve had a very long two weeks. I am still not completely well. However, I felt the need to do something for myself that didn’t involve  a doctor’s office. Please forgive another short blog.

Sometimes in life, everything goes completely wrong. Flowers delivered on the wrong date. Packages not being left where they should be. Friends fighting. Worst of all, coming down with the flu was incredibly difficult–after an invasive medical procedure.Among other things, I cared for others while sick. I’m ready to throw in the towel. Someone reminded me this too shall pass, this week. Maybe it will.

In the mean time, I took a moment for myself. I went to Rewind A 90’s throwback event. I bought these wonderful shades from Izzie’s. Then, I paired it with this wonderful dress and hair, which can be found at this month’s Collabor88–one of my favorite events. It made me smile a bit, which was wonderful.

So maybe you’re craving a shopping fix, having a bad day, or maybe the Valentine’s Day blues, then head over to the latest events on the grid for a quick pick me up. For more information about styling, see my credits down below.

Be kind to one another.

Cheers,

Violet xoxo

Credits

Head–LeLutka –Simone by Thora Charron
Body–Maitreya –Lara by Onyx LeShelle
Hair–Pr!tty –Hayley by Karla Marama
Dress–Candy Doll–Kiara by Jaessie Spano (jacinda.jaxxon)
Sunglasses–Izzies–90’s Glasses by Izzie Button

Seeing Red

Seeing Red

“Tears come from the heart and not from the brain.” Leonardo da Vinci

I have been kind of quiet on flickr lately. Honestly, I’ve been going through things with my health. It has made me see red. I’ve been angry, but underneath anger is really great sadness–advice from a really great friend so long ago. I have to go in for medical testing next Tuesday and I will be away. I will be taking a hiatus from my blog, since there’s stuff I have to do for the testing–yadda, yadda, yadda.
I’m going to make this short and get straight to the point of this awesome outfit. I found this dress from Erratic at Uber. It’s a neat dress and comes with three options for styling. You can wear it three ways, which is nice. Then, I headed over to the epiphany and won this hair from Doe. Finally, my last stop, I ran over to ROMP and discovered this cute collar from Kibitz called hearty leather collar. I paired it with some panty hose from erratic…..which came from a previous lingerie set. Voila!! I made an outfit with all the latest and hottest events on the grid.
I’m sorry this blog post can’t be longer. I’ll miss all of my lovely readers. I’ll be back, before you know it.
Cheers,
Violet XOXO
Credits
Head–Lelutka –Simone by Thora Charron
Body–Maitreya–Lara by Onyx LeShelle
Dress–Erratic –Irina by erratic (erratic.rain)
Hair-Doe–Shannon by Helyanwe Vindaloo
Collar–Kibitz-Hearty Leather Collar by Kathya Szczepanskis
Eyes–IKON–Charm by Ikon Innovia
Skin–DeeTalez–Jolie by deetalez.com (steffi.villota)
I missed the cut off date for Romp. Sorry fellow readers. Hopefully, the item will be in stores soon. RL got the best of me.

Glow

Glow

“Love yourself enough to apologize, forgive, and move forward. It is the most freeing thing you can do.” By Me

It’s a new year, which means a lot of people are making resolutions to get fit and moving. Collabor88 was no stranger to this theme. As a result, designers made all kinds of goodies like yoga pants, sports bras, and even exercise equipment.Once you leave this event, you’ll have everything you need to get inspired for a little fitness program of your own.

Generally, I don’t make too many resolutions myself. I’d like to move a little more like everyone else. The only wish I have for the new year is to be healthier, happier, and kinder. I’d like to love a bit more and show more compassion towards others. I’d like to give to the world–what I need in return. I guess….. I’d like to be a better version of myself. I think lots of people wish that too. Now contemplating all those things, I do have resolutions.

Speaking of  fitness, I felt inspired, so I made an exercise scene of my own for this photo. I found the weights, exercise ball, and yoga mat at Collabor88. The yoga mat comes with a ton of poses. Kalopsia made all of these items. I love this store and I have so many things from them. I always go back to them for those little things that make a home. I can’t gush over them enough. The yoga mat comes with nine different textures: wine, purple, charcoal, pizza, green, beige, soul, pink, and blue. The exercise ball also has texture options of green, blue, and lemon. There’s even a cute little bag available, which says don’t sweat sparkle (not featured in the above photo). I would highly recommend checking them out.

Then, I went to Kustom9 with one of my good friends. We found this adorable workout set from Pumpkin, which is another one of my favorite companies. I have so many pieces from them. I’m happy to see them participating in events. The shirt is called a layered crop top tee. It’s on sale in gray, gray with a barbie written on it, green, black with the logo for thrasher magazine, and plain black. There’s a choice of gray, pink, red, green, orange and gray leaf print, and plain black.  I’m wearing the gray shirt with the Barbie print and pink sweatpants. I really love the detail in the shirt and the pants. For more information, check out my credits at the bottom of this post.

I had so much fun. I really enjoyed the yoga poses, decorating, and dressing up for this picture.I hope that you find something that intrigues or inspires you. I wish you all a happy and safe New Year. I hope that you accomplish goals, fall in love, and have great health for 2017….maybe even make some great memories along the way.

Be kind to one another.

Cheers,

Violet XOXO

Credits

Head–LeLutka–Simone Bento head by Thora Charron
Body–Maitreya –Lara by Onyx LeShelle
Hands–Vista –Prohand Bento by VistaMesh
Shirt–Pumpkin–Layered Crop Tee by Mr. Awesome (yukio.osei)–Kustom9
Pants–Pumpkin –Sweatpants by Mr. Awesome (yukio.osei)–Kustom9
Shoes–Flite –Lowtop Ducks by Liam OJ Simpson (liamcole)
Hair–Magika –Drive by Sabina Gully
Decor

Sign–Kalopsia –Kali’s shelf by Honey Beaubeau Lacey (isabeau.baragula)
Exercise ball–Kalopsia –Kali’s yoga Ball by Honey Beaubeau Lacey (isabeau.baragula)
Weights–Kalopsia –Kali’s weights by Honey Beaubeau Lacey (isabeau.baragula)
Yoga Mat–Kalopsia –Kali’s Yoga Bat by Honey Beaubeau Lacey (isabeau.baragula)
Cat Light–+Half Deer+–Slumber Lamps by Halo (halogen.magic)
Jar–keke –Snow jar by ᴋᴇᴀɴ ᴋᴇʟʟʏ (kean.kelly)–(gacha) check marketplace and main store
Table–MudHoney –Lenore Table by Rayvn Hynes (gacha)–check marketplace and main store