Temperance

 

Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word happy would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness. It is far better take things as they come along with patience and equanimity. Carl Jung

 

Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word happy would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness. It is far better take things as they come along with patience and equanimity. Carl Jung

Some summers are good and some summers are difficult. But, without the hard difficult times, you can’t fully appreciate the good. Life is a balance of give and/or take, yet there are times when that balance seems to be off–more bad than good or more good than bad. Hardship can teach us a lot about ourselves though, despite wanting to put the experience in a box and never look at it.
This past week has been immensely difficult. I haven’t been the best version of myself lately, in any world. In my last blog post, I talked about how easy it is to lash out at people, in the midst of pain. It makes things more difficult a times. I’ve had a mix of good and bad in both worlds. I felt pain, but won something in real life. I had happy moments inworld, but followed with sadness. It’s the balance of things. I thought at times in my life that bad things happened, so I wouldn’t become too happy. As though, happiness must be muddied by sadness or disappointment. As an adult, I realize it’s all about balance in the world. It teaches us to appreciate the good even more so.
I haven’t felt like talking much inworld. I’d rather tell you that I’m happy than tell someone that I’m sad. I’d rather put on a happy face, even if I’ve been secretly crying. I’d rather not show that side at times and carry on about my day in second life at times, even when things in every world effect me.
Despite my attempts to hide how I feel, people can see through me and past me. Sometimes it’s strangers… and sometimes it’s friends. Yet, if you tell everyone that its fine and you’re happy every day, they will know the truth and sense it. Second life has taught me that lesson. It’s one of the biggest lessons that I’ve learned. In my waking hours, I will tell friends and family that I’m okay and everything is fine. But what I say and how my body responds are two different things. You can’t hide physical problems sometimes, and …yet…. here in this virtual space, you can’t hide emotions either. Give and take, life does that. There’s always a balance.
In my moments of finding balance, I came to the conclusion that Temperance is the perfect card for this post. Tempering involves heating and cooling, heat and water to create steel. It’s a balance to create something even stronger. It’s also the card for healing. It’s exactly what I’m going through right now. I am balancing the good with the bad, such is life. And I am definitely trying to heal. I’m even trying to balance emotions with responsibilities. My blog post is a little later than I intended. I do apologize for it not being sooner.
Speaking of blogging, …. I’ve been around the grid buying everything in my desperate attempt at retail therapy. Nothing helps a soul like a new outfit. Collabor88 just opened and so did The Seasons Story. My dress is from Eliavah which is available at the Season Story. I can not believe how many options come with the full pack. She truly is amazing and works incredibly hard. There are so many options for textures that …there are just too many to list. Alisha (the girl on the left) is wearing the outfit by Ison, which is now available at Collabor88. If you like either of these outfits, please check out my credits down below.
As always, Be Kind To One Another.
Cheers,
Violet XOXO
Credits
Violet
Nails–avanti–Zoe Nails by Elle ღ Avanti (intoxicate)–Vanity July 2018
Rings–avanti –Zoe Rings by Elle ღ Avanti (intoxicate)–Vanity July 2018
Dress—Eliavah –Sunrise Dress by e l i a v a h ღ (eliavahazaleia)–Season Story July 2018
Hair–Collabor88–Hera by Nova Faerye–Collabor88 July 2018
Earrings–Avanti— Porscha Earrings by Elle ღ Avanti (intoxicate)–mainstore
Alisha (Blond to the left)
skirt–ISON–Mokatana Skirt by Harry Hyx–Collabor88 July 2018
Shirt–Tetra –Mokatana shirt NataPorolo–collabor88 July 2018
Hair–Little Bones –Hera by Nova Faerye—Collabor88 July 2018
Laces–Phedora –Swan laces by Celena Galli
Pearls–Stockholm&Lima –Princess Pearls by ѕуяυρ ωαn кєnσвι (surrealia.anatine)
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The Devil

The greatest evil is physical pain. Saint Augustine

 

The greatest evil is physical pain. Saint Augustine

I’ve wanted to do a picture depicting a fight with pain. It’s something that a lot of people live with every single day and I am part of the group who deals with pain on a daily basis. There are some seriously strong souls in the world who deal with this struggle every single day. It’s not easy.. In my own personal journey, I’ve learned to really look towards those people who struggle like myself or worse with a high amount of respect. They’ve taught me to be a better person and really how to deal with my own evil demons that I fight every day.

In the major arcana, the devil card represents the negative forces that restrain you. It’s the fears, addictions, and impulses in each of us. We have the power to over come them, but the devil controls us–when we allow him to. Much like this card, pain can control our emotions, when we allow it to. We have the power to breath and take a minute for ourselves. We have the power to over come pain by allowing positivity in our life, recognizing the pain but not giving it the power to control our emotions and behaviors. It’s easy to lash out at people, when you’re in pain. It takes strength to walk away, when people upset you, rather then unleashing your anger on the people around you. The people who are around you will ultimately be the ones that you’ll need on your hardest of days. So you can’t let the devil completely beat you, rather you have to fight its power with your own. And I am lucky that medical intervention may be able to help me fight.

I’m lucky in the sense that I have a chance at beating my pain with surgery. I’m bringing this up because I will be scheduling surgery soon. And I will be away from my blog for a little while. I will inform everyone of that information, as soon as it is available to me. But for now, in the evening, I am usually fighting the good fight against it.

In the past few months or so, my own pain has knocked me down. It has stolen my time. It has stolen my emotions. It has stolen me completely. In the above photo, it represents the evil that is pain. And I am fighting it in a losing battle. The thing about chronic pain is that sometimes you don’t beat it. You just call a draw at the point of exhaustion. Then you wake up again and deal with it all over again. It’s draining, frustrating, and infuriating. I do not wish physical pain on my worst enemy. It’s bigger than I am. It blinds me to reason and steals my voice in the haze of medications. I could never put into words the true evil that pain is. It is indeed a fight with the devil.

Every person fights their own demons. This one is mine. It is second life in which that I can artistically create an image that depicts exactly how I feel. That girl is me.. that skeleton is my own hell on Earth. I know that many, many, many people go through there own battles to include pain. In banding together, we lose the empty room and find others just like ourselves. This picture is dedicated to every person with their own demons who fight them every single day. You are not invisible. And… you’re not fighting alone. My picture doesn’t show the people behind me, fighting alongside me. BUT, they are there. Keep fighting the good fight.

Now to help me fight the good fight, some very wonderful designers created some fantastic things. My skeleton is from a previous gacha by clueless. My dress is by Eliavah, which is available at the crystal heart fair. I waited to blog this for a little while because getting into the event was difficult. I really do love this outfit. My stockings are from Blueberry and my boots are available at !Rebel Hope’s mainstore. Finally, my hair is from stealthic, which goes by the awesome name of Sensual. My pose is available at this round of the Pose Fair by Bauhaus Movement. I can not gush enough about Eliavah’s awesome work and Bauhaus Movement’s sick poses. If you’re interested in any of these items, please check out my credits.

Before I end this, I want people to know that I take drugs in the evening. My pain has increased. So I’m asking everyone to please have patience with me. My thought process is slowed and I’m not always at my best in the evening unfortunately.  Thank you.

Be kind to one another.

Cheers,

Violet xoxo

Credits

Boots–!Rebel Hope –Gossip Mesh Platforms by Rebel Hope
Blindfold with pins–.Shi. & Messiah –Lazarus by Joy . החמְשִׂ 石毓文 (joy.laperriere)
Mouth Harness–Shi. & Messiah –Lazarus by Joy . החמְשִׂ 石毓文 (joy.laperriere)
Dress- Eliavah –Everbloom Dress by e l i a v a h ღ (eliavahazaleia)–Crystal heart fair July 2018
Claws–{CX}–Shredder Claws–by Cᴇʀʙᴇʀᴜs (kamayari)

 

Decor/pose

Skull–Curemore–Gashadokuro by kaori domínguez (kaorinette)
Pose–Bauhaus Movement–Kunoichi Blades prop by LouLou Hill (loulou.teichmann)–Pose Fair 2018
backdrop-Minimal -Hell back door by Ørs (ors.quan)

The Fool

You can fool all the people some of the time, and some of the people all the time, but you cannot fool all the people all the time. Abraham Lincoln

 

You can fool all the people some of the time, and some of the people all the time, but you cannot fool all the people all the time. Abraham Lincoln

Story… The money, drugs, and jewels, what a fool I was to think that I could stay. But only this fool chose to run away, knowing the chase always has to end.

Hello everyone!! I hope everyone in the States are planning a fun filled fourth of July. Normally, my blog posts are usually a bit quick, but I had to take some time for myself this past week–one to prepare for the holiday and second I needed rest. So I do apologize for my blog coming a little later in the day, than I intended.

This past week has been a wonderful whirl wind of second life for me. I really couldn’t be any more happier than I am right now. I owe that to the people around me. It’s nice to be able to come into this virtual space on a rough day and have your spirit immediately lifted.

Unfortunately, I do want to reiterate that my health hasn’t been perfect, so blogging has not been at the forefront of my brain. I’ve had to take it easy the last few weeks. I’m still making blog posts, but they’re just a little slower than I’d like them to be. We all do what we can.

BUT, the grid has so many wonderful events from uber to famished.. to even rewind. I know this past round of rewind was great. I wan’t able to blog it quick enough, but it’s also an event to explore. Speaking of Uber and Famished….. The blazer, shorts, corset, and even hair come from uber. My sunglasses and rings are available at Fameshed. I really love all of these items together. Together, they help to create something truly special.

When taking this picture, I felt like a drug lord, so I came up with a little blurb with a backstory. I always think that pictures should convey a story or a feeling. It should make you feel something. If pictures don’t give you any sort of feeling, then I haven’t done my job :D.

I had so much fun during that shoot. In the past, I role played a female gangster.. I had a lot of fun with it, so it’s nice to be able to capture something that I portrayed inworld. Second life provides me with an artistic escape into my own thoughts, desires, and playfulness. So this picture means a lot to me.

Continuing on with that role play inspired picture, I picked The Fool from the tarot card deck to represent this particular gangster fueled picture. Even gangsters have to realize that you can’t fool people all the time. In the end, you will be found out and on the run. Yet in the end, running has to end eventually. So I deemed myself a fool on the run with cash and clothes at hand.

I hope you’ve enjoyed this blog and photo as much as I have. Thank you for following me and your continued support me. I hope you all have a wonderful safe fun filled holiday with beautiful fireworks and yummy food with friends and family. If you like anything featured in the above photo, please check out my credits.

Before I go, I want to mention the pose fair. Bauhaus movement makes INCREDIBLE poses and I will never stop gushing about their poses or their pictures. I have been a long fan of theirs, since I started taking pictures. It’s one of the few companies that I will buy the entire fatpack of poses. I have another company that’s near and dear to my heart, which is CUCA Designs. I love both these companies, but you will have to wait to see what I do with her poses. Please check out the pose fair. It’s an incredible event for pose creators. Okay and now, I’m done and it’s time to PARTYYYYYYYY.

As always, be kind to one another.

Cheers,

Violet XOXO

Credits

Hair–#foxy–Oceana–by Liza Broono–Uber June 2018
blazer–David Heather–Nomi by David C. Heather (gianni.broda)–Uber June 2018
Corset–David Heather–Nomi by David C. Heather (gianni.broda)–Uber June 2018
Shorts–David Heather –Nomi by David C. Heather (gianni.broda)–Uber June 2018
Necklace-PL$H–420 Leaf chain by B (illllehctim)—Free
Heels–Phedora –Cynthia by Δαιμονισμένη Πατάτα (celena.galli)
Sunglasses–zoom–Yourun by Jonas Acanthus–FaMESHEd July 2018
Rings–Real Evil –Dragon rings by RealEvil (crashnoww)–FaMESHED July 2018
Earrings–Yummy –Stardust Earrings by Polyester Partridge

Pose–Bauhaus Movement –The out by LouLou Hill (loulou.teichmann)–Pose Fair July 2018

Phone–E.marie –Text back phone by . E м i . (emilianamarie)

Cash–NikoTIN–Dealer Kitchen by  Raph Dirval

Suitcase light pink–Tentacio –by May Tolsen

Panties–Dead Dollz–The party one by Kiddo Oh

Dark pink suitcase–Black Bantam— Holdable vintage tweed luggage

Backdrop–Foxcity –Photo booth club black by Satomi Masukami

 

 

 

 

Love is Love

 

It doesn't matter if you're black, white, gay, straight, come from different countries, different language... every single person is significant and is meaningful. Michael Franti

This blog post is dedicated to all those who are part of the LGBTQAI community ♥

It doesn’t matter if you’re black, white, gay, straight, come from different countries, different language… every single person is significant and is meaningful. Michael Franti

This blog post took me a little longer to do. I haven’t felt very well this month, so I’m just now putting out a blog post about pride. I hope that everyone is having a great Pride month. In world, Pride is currently raising money for the Trevor Project. It’s a great cause. It’s so important that you go, donate, and purchase items at this month’s Pride event inworld. The Trevor project helps kids who are in crisis within the LGBTQ community. They do some really great work and I fully support them. So please get out there and donate.

To help me create this great photo, I teleported two great friends of mine that have been steady rocks for me. I’ve gone through a lot with those two people, so it made sense to include them. Christian is rocking the pride cape like the superhero that he is, which is available at Riot’s mainstore. Me, I’m wearing the group gift from Villena, which is available at Kustom9 and Poette (the gorgeous blond to my left.. not right oops) is staying cool in this romper available at Summer Fest.

I want to go into Summer Fest because I spent so much money there. I almost spent over my uber budget. So I have to say, it is a great event. I bought a lot of items. Almost everything you  see in this photo is from summer fest–the house, compass, surf board, and ice cream machine.. right to the sandals by Eliavah. I really can’t rave enough about this event enough. I basically redecorated my house with all new furniture from Summer Fest. So i have to thank the designers for really creating some very special items. I do wish that men had a few more options though. I’d like to go shopping with my guy friends 😀 . But, there are some great pieces of furniture. Also, this outfit includes items from various events including: Cosmopolitan, Good Vibes, and Kustom9. For more info, please read down below.

Finally, I’d like to go into this quote a little bit. I truly believe in this way of thinking. Everyone is significant and important. I’ve heard people say that they didn’t feel important. Sometimes what you give people isn’t money, or stuff–those things are nice. However, the relationships that we form in the course of our life have a way of impacting the other people around us. The love from friends, family, spouses, and even strangers can change a persons world and outlook on life. So you are important… just by existing in this world, you are meaningful, loved, and needed. The LGBTQ community has endured hardships and scrutiny. So it’s important to appreciate how far the world has come, but continue to fight the good fight. And… I also think it’s important to tell everyone that they matter in this world, because you do.

You matter. You’re important. Things will get better.

/me gives everyone a huge gigantic warm hug, filled with love and care.

Remember be kind to one another and check out my credits for Decor and Styling

Credits

Hair–Foxy –North by Liza Broono–Kustom9 June 2018
Necklace–Supernatural –Lara–by Sombria Baily–Cosmopolitan June 2018
Sunglasses–Zoom–Daalin Glasses by Jonas Acanthus–Good Vibes Event
Shirt–::Villena::–tank Crop Top–Group gift by Villena (villena.swansen)–Kustom9 June 2018
Sandals–Eliavah–Oasis Baresandals–by e l i a v a h ღ (eliavahazaleia) Summer Fest June 2018

Christian
Cape–Riot –Pride flag cape by Riot (rcade)—available at the mainstore for the month of June 2018

Poette
Hair–Little Bones–Solar by Nova Faerye
Romper–Vanilla Bae –Coco romper by Vanill A Honi (hopey.honi)–Good Vibes June 2018

Furniture

Ice cream vending machine–Dust Bunny –Ice cream vending machine by Noel Bunny (lxlnoel)–summer fest June 2018
Surf board–Blue Sky –Wall surf board by Luca Python–summer fest June 2018
Wall Compass–Blue Sky –Wind Rose bronze by Luca Python–summer fest June 2018
chair–++Half Deer++— Summer Fruit Lounge chair by Halo (halogen.magic)–summer fest June 2018
Cabana–Brocante –Summer Cabana Pink by ValiantCo–summer fest June 2018

The Empress

 

There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved. George Sand

 

 

Bouquet–LODE–Accessory Matthiola Bouquet by Chirzaka RV (chirzaka.vlodovic)–older gacha item
Choker–.aisling.–Karishma by Druunah Esharham—older gacha
Necklace–.aisling.–Karishma by Druunah Esharham—older gacha
Tears–.aisling.–Karishma by Druunah Esharham—older gacha
Tiara–.aisling.–Karishma by Druunah Esharham—older gacha
Veil–.aisling.–Karishma by Druunah Esharham—older gacha
Gown–Dead Dollz–Bridal Gown Rare– by Kiddo Oh–Arcade June 2018
Hair–Doux–Julie by Dᴀᴠɪᴅ Cᴏᴏᴘᴇʀ (dam1710)
Pose–Nantra–Follies by Nancoix Urquan–Vintage Fair 2018–soon to be in her mainstore.

 

The Fool

 

The lesson is that you can still make mistakes and be forgiven. Robert Downey, Jr.

 

The lesson is that you can still make mistakes and be forgiven. Robert Downey, Jr.

Opps, it seems that I’ve fallen, while snapping this picture. I was hoping my audience would forgive me for a non stunning posed picture. Everyone makes mistakes, right? Right??? It’s okay though. I’ve forgiven myself and taken this opportunity to laugh at myself.

I’m starting to embrace humor in my pictures. I was chatting with someone one day. They commented on my pictures not being funny or fun. I did some self reflections and realized that they were right. It’s nice to change up your pictures or old habits. You may even learn something new about yourself in the process. It’s never too late to try something new. And I definitely wanted to try something different. Maybe even laugh at myself a little.

But, I could never have been given this opportunity without the help of some very special designers. I visited the vintage fair recently and found this really great set from a company that’s new to me. Kei’s Spot is the creator of this 1950’s inspired bath house. Even though it’s not the exclusive at the vintage fair, it’s still a great piece. Here’s why, many times I look at backdrops and buy them, but they do sit in my inventory. This type of backdrop isn’t really just for pictures. I can actually use this as decor on my land. I love buying something that will double as a photo prop and also use it multiple times for different purposes. I really hope that more companies start to make a backdrops that could double as decor. My picture would never have the same feeling with out Kei’s spot.. so thank you so much for creating this fun product!!

Moving along to my bathing suit, as many people know, I’m having a love affair with Eliavah products. She created this wonderful bathing suit for Frou Frou. I absolutely adore all the options that are available. With the options of a shiny suit, or more of a matte textured suit, I had to try something a bit different. I love this company because I’m always tempted to try new colors, designs, or patterns. There are 33 available options for the swimsuit. that’s a lot of options. The fatpack does include additional options only available with in it. There’s 27 available options. BUT, she also included a hud to change the ribbons as well. So there are a ton of ways to customize your bathing suit. I can’t rave about this company enough, but she definitely works hard and it shows.

Finally, I’d like to talk about my tattoo and hair. I found this hair at equal10 by Doux. It’s not the exclusive event item, but I knew it would be perfect for this photo. My tattoo is from Pichi. I like to throw in tattoos sometimes. It’s a nice change and everyone needs a bit of change sometimes. It’s available at the vintage fair and it is an item exclusive. I really hope that you visit these events on the grid. There are some great products out there.

Well I’m a bit hungry, so that’s all for now. I hope you all have fun shopping.

Be Kind to yourself and others.

Cheers,

Violet

Credits

Hair–Doux –Maya–by Dᴀᴠɪᴅ Cᴏᴏᴘᴇʀ (dam1710)–Equal10 June 2018
Swimsuit–Eliavah–Oasis Swimsuit by e l i a v a h ღ (eliavahazaleia)–Frou Frou June 2018
Tattoo–Pichi –pretty blossom tattoo by . p i c h i . (zxxrysa.magic)–Vintage fair June 2018

 

Set
Laundry–Kei Spot –1950’s Laundry by Kei (keiko.zoon)–vintage fair june 2018
Bathhouse–Kei Spot –Bathhouse by Kei (keiko.zoon)–vintage fair june 2018

The Hanged Man

"I just love mermaids. I was a mermaid in my past life. I just feel it when I go in the sea. I just feel a connection there between me, and the water, and the fish - they speak to me - and the shells - they ring out to me." Ella Henderson

 

“I just love mermaids. I was a mermaid in my past life. I just feel it when I go in the sea. I just feel a connection there between me, and the water, and the fish – they speak to me – and the shells – they ring out to me.” Ella Henderson

I’ve taken pictures for a really long time in second life, or at least it feels like a long time. I’ve always wanted to take a mermaid photo, but I didn’t want to take this photo until I could do it justice. So I was really excited to feel like.. I’m getting to the point where I feel able and capable.

It’s always nice to feel capable. In the past, I would shy away from photos that were too difficult for me to take. But, I’m growing and I’m so happy people are growing with me. I was so giddy to put this picture up on flickr. I’m very proud of it. I had an image in my mind of what I wanted it to look like and this is exactly like I pictured.

I’ve always loved the beauty of mermaids. They’re mysterious and gorgeous. I also love the ocean. I’ve spent most of my summers near water. So I can definitely relate to being called to the ocean. I’m much calmer and relaxed, after I go. It reminds me that the world is so much bigger than I am.

But, sometimes people can remind you how the big the world is too.  I am very lucky to have the friends and people who care about me inworld. I have leaned on my friends here in sl this week. I am so incredibly thankful for the time people have given me. I’m glad the world is big, because I’ve surrounded myself with some really great people who pulled me through some really tough things in the past and present. I’m thankful for the shoulder and time. I’m thankful for the role play… well I’m just really thankful.

Blogging hasn’t been the easiest these last few weeks. Life can just be rough. So my blog posts have been slowing down a bit. I needed some breathing room inworld to relax with good friends and do some fun silly things. Sometimes when family stresses you out… you just need to go inworld and be a mermaid. I was for a few days.

To help me fantasize about something else for a few hours, I headed over to the arcade. This entire outfit came from the arcade. My top and gems are from Birdy. My tail is from Belle Epoque and my hair is from a previous gacha by Tableau Vivant. My entire surroundings were created by {anc.} products. I love {anc.}. I always enjoy going to their mainstore and shopping. It’s always so dreamy there.

Before I go, I want to talk about The Hanged Man card in the Tarot card deck. This card was the inspiration for my blog post and upside down photo of a mermaid. I wanted to place her in the water rather than land. It’s my second life artistic interpretation. “This is the card of ultimate surrender, of being suspended in time and of martyrdom and sacrifice to the greater good. This is the archetype to meditate on to help break old patterns of behaviour and bad habits that restrict you.” https://www.biddytarot.com/tarot-card-meanings/major-arcana/hanged-man/

I can relate to this card, but I think everyone can at one time or another. Right now, I am suspended in time, before everything changes. And who doesn’t have bad habits? There’s a few that I could break. Anyway, this was part of the inspiration for my blog post.

Please check out the arcade and maybe even step into {anc}.

Be kind to one another.

Cheers,

Violet XOXO

credits

Bracelets–Belle Epoque –Ocean’s Daughter by Janire Van Belle (janire.coba)–Arcade June 2018
Tail–belle Epoque–Ocean’s Daughter by Janire Van Belle (janire.coba)–Arcade June 2018– tail is rare.
Body gems/Bikini bottom–Birdy–Siren by Tyr Sinister (tyr.rozenblum)–Arcade June 2018
Hair–Tableau Vivant–Editorial underwater by M4ri1yn Magic–old gacha item

Ripple–Anc.–ripple soybean oil by aki69
Fish–Anc–I’m a planet gacha by aki69
bubbles–Anc–Bubbles by aki69
Ocean dust–Anc–Ocean dust by aki69
Sparks–Anc.–leaping sparks by aki69
Thunder–Anc— by aki69
Ripple oil-Anc– by aki69